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FreshShit
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Hooking up wtih a friends ex
#22186134 - 09/04/15 01:05 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I want to make this short and sweet. I started hooking up with this girl a long time ago before I ended up hooking her up with a friend of mine. They lasted 5 years and now have broken up. Over time I realized how much I was missing out on and how much I cared for her. It has been about 8 months and he has a new girlfriend. Is it okay if I start talking to her?
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186169 - 09/04/15 01:20 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yes.
You were involved with her before he was. He has a GF, so unless he's a douche there's really no chance of them getting back together. If he somehow has a problem with it, then he's a douche. If he has a problem with you dating women he dated, then he shouldn't of dated her in the first place, and even more so, with him having a GF it shouldn't make any difference whatsoever who she dates.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: Shroomslip]
#22186184 - 09/04/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I just try to stay a true friend and a loyal one as well. I introduced them and he treated her like shit and cheated on her.... I haven't spoken to her in 6 months plus and we were just on the phone for 3 hours (which I never ever do) because that's how well we quick. I love the girl truly. Thanks for the assurance man... I need it.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186188 - 09/04/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Keep the opinions coming I need them.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186192 - 09/04/15 01:28 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Pub is usually pretty dead at this time of night. You won't get more than a couple of responses for at least the next few hours. If thread is dead in the late morning/afternoon tomorrow, then bump it and you'll get more feedback.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: Shroomslip]
#22186198 - 09/04/15 01:30 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks again man (:
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186349 - 09/04/15 03:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd say go for it. It's been a long time since they broke up, and honestly shouldn't bother him.
If you wanna be safe with your friend or whatever, you could just ask him.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: Achillita]
#22186391 - 09/04/15 04:04 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I see nothing wrong with it - I'd still ask or talk to your friend if I were you though, just because it's a courteous gesture and all.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: pirate-blues]
#22186404 - 09/04/15 04:15 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't really get that. I mean if the op never had a history with her before the friend, maybe. But the fact that the op had history with her before the friend ever does, pretty much completely negates any kind of problem he should have with it. It would make the friend a ridiculous hypocrite.
Friend to op: "Can I date your ex?" OP: Sure
OP to friend "Can I date your ex that was my ex first?" Friend: No, what the fuck are you thinking?
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: Shroomslip]
#22186414 - 09/04/15 04:33 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Oh, I missed that part where op had history with her, whooooops.
Then I see nothing wrong with it x2.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: pirate-blues]
#22186587 - 09/04/15 06:57 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I once dated a girl my friend went out with for a month. I waited until like 3 months after to ask him. He said yea that's chilling. Than after we started dating starting getting mad and shit about it.
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: theonlysun81]
#22186595 - 09/04/15 07:00 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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If it doesn't work out the first time, it will never work out.
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False.
Me and my wife were engaged 11 months then split up because it didn't work out. Couple years later got back together, got married, and have been for over 10 years. I was the one who broke it off, and I cannot imagine my life with anyone else. Things change.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186622 - 09/04/15 07:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You guys should double team her
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: FreshShit]
#22186632 - 09/04/15 07:22 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Why are you asking us, why don't you just ask your friend if he would care.
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Why should he even have to though? The chick was ops before she was ever his friends. (INB4 some feminist has to come say women aren't property)
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: Hooking up wtih a friends ex [Re: Shroomslip]
#22186650 - 09/04/15 07:27 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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He doesn't have to, but he's concerned whether it's appropriate to hook up with her because of his friendship and felt the need to ask, and if he cares that his friend would care or his friendship would be in jeopardy by doing it than it just seems simpler.
Did Op's friend ask him before he hooked up with her does anyone know? If his friend didn't then there's no need to, but if he was courteous enough to ask then it seems fair to at least return the favor.
Edit: and fuck a feminist, women are property
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According to OP he practically gave her to his friend. Would seem kinda bullshit for his friend to have a problem with giving her back. I say fuck what he thinks, if he's got a problem, punch him in the dick. I hate hypocrites.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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