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Women and shit
#22197178 - 09/06/15 01:06 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I am pretty fucking confused... I've been sleeping with my best (female) friend for a while (and did for about 6 months a couple of years ago). We're both single, both enjoy it and spend a lot of time together (oh and she's fucking hot). For all practical purposes we're in an open relationship (except neither of us want to sleep with anyone else)...
We have a large group of friends and there's a lot crossed wires.. like some of our close friends in love with her (although nothing has ever happened), some of the girls like me (and my ex happens to be one of her best friends). We don't really show it in public unless we're really smashed and it kinda creeps out... although everyone knows it, without ever actually saying it (ignorance is bliss right ).
I'm not really the kind of person to beat around the bush.. I'd rather it was all out in the open or we just call it quits, but then at the same time, I enjoy it and, for moment, it's simple.. and I don't just want to throw away this hot sex cause I'm being a bitch.
What the fuck is this shit? is it actually ever possible to just have a fuck buddy when you are already friends? I've had countless meaningless flings and never gotten involved...
This is confusing as fuck and I can't really speak to any of my friends about it... Like the other night we were fucking upstairs whilst a bunch of our mates were passed out downstairs and I got a lot of dirty looks in the morning (I guess they heard us eh?).
/rant.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197193 - 09/06/15 01:09 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Your friends are bitches if they give you dirty looks for having sex with some chick.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197198 - 09/06/15 01:11 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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So basically you're in a relationship and you.. you what? You don't want to sleep with anyone else except.. WHAT?
-I misread some of that, I thought you said "I'd rather it be open" not "out in the open."
Anyway, who cares? It sounds amusing.
Edited by larry.fisherman (09/06/15 01:14 PM)
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Cepheus
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Sheekle]
#22197203 - 09/06/15 01:12 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's more complicated than that.. we're all a close knit group of people.. and when you throw women into that mix wires get crossed and people get hurt.
Bros before hoes but then at the same time, this chick is fucking hot and basically one of my bros...
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus] 1
#22197206 - 09/06/15 01:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Don't look a gift vagina in the mouth.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197207 - 09/06/15 01:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I say keep smashing bro, no need to define the relationship you have, it seems like you two are just "friends with benefits." It's hard to find that sometimes, you should be grateful you get to get laid on a consistent basis without the nagging that comes with a relationship.
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Cepheus
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Nah I'm not actually in a relationship, I've got the green light to sleep with whoever and do whatever the fuck I want. If this chick was just a random, it would be the perfect situation.
I think the problem is the more I sleep with her the harder it is to not get attached. A relationship isn't going to happen, too much drama.
I'm debating walking away from all this, but I cant help but feel if I do I'll kick myself in the teeth for doing so.
Do I just ride this shit into the ground and deal with the aftermath or just move onto the next one :/
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus] 2
#22197227 - 09/06/15 01:17 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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The only sensible answer is to get all your friends together, take LSD and MDMA and have a giant orgy.
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Cepheus
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nicechrisman said: Don't look a gift vagina in the mouth.

I knew the shroomery would have the answer .
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nicechrisman said: The only sensible answer is to get all your friends together, take LSD and MDMA and have a giant orgy.
She's bi, she's trying to talk this chick she likes into a threesome. I think the stipulation is that I have to get involved in a MMF one at a future date (I'm not opposed #YOLO).
The hardest part in all this is not getting attached... After all the meaningless shit in my life, this has to happen with a chick who I'm really good friends with.
I think there would be a lot more giant orgies if we weren't all ketamine addicts.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197250 - 09/06/15 01:22 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Ketamine addiction is not good dude. In drugs inc the dude had to wear a catheter and was pissing blood..
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197251 - 09/06/15 01:23 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe you should talk with her about it. I bet she feels the same way. Usually women get attached much more than men do.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197260 - 09/06/15 01:24 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dude, 2 weeks ago I was in the same position as you OP. I had simple, open eneded relationship, sex only, no commitment.
Then she found another dude. I still want to murder him and probably still want to a year from now also.
Don't be a child like I was. Commit. Jump in with two feet. Be a man.
I can tell you love her just by your post. You might just not realize it yet, but trust me, when she says she found another dude, you will be hurting real bad man.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Patlal]
#22197290 - 09/06/15 01:32 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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We already been through that, when we were sleeping together before she found someone else (admittedly I was sleeping with someone else too, but I told her outright from the beggining), so I just slept with a shit load of sluts until I stopped caring.
I think it's cause we've gone for round 2 and she doesn't seem to be interested in anyone else. We're really open with each other, that was one of stipulations before I even got involved. No trust or openness, no sex.
Of course I love this chick, she's one of my best friends.. But there's a difference between loving someone and being in love.
I think she feels the same but stops herself because of all the mess it would create in our close knit group of friends. I'm more selfish than that.
As for the ketamine addiction, I've been dealing with it for the last 4 years, if you're careful you can minimize the damage (although it still does cause a lot of damage).. My ex was pissing blood before she had to move away to quit.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197302 - 09/06/15 01:37 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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recently was in a similar boat..
and when i asked her to be with me she took off. ive known this girl from the age of 13.. now i dont even get the pleasure of talking to her.
you better do something about it dude.. doing nothing, isnt going to get you were you want to be
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Sheekle
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Re: Women and shit [Re: rackem]
#22197310 - 09/06/15 01:40 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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rackem said: recently was in a similar boat..
and when i asked her to be with me she took off. ive known this girl from the age of 13.. now i dont even get the pleasure of talking to her.
you better do something about it dude.. doing nothing, isnt going to get you were you want to be
wtf someone u knew from the age of 13 stopped talking to u altogether just cuz u asked if she wanted to be with u? man people r crazy, She coulda just said no, not that hard.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: Cepheus]
#22197317 - 09/06/15 01:41 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds like a one-sided relationship to me aside from the sex. I would rather jerk off alone with my dignity than get sex and be in a relationship that fucks with my head like that.
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rackem



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Re: Women and shit [Re: Sheekle]
#22197319 - 09/06/15 01:42 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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yup.. pretty fucking much dude.
ridiculous world we are living in.
guess she thought that we couldnt separate the two and lines and shit would be crossed. i didnt follow her batshit crazy logic. but, lost a friend over it.
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Re: Women and shit [Re: rackem]
#22197327 - 09/06/15 01:44 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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rackem said: recently was in a similar boat..
and when i asked her to be with me she took off. ive known this girl from the age of 13.. now i dont even get the pleasure of talking to her.
you better do something about it dude.. doing nothing, isnt going to get you were you want to be
See I reckon if I said something like that she'd just close right off too.
I'm supposed to be moving down about an hour away from where we currently live this month. I've suggested she come with me (as a friend) as we both have a lot of friends there... If I do move it wouldn't really change anything as we both already spend a lot of time in this city, and I'd be back and forth a lot. If anything it might give us the freedom to explore this as an avenue (new circles of friends and all that).
You've got a boomtown thing in your sig.. Were you there this year? I met someone from the shroomery there, still trying to figure out who it was .
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