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I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. *DELETED*
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Re: I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22195599 - 09/06/15 02:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Time to
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Re: I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22196776 - 09/06/15 11:21 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've went through similar things for 5 years OP.
Leave, before it gets even more complicated with say, a baby 
Get out...NOW
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Re: I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22197357 - 09/06/15 01:54 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's a pretty intense relationship, OP.
Here's the thing; you can care very deeply about someone (and continue to do so!) and still know that it's not possible to have a life together. It sounds like you know this already, though.
It sounds like the highs and lows of the relationship are both very extreme. Not only is the fighting hardcore, but from what you've said, it sounds like the loving is too. Now, to me, that sounds like a relationship that could be very emotionally rewarding, but at the same time WILL burn you out over time. Sounds like you've hit your burned out point.
I recommend ending it. Not in the heat of the moment and not because you don't care, but because you need to take care of yourself. You're putting a lot more into this than you're getting out, and that's not fair to you.
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Re: I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. [Re: Masked]
#22197590 - 09/06/15 02:57 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Masked said: I've went through similar things for 5 years OP.
Leave, before it gets even more complicated with say, a baby 
Get out...NOW
This!
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Re: I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22200569 - 09/07/15 03:59 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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next time you have sex with her, blind fold her and stick a grapefruit up her vagina
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Why don't you try telling her some of these things? If she loves you, she'll probably get mad at first but she'll listen. She obviously has things she is dealing with and sounds like she may be a tad bit defensive. Just be super nice and express how you feel, make a point not to fight back even if she gets upset.
There will always be a lot of people who just say end it, but giving up when you haven't even really (like actually really) tried to fix it may not be the right choice. Or maybe it is, I guess only you can make that decision. Just communicate, communication is everything. Plus, it could be your chance to white knight it up, maybe that's what she needs. Focus on building a healthier relationship.
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Dont break up with her until you have another girl lined up waiting to fuck. Then dump your girl and head over to the new girls house.
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Anonymous #3
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/facepalm
The original OP actually seems like he has a soul and cares about this girl. Highly doubt he's just gonna have another chick lined up waiting. Haha. although, if he thinks he could be happier with someone else, he should pursue that after ending things and getting over her.
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Quote:
Anonymous said: The original OP actually seems like he has a soul and cares about this girl. Highly doubt he's just gonna have another chick lined up waiting. Haha. although, if he thinks he could be happier with someone else, he should pursue that after ending things and getting over her.
A lot of people say this, but in my experience leaving one girl before finding another can lead to years of loneliness and misery. Of course his ex would be happier this way, but OP would be happier if he had a new girlfriend lined up.
At the very least he would put effort into making more female friends.
One reason is that single girls often avoid single men, but are inexplicably attracted to men who are not single.
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A rebound is a nice distraction and I won't claim to never have had one, but it can fuck with your emotions. Once you've spent so long with someone, you need time to get over them. I agree, he may be happier (definitely a lot less lonely) but when rebounds end up turning into a relationship and you still have leftover feelings you didn't deal with from a past relationship, shit can get lame. I fully acknowledge that everyone is different, though. Just do what feels right, you'll know if you made the right decision eventually.
Also, only hoes looking for ego boosts or some kind of thrill go for taken guys. :p it's like a trophy that proves they're more desirable. Plenty of respectable females would never cross that line. Just saying. But you're right, it could lead to a long period of loneliness.
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I'd personally rather deal with rebound emotions than a long period of loneliness, but that's just me. Long periods of loneliness when you still have feelings for someone really suck! At least with another girl you have something to keep your mind off of how undesirable you must be.
Also another girl makes it less likely that you'll get back together with someone that in the long run is not good for you.
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It may just be because I've had a problem moving on too fast (we probably have more in common than I'd like to admit, I too hate being alone) but something about it usually makes me feel weak. I wouldn't want to know I meant so little that my equivalent other found someone else that quickly and vice versa.
There ARE people who function perfectly fine single and independent, though. Haha. :p sometimes I really wish I was one of them.
Whatever happens OP, I wish you happiness and health.
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Quite honestly, I think sometimes women forget that men are tender little guys on the inside. Up front, they appear stoic and unaffected, and yet are lonely when they're alone. It's incredibly endearing.
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