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Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females
#22181118 - 09/02/15 11:14 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well I'm not sure how things are gonna work with me and my current girlfriend so basically I might consider looking for a new one soon or at least a good fuck buddy.
First I'd have to build the confidence to approach girls. I'm already making progress. I tell a woman who's physicallymy type that she's beautiful/gorgeous all the time now lol. I know that's probably not a good way to hit on them because they don't like getting physical compliments all the time but it's making me less and less scared to approach them.
Just a few months ago I couldn't even say a word to a cute girl I was so terrified lol. Now it's really not even nerve racking in any way to make small talk or compliment them.
Practice makes perfect..and the only way to get over your fears is to face them. Now granted I'm not particularly attractive to women and the chances of any of them actually wanting a 5'9 a non-stop glorious hair sporting guy with fairly average facial features-other than the fucked up slutty crazy girls who are basically dumps for all the genetically defective sperm in America- are very slim realistically speaking based on my experience and observations of people. But dammit this is getting to be like the lottery, the chances are slim but it's addicting to keep trying lol. If that comparison makes sense.
I guess that's the right way to think about this subject matter..it's like the lottery. It's always fun and a little exciting to try even if you know the odds are massively against you lol
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan] 1
#22181130 - 09/02/15 11:18 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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The odds really aren't all that massively against you, as long as you don't keep filming the girls you have sex with without their consent, and tell girls' families that you fucked their daughter/whatever to get back at them. Most girls don't like it when psychopathic lunatics do things like that, like you described doing in that thread a long time ago.
However, if you just don't do those things, and act like a reasonable and respectful human being, most worthwhile chicks would probably be happy to spend some time with you.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Sheekle] 1
#22181139 - 09/02/15 11:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well that's really irrelevant because back when I made those threads I was on testosterone raising drugs and they made me kinda an asshole fuck lol.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181145 - 09/02/15 11:21 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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When I was trying get over my fear I would, for example, go to a cute girl who was working the cash register at a store and while she was checking out my items I would look for something small to compliment her on (tattoos, piercings, eyes if nothing else) and just give a small smile and say "I like your _______" in which she would smile/blush and smile back and say "thank you" and then I'd say "You're welcome" and continue on about my day. It makes them feel good and you don't look like a creeper  After a while you start slowly learning how to keep the conversation going but girls seem to love small compliments that they think are genuine. When you point out something that they seem really passionate about (the tattoo or piercing or whatever, something they clearly enjoy) then it seems to flatter them more than just simply calling them beautiful. In my opinion anyways.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Kush_Zombie]
#22181174 - 09/02/15 11:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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When I was tripping on acid the other week at a festival, there was some chick at this drum circle tent who said she liked my shirt and that she wanted it. So obviously I said thanks and told her how I made it and had more nd stuff, like, we had a little 10 second small-talk thing.
But, afterwards I felt intimated by her for some reason after, she was so gorgeous and care-free seeming, something about her vibe really took my mind for a spin. So I spent the rest of the day avoiding that tent, LOL!
Then the next day I took more acid, and I went up to her and said "high five high five high five high five high five" and we high-fived a bunch of times, then I didn't feel as intimidated by her anymore. I hope I see her again at some other festival
I also kept high-fiving some security people over and over, and going back to do it again and again, for like, a really long time. One of the security people tried getting me escorted away for the excessive high-fiving, although I learned the next day it was simply because I was causing some sore hands in the process.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181182 - 09/02/15 11:28 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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MagicalOrangutan said: Well that's really irrelevant because back when I made those threads I was on testosterone raising drugs and they made me kinda an asshole fuck lol.
I don't think the idea of ever sending videos of you having sex with someone to their relatives and saying "Look, this is me having sex with your daughter/sister/niece/w.e" is anywhere remotely near a reasonable or healthy train of though, regardless of testosterone levels.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Sheekle]
#22181198 - 09/02/15 11:31 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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MagicalOrangutan said: Well that's really irrelevant because back when I made those threads I was on testosterone raising drugs and they made me kinda an asshole fuck lol.
I don't think the idea of ever sending videos of you having sex with someone to their relatives and saying "Look, this is me having sex with your daughter/sister/niece/w.e" is anywhere remotely near a reasonable or healthy train of though, regardless of testosterone levels.

