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How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like?
#22186852 - 09/04/15 08:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I never thought in my lifetime I would have to deal/cope with a situation like this, but the nightmare is real. Long story short my mother married a person I have found that I do not like. I've never genuinely disliked somebody before and I do not like the fact that I dislike this person, but so many things about him just makes me cringe. I am working to move as far a away form them as possible as soon as possible but for now I have to be around with this person. Have you ever had to deal with a situation like this?
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22186922 - 09/04/15 08:50 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Focus on your breathing. When you're getting angry and frustrated just focus your thoughts on your breathing and say "in" "out" as you breathe. This helps me sometimes. Try to take slow deep breathes in your nose and out of your mouth. Also, cannabis.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Kush_Zombie]
#22186963 - 09/04/15 09:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Try to see things from his point of view. View it as an interesting specimen/experiment to observe and learn from.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22187226 - 09/04/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Is he annoying or a total dick? What exactly is the problem with him?
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22187713 - 09/04/15 11:58 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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rbalzer said: Try to see things from his point of view. View it as an interesting specimen/experiment to observe and learn from.
That's an interesting way to look at it.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Kush_Zombie]
#22187850 - 09/04/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Op just mad cuz he bangin his mom.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: jahrastafareye]
#22187928 - 09/04/15 12:48 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22188077 - 09/04/15 01:10 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Take MDMA with him, see if he still bothers you.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: 90sBeachUFO]
#22188637 - 09/04/15 03:34 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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90sBeachUFO said: Is he annoying or a total dick? What exactly is the problem with him?
I wouldn't quite say he is annoying or a dick yet, but so far things are going in that direction. I just don't like the fact that somebody comes into a family with no respect of the fact that he joined into whats left of another family like everything is fine. It hasn't quite reached this point yet but its almost one of those situations were new guy comes in on his high horse like he owns the place. Then his wife, my mother, turns completely into somebody I've never met before. Hiding behind the new man of the house acting weak and innocent lol. Its the fakeness of the situation stemming from his presence that really gets under my skin. I guess there is a bit of childlike bitterness on my part, but even then if I was ever in a situation like this I would have enough decency to have respect that I am part of a new family with history and stay within my boundaries. Fortunatly Im old enough to get away which I plan on doing as soon as possible.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22189717 - 09/04/15 07:22 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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90sBeachUFO said: Is he annoying or a total dick? What exactly is the problem with him?
I wouldn't quite say he is annoying or a dick yet, but so far things are going in that direction. I just don't like the fact that somebody comes into a family with no respect of the fact that he joined into whats left of another family like everything is fine. It hasn't quite reached this point yet but its almost one of those situations were new guy comes in on his high horse like he owns the place. Then his wife, my mother, turns completely into somebody I've never met before. Hiding behind the new man of the house acting weak and innocent lol. Its the fakeness of the situation stemming from his presence that really gets under my skin. I guess there is a bit of childlike bitterness on my part, but even then if I was ever in a situation like this I would have enough decency to have respect that I am part of a new family and stay within my boundaries. Fortunatly Im old enough to get away which I plan on doing as soon as possible.
Assert your dominance. Pee on his bed or something. YOU are the man of the house. This is YOUR territory. This guy thinks he can just run up in the place for a few days and act like he runs shit? Hell no. You've been there for YEARS. You can't let him get away with it that easy Now GO! GO PEE!
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22190022 - 09/04/15 08:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Don't be around him if you can. Have you addressed the issues you have with him face to face? If it's more of the personality traits then actual behavior leading to annoyance more then anything you're just gonna have to deal with it
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Cognitive_Shift]
#22190227 - 09/04/15 09:01 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Give him and yourself magnesium from Natural Calm.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: SprewellSleeve]
#22191169 - 09/05/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe he doesn't even know he's stepping on your toes? We all live in our own little worlds.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22191305 - 09/05/15 02:49 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just stay out of his way, and do you own thing. Once he gets the hint that you're not feeling him, maybe he'll change his attitude a little. Or you can sit him down and tell him what's up, have a little man to man talk. Are you intimidated by this guy, why don't you like him? Is he rude or mean to you or your mom? Does he treat your mom good? Is he violent?
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22191746 - 09/05/15 08:32 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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rbalzer said: Maybe he doesn't even know he's stepping on your toes? We all live in our own little worlds.
Quote for truth... It's very possible he is unaware that his tune,pitch, actions, way of doing things are coming off as dickish...
If he doesn't abuse your mother in any way (physically, mentally, emotionally) with physical or verbal means, than there really is no problem.
If you are of age to move, it's time to move. Let your mother enjoy her life, she seems happy. And women will "hide" behind their Husbands. She feels safe with him as the protector of the house.
Further Suggestions: Do something fun, all of you. Slowly and gradually you will all start to bond. Enjoy a beer once in a while and have that man-to-man talk.
Do not come "lashing out of the gate" talking about his behavior at first. Men see this as a challenge.
Do talk calmly about anything, try to get a feel for the guy, maybe you can see why your mother loves him.
TOLERANCE is also a key factor... Because as long as he isn't harming your mother. You got to tolerate him to a certain point. If the point is crossed you have to calmly reason with him. Tolerance is what makes the world go round, and fall to crumbles if not undertaken.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: InfiniteToker]
#22211674 - 09/09/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks for the advice. Since these changes have happened I've been keeping my space more and more and plan to indefinitely. I stay cordial in the most simplistic way when I am around him, but other then that I do my own thing. I've lived around lots of anger and negativity throughout my life so I don't believe in being angry or lashing out as being constructive, its tough at times though. I think the biggest thing that gets to me is the person my mother has become. Conceited people have always peeved me so this has definitely put my sanity to the test. Luckily I have a healthy outlet and hopefully I can find a career in the near future.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22216772 - 09/10/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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If I were you, I'd express my feelings about it. Unless you would just prefer to move away and avoid the problem. I feel like a lot of times, people don't know stuff about them is bugging another person.
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Re: How do you cope with being around somebody you do not like? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22231915 - 09/13/15 01:55 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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stay high
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