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Arctic W. Fox

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POF: the blindness of it all...
#22197823 - 09/06/15 03:42 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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What kind of conversation is this?
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Me: I really like your eyes! :-) Them: Hello.. How are you? Me: I'm doing well. How's life been? Them: At work. :,(
At this point, I think I'm just chatting with a bot.
Plenty Of Fakes.
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Oeric McKenna
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There are bots! they'll text you all about visiting their porn sites so they can scam that plastic card mang
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Love_spirit
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Get the number already.
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r.lutece
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: Arctic W. Fox] 3
#22198031 - 09/06/15 04:10 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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God, even if they're not a bot, stay away. What kind of conversation is that?
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: r.lutece]
#22199207 - 09/06/15 08:05 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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r.lutece said: God, even if they're not a bot, stay away. What kind of conversation is that?
I know. Girls on dating sites that have never talked to you don't wanna start a conversation off with "How's life been?". OP is not going to have an easy time with this.
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Arctic W. Fox

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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: D.M.T]
#22199283 - 09/06/15 08:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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D.M.T said: [...] you don't wanna start a conversation off with "How's life been?".
As a woman, how would you like a man to open a dialog with you?
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D.M.T
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If you knew I was a man then that's a touché response, sir.
As long as it's something original I think that's a pretty safe way to start out. Being funny doesn't hurt. From what I have heard about internet dating, girls get TONS of messages. Knowing that, you want yours to stand out from the rest or they'll quickly get bored and end the conversation. If a girl has nice eyes, I'm sure she is aware of that.
I speculate a large number of the girls on these sites have no intentions of even getting a boyfriend. They're just on there out of curiosity, or to stroke their ego before they go to bed.
If I were a girl, "Can I buy you a new ___?" (something based off her interests) would be a good way to get things going. So, to directly answer your question, that's what I'd like to hear.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: D.M.T]
#22199419 - 09/06/15 08:44 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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LOL! I've got to use that as a new post!:
"How would you finish this sentence to a woman?: 'Can I buy you a new _____?'"
Awesome!
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r.lutece
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: D.M.T]
#22199504 - 09/06/15 09:02 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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DMT's right, we don't wanna hear the same things over and over. Don't tell us we're pretty for two reasons: 1) if the girl is there to get her ego stroked, don't give her the satisfaction. 2) if you're messaging her, she knows you think she's pretty.
I will say, if you started with, "Can I buy you a new ___?", I probably wouldn't reply. When you don't have the context of this thread behind it, it comes off as kinda creepy.
Mention something you have in common with her, and ask her about it. Ending your message with a declarative statement (like, "what a coincidence! I too am interested in underwater basket weaving!") makes it a lot more of a chore to reply because now the next topic of conversation is our burden, and we're not even sure if we're interested in you yet. That said, humor will get you places.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: r.lutece]
#22199663 - 09/06/15 09:33 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was mostly kidding with the gift opener line, of course. Girls on there who are serious about dating probably wouldn't like that. Probably makes them feel a little hookerish. 
I'm talking to my nephew. He knows a little more about internet dating than me.. you know, being of that age group and all.
He's saying on the Tinder app he prefers to message girls without bios or if they have short ones, because they aren't as picky about what they'll reply to. Sometimes he gives them a simple 'Hello' and ends up going on dates. He says if they have a long bio it's not as easy to get a response for him since he assumes other guys are using that as a base for conversation too and probably saying the same thing. Usually those girls are also taking it a lot more seriously.
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r.lutece
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: D.M.T] 1
#22199765 - 09/06/15 09:52 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Haha, definitely. It makes it sound like you want to be a sugar daddy.
It strikes me as odd that people are legitimately using Tinder as a dating app. Back when I was on it, it was definitely more for hookups and nudes. It was like the Grindr everyone could use, lol.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: r.lutece]
#22200243 - 09/07/15 12:50 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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On Tinder, a simple 'hello' or a one-line opening is sufficient. On sites like PoF or OKCUPID you generally have to put in a little more effort. Respond to something in their profile and actually start up a conversation. Be sure to ask one question. Your opening message should be about (brief) 4 sentences.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: Arctic W. Fox] 1
#22200857 - 09/07/15 07:53 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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meet women in real life, you wont have these problems.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: sprinkles]
#22205494 - 09/08/15 01:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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sprinkles said: meet women in real life, you wont have these problems.
There aren't any.
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Oeric McKenna
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: Mr. Material]
#22205796 - 09/08/15 05:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mr. Material said:
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sprinkles said: meet women in real life, you wont have these problems.
There aren't any.
Gotta be observant. When youre in an everyday situation like shopping for groceries, go to the line with the hottest cashier. Tell her that her eye makeup looks pretty or something. she will probably turn and play with her hair, (meaning she's down with you) Write number on receipt, hand it back ...... Things like this^
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Patlal
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Quote:
Arctic W. Fox said: What kind of conversation is this?
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Me: I really like your eyes! :-) Them: Hello.. How are you? Me: I'm doing well. How's life been? Them: At work. :,(
At this point, I think I'm just chatting with a bot.
Plenty Of Fakes.
Hahhaha.
Dude I have had so much worse.
I've had back and forth conversation like 7 or 8 replies each, then suddenly, nothing...
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Arctic W. Fox

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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: Patlal]
#22207198 - 09/08/15 01:09 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've had those, too.
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Me: How's the weather there?
...nothing... for a week...
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Me: I'm sorry; is the weather a touchy subject? We can talk about something else.
That usually kickstarts the conversation again. lol If not, I just delete the conversation and move on.
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'I really like your eyes', I hope to jesus that's not how you initiated the conversation.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: sudly]
#22208536 - 09/08/15 06:04 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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it's not~
he said "i really like your eyes :-)"
dopn't forget the smilie. really takes it to the next level.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: memes]
#22208592 - 09/08/15 06:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Holy shit my mistake! Yeah man you're in there with this, much alpha, many pussy.
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: sudly]
#22248378 - 09/16/15 09:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have absolutely no luck with POF. I've messaged about 50 different females in the last month since joining and not one response. I'll I seem to keep finding that's online is girls saying that they want a guy who has it all, physically fit, is intelligent, has money, a nice car and is hung like a pornstar who wants to be faithful(nothing wrong with standards but come on how many men are going to meet all these requirements and be single and not be a major player? Just wondering how they expect to find someone like that unless they are a perfect 10 and a 18 year old virgin). I think I might just give up on the whole Internet dating thing. Well I guess such is reality
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: basqueshaman]
#22249215 - 09/17/15 01:29 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah it is quite a bit of bullshit. I think back when I was on there I ended up messaging just about every girl on there. And got 1 or 2 pointless responses I live in a smaller city though. I think the key to those sites is just not buying into them much. Put a few good pics up and then write something good then just let it be. Its much harder initialy to meet girsl in real life but its much healthier anyway, especially when the online isnt working out. Just take baby steps start with simply saying hi
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Re: POF: the blindness of it all... [Re: brokentv]
#22250015 - 09/17/15 08:57 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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date coworkers like the rest of us losers
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