That's not cool. But it's good that you seem to have learned that that (obviously) isn't right. Don't dwell on it or take it personal but definitely learn from that mistake and move on.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181219 - 09/02/15 11:35 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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God fucking damn. Back when I had great hair I got asked out by SO many completely GORGEOUS women and just froze up and ended the conversation and let the offer go by every single fucking time. I can't fucking believe that.
I just automatically always assumed that they couldn't have been serious and that my short nerdy self could never stand a chance with such beautiful girls.
What a fucking retard I was. Now that I don't even have good hair I never even get looked at by anyone let alone asked out...meh. Back when I had the chance I passed it up. GODDAMM unbelievable. Whatever.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan] 1
#22181222 - 09/02/15 11:37 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think you're delusional and girls don't really care as much about physical appearance as they do personality.
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan] 1
#22181225 - 09/02/15 11:38 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Would you stop with the hair shit already? Every time you post, I know at some point you're gonna talk about hair and how it got you laid in the past and it's absence is keeping you from it now.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Shroomslip]
#22181246 - 09/02/15 11:44 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, honestly I think guys care way more about looks than girls. I've seen some fine girls with some (I assume) ugly or chubby dudes just because of who they are as a person. Of course a lot of them are after money but those aren't even worth bothering with in my opinion. Sounds like you had the right idea with that one chick you kept high fiving as far as your taste in women goes. Some girls are just really down to earth like that. But honestly, and this is seriously the best advice I can give you right now: YOU NEED TO LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF your problems aren't your looks or what you say half the time, it's your confidence level. It'll take some time but focus on loving yourself before you ever consider a relationship. Your insecurities will eat you alive man. Besides, once you learn to love yourself you care less and less about whate everyone thinks about how you look. Don't be a dick about loving yourself, just REALLY learn to intimately love yourself as a person.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181248 - 09/02/15 11:45 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Personality FTW
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Weiliithinker]
#22181260 - 09/02/15 11:48 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Money FTW
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Shroomslip]
#22181263 - 09/02/15 11:49 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well dammit that really is true. I have more confidence now than when I had great hair. Random BEAUTIFUL physically perfect, we're talking zero stomach flab huge breasted girls that look like models- would without ever even talking to me before, come up and ask me on a date. At least once a week. Now I NEVER get asked out even by trashy unattractive chicks.
It's definitely not a negative change in personality that's causing this drastic change in how desirable I am to them..it's something physical. The only thing that's really changed is my hair so I just assume it's that.
I just get mad because I don't feel as though whatever physical changes I've gone through in the last 5 years should be making such an extreme difference in how much girls want me..
...but this is kinda getting off topic.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181276 - 09/02/15 11:52 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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MagicalOrangutan said: Well dammit that really is true. I have more confidence now than when I had great hair. Random BEAUTIFUL physically perfect, we're talking zero stomach flab huge breasted girls that look like models- would without ever even talking to me before, come up and ask me on a date. At least once a week. Now I NEVER get asked out even by trashy unattractive chicks.
It's definitely not a negative change in personality that's causing this drastic change in how desirable I am to them..it's something physical. The only thing that's really changed is my hair so I just assume it's that.
I just get mad because I don't feel as though whatever physical changes I've gone through in the last 5 years should be making such an extreme difference in how much girls want me..
...but this is kinda getting off topic.
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181288 - 09/02/15 11:55 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Honestly the fact that when I was good looking, I got asked out by DOZENS of GORGEOUS absolutely perfect women and now they don't even look at me..that means that'yeah looks really do matter that much even if you're a guy trying to attract women.
Don't be naive..seeing any number of unattractive guys with beautiful women doesn't mean anything those guys are being used
But back to the topic. I would say that the absolute best way to build your confidence is to get so use to rejection that it doesn't bother you anymore.
"Loving yourself" in itself doesn't do anything. It's not all that's required
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan]
#22181290 - 09/02/15 11:56 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kush are you saying that I'm lying? I'm not even exaggerating at all..
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: MagicalOrangutan] 3
#22181296 - 09/02/15 11:58 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lol I'm not saying anything anymore actually. Good day and best of luck to you
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Kush_Zombie]
#22181308 - 09/03/15 12:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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LOL
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Re: Slowly but surely getting over my life long phobia of females [Re: Kush_Zombie]
#22181311 - 09/03/15 12:04 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You act like you're so important that I or anyone cares if you are or are not going to continue posting? Bye tho lol
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