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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Bodhi of Ankou]
#22214618 - 09/09/15 10:12 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Then I retract my previous statement. Sounds like either way it's just going to end up in me fighting..
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Bodhi of Ankou] 1
#22214625 - 09/09/15 10:14 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Too many of you seem eager to be raped. Thereby making it non-rapey. I think it should be decreed that the rape will occur in a public place, at random, and the rape may or may not be captured on film. The rapist shall be of a gender opposite to the rapies sexual orientation and the rape shall last no shorter then five minutes and no longer then 12.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Amanita86]
#22214634 - 09/09/15 10:16 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: GoblinKing]
#22214717 - 09/09/15 10:34 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: my3rdeye]
#22214890 - 09/09/15 11:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sorry about the wall of text, but this is strangely relevant to my thoughts recently.
The answer is that I don't know, but probably raped. I've had a not very nice experience with sex before, I still don't know what to call it because I really liked the person it happened with and the only thing stopping me was that I wanted to get to know him a little more, and he knew that was the only reason we hadn't had sex yet. In the end I gave up, so I never knew what to call it, we were both drinking but he was way drunker than I was and we were just cuddling before things escalated,I told him repeatedly to stop, and he physically held me down and started to have sex with me before I got him to stop by finally getting him to agree to wait to have sex until a little later that night. It was a small party/firepit thing, and I should've left at that point, but I was drinking and my car was there and in the end it happened and it happened willingly. I had to actually look up what constituted as rape and legally the first part did, but I never knew how to feel, and I kind of had a nervous breakdown a couple months later, but it was so hard to gauge if I was even responding appropriately or what. This is the first time I've talked about it with anyone outside of a psychologist I saw a few months afterwards, and I do feel like I've kind of moved on or whatever.
It's not that I feel like I am fully aware of the extent of trauma a rape victim will feel, because I honestly can't fathom what it's like to be violently raped in the ways that so many people around the world are.
But, murder just stuns me. The idea that someone could decided to nullify my existence just because they feel like it. It could happen tomorrow, and I'd never see it coming. What's the difference between me and any other fairly average person in their 20's living in first world countries(which I specify for obvious reasons) who end up dying horrible, violent deaths.
I've had issues with anxiety, a lot of the times it manifests as specific fears, but whenever I manage to get over the thing that causes the anxiety(and I have, time and time again) it's like it manifests as some other kind of anxiety. Fear of failure, to panic attacks, to social anxiety, and now it's taking a new form that I haven't experienced before. I keep having obsessive thoughts about death and misery, I can't stop my brain from thinking about it constantly and I just am totally stuck. I almost feel like it's practically OCD, but without the compulsions or counting or any of that stuff - I read about a lot of really horrible stuff and get fixated on all the bad things in the world and can't snap out of it, and one of those things is the idea of being murdered. I'm not like, constantly thinking that I'm about to get murdered at any moment(and there was a time in my life where I kind of had that fear too), but...I just read these terrible things and thinking about what it's like to be those people who end up victimized makes me feel sick and I just have started feeling overwhelmed buy how sad life will be for everyone and everything at one point. We'll all experience tremendous loss or we'll die young, that's the way it is, existing hurts, and none of us will get through life without experiencing it first hand.
The only way I can put it, is that I feel doomed in a way, but I am starting to fight it off lately, started listening to Alan Watts, and reading laymen friendly stuff about quantam psychics and the nature of our universe and I've felt better as a result, but damn, it's just draining.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: pirate-blues]
#22215041 - 09/10/15 12:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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did you tell him that you weren't comfortable with having sex Just quite yet? That's pretty fucked if he just kept forcing Himself on you, I'm sorry 
And I'd rather be murdered. I feel like the PTSD I would suffer would just ruin my life anyways
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yes. I also physically tried to push him off and get away, I remember him saying verbatim 'struggling just makes it hotter'. He was actually a very nice person up until then. His friends were in the next room and I do sometimes feel like it's my fault for not making more of a scene or whatever, but it wasn't like he snuck up from behind and clubbed me over the head, I was laying in his bed and cuddling with him and we kissed a few times. He just escalated it and never seemed to take me seriously.
And thanks, honestly I kind of wish I hadn't posted it. I don't want pity or sympathy or anything, I'm done with it and I'm sick of dwelling on stuff like that and letting it get the best of me.
