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Rebelutionsssss
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How can I connect with my dad?
#22215012 - 09/10/15 12:05 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I love him a bunch but he literally complains about EVERYTHING and goes out of his way to try and piss you off. The sad thing is that he really doesn't feel like he's doing anything wrong even though my brothers and I have talked to him about it over and over trying to get him to realize what he's doing.
Every time I feel like we're gaining some type of ground he'll freak the fuck out over the smallest thing and it turns into this yelling match. A person only has so much patience and dealing with him literally drains every last bit I have
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Rebelutionsssss said: The sad thing is that he really doesn't feel like he's doing anything wrong even though my brothers and I have talked to him about it over and over trying to get him to realize what he's doing.
This pretty much already tells you what you don't want to face. Either accept him for what he is, or move on. Not really anything more to be said on it honestly. You can't force someone to change and if you've already tried over and over, it's not gonna happen. Not unless he just spontaneously decides he needs to on his own.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22215028 - 09/10/15 12:12 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I know... He'll like degrade/scream at you one minute and then not even 15 minutes later he'll ask you if you wanna go out and do something like nothing ever fucking happened.
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22215036 - 09/10/15 12:15 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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~every dad everyou gotta learn to deal with it, or learn to cut ties. you're a grown ass man.
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That's a little different. Doubt it helps you much, but therapy or psychiatry may be able to help. That's a little different than just being an uncompassionate prick. Sounds more like an actual issue that he's not capable of controlling. I generally side with the "psychiatry is bullshit" people, but some people report change and in the end all that matters is whether the people doing it get help.
However, I imagine he's not likely to go.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Just dose him with some mdma
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: mollymadman]
#22215052 - 09/10/15 12:25 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's pretty fucked but I was thinking of asking him to take some with me haha he's tried cubes and cyanescens before but I think the realizations he was having were to much for him to face at that time. He said whenever he trips he sees his body aging rapidly to the point of it looking like a 90 year old mans. I think the fact that he's getting older is wearing on his psyche and I try to take this into account when dealing with him but sometimes he's just..so fucking unpleasant I can't stand it.
I feel LSD or MDMA would be best.
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It's only a "yelling match" if you start yelling too.
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Lol I was kidding man
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Rebelutionsssss said:
I know... He'll like degrade/scream at you one minute and then not even 15 minutes later he'll ask you if you wanna go out and do something like nothing ever fucking happened.
My dad and overall family Are.negative meanhearted.bipolar people who i am saddened to call my family
Once i leave.the nest i will not look back I love them and treat them nice regardless of how badly they treat me
It wont be much longer, im much more financially stable, but need to find a full time job instead of part-time. and down the road start doing a skill trade maybe drywalling, plumbing,
Ive trid so many times to try and become friends with my family we just aint compatible doesnt bother me much though
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: mollymadman]
#22215362 - 09/10/15 03:04 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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if my popps was always tripping out like that i'd tell him to chill out in the most sincere way possible. and if he persisted i'd probably start doing the same thing to him ruining his day n shit.
it's like when the fire fighters have to set fire to certain places that are really dried up to avoid bigger fires, in the same sense u become the flame and set fire to these dry places and let them burn in a controlled environment.
speaking of burning up, does he smoke?
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: zZZz]
#22215388 - 09/10/15 03:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yea he smokes almost every night but doesn't seem to calm him down overall
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Here's an idea maybe and use it at your own risk because it could backfire as easily as it could make him understand. Record his random outbursts, multiple times, without his knowledge somehow. Then when he's in a calm state sit him down and have him watch it. Maybe when he's not in mid outburst he'll understand why what he's doing is "wrong" and maybe something will click. I dunno, may be worth the shot.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22215402 - 09/10/15 03:27 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's like something a chick would do..ure prob better off confronting him man to man.
What waz the last thing ur dad complained about op?..
WhAt exactly does he complain about?..
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: zZZz]
#22215404 - 09/10/15 03:29 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You didn't read OP did you.. Him and his brothers have already confronted him, multiple times over. That approach didn't work.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22215408 - 09/10/15 03:32 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Pulling the blinds up in the kitchen so I could get some light and read the news paper but he wanted them down so he flipped a bitch
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22215414 - 09/10/15 03:35 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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OFF WITH THE GLOVES!!
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Amanita86]
#22215420 - 09/10/15 03:39 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Amanita86 said: OFF WITH THE GLOVES!!

Which one is supposed to be me? They're both kinda pathetic
Wait..
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: How can I connect with my dad? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22215426 - 09/10/15 03:42 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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The kid man.. that little kid owned that fool..he had enough.
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