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TheMovement
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So its officially over.
#22220489 - 09/11/15 07:15 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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My girlfriend of 3 months just broke up with me. There was no warning or anything, every time I talked to her about how she felt about our relationship she always said she was happy with it and loved being my boyfriend.
It was a polyamorous relationship, my first, though neither of us had found other partners yet. I'm only 22, but I could see a future with this girl. I would want to have a family with her (Not yet of course). I guess that is why I am so upset over this.
It started off with her breaking up with her boyfriend, because she knew she was polyamorous and he would not open up the relationship. Well, they broke up after we first kissed. She also happened to be living with him, so she moved in with me when he kicked her out. So we ended up seeing each other all the time and lost a key phase of a relationship IMO. By moving too fast we may robbed ourselves of the romance phase of a relationship.
The Summer was great with her though, her, my buddy, and I made a great team. We had a lot of fun doing various activities together and it was really nice to have someone to hold and be intimate with. I was worried I was going to be just her adventurous summer fling, and it seems as if I was. Or I feel like I was just a tool to get out of a situation she wasn't happy in. That's not giving her enough credit though, she is a kind, sweet young women.
I'm not sure what happened. Yesterday when I woke up she said she was going to end things. She isn't attracted to me anymore, she says. Well, I was starting to lose attraction to her as well, but that was just because we were together all the time. She is getting her own place this week and I figured that would have made things better, given us space, forced us to make plans to see each other and slow things down, actually date, you know?
I'm feeling pretty used, but I don't believe she used me. I opened my heart up to someone for the first time in over a year, built an intense intimacy with someone, and then one day they just walked out of my life. No questions asked. We never fought or anything. It was so sudden.
I know it was only 3 months, but I have never felt closer to anyone in my whole life, and i've been with plenty of girls. I just want to curl up into a ball and cry, but i'll try to keep busy with school today. My mind probably wont be there, but whatever.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to pursue other women right now like I usually would because she just set my standards so much higher. I am going to miss the intimacy. A lot. But if you love someone, you have to let them go.
Sorry for the vent. Any tips for getting over a girl you thought was the one?
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TheMovement
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I wanted her to bare my children mostly because she reminds me extraordinarily of my mother. And my mother is such a great mom.
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koraks
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Look at it as a brief and educational experiment. Don't take it too badly and try not to blame anyone. These things happen. Carry on and live a happy life!
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Re: So its officially over. [Re: koraks] 1
#22242051 - 09/15/15 04:23 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm sorry, man. I imagine a lot of us, including myself, can relate to this.
It's better to get a girl who's been single for a while. Usually when a girl dumps a guy for you, she's gonna do the same to you eventually.
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Re: So its officially over. [Re: koraks]
#22242106 - 09/15/15 04:43 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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koraks said: Look at it as a brief and educational experiment. Don't take it too badly and try not to blame anyone. These things happen. Carry on and live a happy life!
short, sweet and dead on the money!
Good advice
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TheMovement said: I wanted her to bare my children mostly because she reminds me extraordinarily of my mother. And my mother is such a great mom.

Sounds like you may suffer from a deep seeded edipus complex
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Re: So its officially over. [Re: brokentv]
#22265734 - 09/20/15 04:14 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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3 months? I honestly wish most of my relationships would have been that short. In all seriousness though. I have been in long term relationships since I was 16 and the only reason they hurt in the end was the fact they went beyond 1-2 years in duration just to one day end for no real reason. Count your blessings you found out in 3 months shes probably not the one for you. Enjoy the time you had but don't let eat at you. I spent too much time trying to figure out why things ended and missed some great opportunities with other girls cause I was hung up on some dumb cunt who broke my heart. I just got out of a two year relationship this week and she was the first woman I ever felt connected with. All I can think now is I bet there is another woman I can connect with even more!!
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Re: So its officially over. [Re: Alkohaul]
#22266475 - 09/20/15 07:00 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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3 months really isn't that long
buckle up, man. She found out you weren't the one for her. Don't feel insulted. You just weren't her preference. Try not to take it too hard, though these words are probably just needle pricks on the cut.
Sorry man. It happens. Your best bet logically is to get over it and move on. I know that isn't how it works though and I doubt you want to hear my say well "There's more fish in the sea!" but it is true... and you can find someone else just like that or better..
Just keep fishing, you'll catch another good one if you keep at it...
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Re: So its officially over. [Re: Uzziel]
#22266780 - 09/20/15 08:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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My girlfriend of 3 months
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I would want to have a family with her (Not yet of course).
No offense but I can kinda see why she ditched you. You sound pretty desperate
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The Doobie Dude


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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
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My girlfriend of 3 months
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I would want to have a family with her (Not yet of course).
No offense but I can kinda see why she ditched you. You sound pretty desperate
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