I do wish I could shake the weird intrusive existential thoughts and the obsession with everything bad going on in the world though, but I'm getting better about keeping myself preoccupied with things that aren't as sad.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: pirate-blues]
#22215117 - 09/10/15 12:54 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds like pretty clear rape to me.
The nice/quiet people are who you have to watch out for anyways. Every single time some neighbor is on the news talking about the crazy killer next door it's always "he seemed like such a nice/quiet guy". The guy who is an asshole flat out isn't trying to hide anything.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: pirate-blues] 1
#22215221 - 09/10/15 01:43 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Oh PB :hugs: I've been in a very similar situation. And some would argue that that isn't rape... but it certainly is. I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's almost worse than the "being clubbed over the head" thing in some way, because its confusing too. And the guilt of "I could have done more". Time heals though. No matter what anyone else says about what defines rape or not - what he did was wrong.
People are fucked up. But I believe in karma and I believe the fucked up people get fucked over the most in the end.
To respond to the OP: it is highly dependant on the sort of rape and the sort of murder. I'd rather take a gunshot to the head over pretty much any sort of rape. Unless I genuinely black out on a shit ton of xanax and don't remember any of it and never do.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: MisterSandman]
#22215510 - 09/10/15 04:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I choose raped, preferably by taylor swift, ariana grande or selena gomez.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Moonshoe]
#22215643 - 09/10/15 06:28 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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what if you could be raped by taylor swift, but only if served you both drinks first
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: MisterSandman]
#22215660 - 09/10/15 06:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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My girl got date raped in a really aweful situation, drugged with GHB and shot up with what sounded like a very large dose of meth.
I'd choose rape because at least i could empathize more with her.
The guy probably looked like a 30 year old bill cosby but with less weight and more muscle.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: makaveli8x8]
#22215662 - 09/10/15 06:48 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd rather be raped 10 times over. But then, I'd also rather endure Chinese 1000 cut torture than die. In fact as long as an event wouldn't be completely crippling physically I'd rather endure it than be killed. I have the will to survive. My will to live will only fade when my life itself has faded.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: NotTheDevil]
#22215674 - 09/10/15 06:54 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I am gonna ask my girl which one she would choose if given the choice, seeing as one of the choices has already occurred. god I hope she doesn't say she'd rather die then get raped but hey! at least one happened so why both if they are both bad 
It's funny i've been on and off dating this girl for 4.5 years, it happened when we off though, i broke up with her cuz i could tell she was into one of her roomates friends, and fuck i'd rather just end that shit then have us cheating on eachother!
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Everything]
#22215690 - 09/10/15 07:04 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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gunna go out on a limb here and say that, if you go and ask her that you'll be making a thread here in a few days about how your girls been getting texts from a paulina and how she won't have sex with you anymore
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: makaveli8x8]
#22215704 - 09/10/15 07:08 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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yeah don't go out on limbs....you'll fall off that one!
no but really! its okay, i've been with her longer then people have been married or even known eachother and been married combined. its not like were just gonna stop hanging out cuz i ask her if she feels like rape is worse than dying...why would she leave me and not talk to me anymore? I mean i get you're kidding but not that funny.
I honestly think she might like having sex with me ..maybe more than i even do with her. well....hha
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: MisterSandman]
#22215706 - 09/10/15 07:08 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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MisterSandman said: No STAHL this is a serious thread
So this is what it's come to.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: NotTheDevil]
#22215711 - 09/10/15 07:10 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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NotTheDevil said: I'd rather be raped 10 times over. But then, I'd also rather endure Chinese 1000 cut torture than die. In fact as long as an event wouldn't be completely crippling physically I'd rather endure it than be killed. I have the will to survive. My will to live will only fade when my life itself has faded.
It would take me roughly 60 minutes for you to wish you were dead.
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: Everything]
#22215720 - 09/10/15 07:13 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Everything said: yeah don't go out on limbs....you'll fall off that one!
no but really! its okay, i've been with her longer then people have been married or even known eachother and been married combined. its not like were just gonna stop hanging out cuz i ask her if she feels like rape is worse than dying...why would she leave me and not talk to me anymore? I mean i get you're kidding but not that funny.
you forget your about to ask a women about rape. women dump men over way less trivial shit, not joking, you might be sitting on the curb tomorrow just saying. also my paulina joke WAS FUNNY
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Re: Would you rather be raped or murdered? [Re: makaveli8x8]
#22215722 - 09/10/15 07:14 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Murdered
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