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JustForToday
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MY girlfriend just left me
#22182639 - 09/03/15 11:34 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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My girl who I had been dating for 2 months just left me. She just told me I'm really way too busy to even be with her. I only talked to her 5 times out of the week over the phone at night before bed. And only seen her a few times a month. I got a lot going on my life and I didn't realize this until now that I am way too busy to be in a relationship. But at the same time I feel like I need someone it's just hard. I don't know what to do. I had fun when I was having sex with the girl who took my 6 year cherry but deep inside I really don't want to live like that and I want someone who I can connect with because it feels better.
I think I might be codependent because i've been reflecting and even though i've been alone for a good part of my life, I always feel better when I have someone I can talk to about my problems besides my sponsor. But now with both my jobs, my hobbies, I find it's getting increasingly harder to have a social life much less a relationship. My ex before this girl told me that if my career ever picked up, I wouldn't have time for her. Well I don't have a modeling career yet but still i'm too busy to connect with someone. What should I do? 
BTW, my days start at 5 in the morning and don't end until 10.
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Edited by JustForToday (09/03/15 11:37 AM)
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Patlal
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: JustForToday] 1
#22182812 - 09/03/15 12:18 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, it's just 2 months, so there's that. You'll get over it soon enough.
As for the work, you need to find a balance otherwise one part of your life will constantly be smothered by the other
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: Patlal]
#22182849 - 09/03/15 12:25 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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two months is nothing man. You will get over that quite quickly unless your some weird obsessed creeper.
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: Patlal]
#22182959 - 09/03/15 12:54 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Patlal said: Well, it's just 2 months, so there's that. You'll get over it soon enough.
As for the work, you need to find a balance otherwise one part of your life will constantly be smothered by the other
solid advice.
you're right that you might be a little codependent. Many of us are.
Have you tried meditation? I know it gets thrown around a ton here, but the simple act of sitting with yourself and finding comfort being alone is hugely satisfying.
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JustForToday
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I mean I don't care for her that much. But that's not the point. I want to connect with someone.. and I agree I need to find balance but I don't have any because I'm always working or doing something.
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sounds like you found your problem and you know what you have to do.
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memes
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sounds like you need to fall in love with a colleague
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JustForToday
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: memes]
#22184846 - 09/03/15 08:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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There are definitely alot of hot ones where I work. That is for sure.
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zappaisgod
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That is asking for trouble
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: zappaisgod]
#22184876 - 09/03/15 08:31 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: That is asking for trouble
I know. MY sponsor strongly advised me to not fuck around with my coworkers.
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: memes]
#22185275 - 09/03/15 09:29 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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memes said: sounds like you need to fall in love with a colleague
it always works out
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Ok, enough cradling the baby.. JFT, go on out there and get'm champ..you'll be just fine..
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JustForToday
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Re: MY girlfriend just left me [Re: Amanita86]
#22186620 - 09/04/15 07:16 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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And i'm done messing with girls at my own meetings. It's ridiculous.
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Anonymous #1
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JustForToday said: I always feel better when I have someone I can talk to about my problems besides my sponsor.
Sounds like your military (only time I've heard sponsor has been talking to military) Its only two months. Like others stated find a coworker, or just play the field for a while. look for someone whos just as busy and can hook up and act like a relationship when the time is right and the rest of the time just be whatever
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Thayendanegea
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He's in AA...hence (sponsor). You've made a couple good choices there JFT...showing some growth.
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Anonymous #1
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Thayendanegea said: He's in AA...hence (sponsor). You've made a couple good choices there JFT...showing some growth.
Ah makes sense with the sponsor part (i forgot those programs do it as well)
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