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XUL
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29 and 48
#22253305 - 09/17/15 08:44 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I am with a 48 year old woman at the moment. We live together and we have no intentions on getting married. We both agreed that one day I will find a younger girl and attempt to have a family.
With that said, I can sense that she feels cautious about our relationship. She wants me - and I want her, but age is a fact. I want the chance to have children like she did, and she supports that, but the thing is.. I don't want to break her heart. Since the Victorian age has past and new liberal ideas are free to be had, new age groups date each other and new doors open. Despite these new vistas, there are no rules and little wisdom to be handed down. Nobody can tell me of their experience with older women and love.
Indeed, we love each other, but what happens when I finally find a love that I want to settle in with and have a family? My 48 year old girlfriend says that she will support it, but will I hurt her instead? Does she lack the courage of her convictions? Are her words true?
I don't know much about relationships to begin with, let alone relationships with large age gaps.
What do I feel?
I feel I will love this woman forever -- even after I find a younger girl to have a family with. But I wonder if I will hurt her so much that it might kill her.
What say you, Shroomery?
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zappaisgod
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Re: 29 and 48 [Re: XUL]
#22253321 - 09/17/15 08:47 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Play it as it lies.
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Ms Eva
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Re: 29 and 48 [Re: XUL]
#22258856 - 09/19/15 02:41 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hi XUL,
Sounds like a complicated situation... How long have you guys been together?
You may have to go on lots of dates or at least get out and about on your own to find what you're looking for. A real indication of how it will affect her is how she reacts when you start that process. In the meantime, have you asked her directly what she forsees that she'll feel when that happens?
Also, just curious: have you guys considered polyamory as an option?
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Re: 29 and 48 [Re: Ms Eva]
#22258900 - 09/19/15 03:14 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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It doesn't sound like you want to be together *like that* but it sounds like she's being mature about it. It also sounds like this isn't the first time she has been in this type of situation. No reason to stress about it you both know what's up so as long as you can stand each other why change anything? Just make sure to be active socially and you'll end up finding someone closer to your own age and falling in love again. No rush.
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Amanita86
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Re: 29 and 48 [Re: XUL]
#22258916 - 09/19/15 03:29 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Pass her off to me..
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