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thecoloradokid
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Registered: 08/30/15
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I just found out(4 days ago) that my grandma has stage 4 lung cancer and she will not be here for my sons birthday in 3 weeks. I am not even really sure how to feel because I am kind of numb at the moment. When I think on it I stop having the ability to breathe, literally. It as if my lung seize and stop expanding and contracting. I have been drinking pretty heavily when everyone goes to bed at night. I feel like I am lucid dreaming and cannot wake up when I am not drinking. I just moved back to the state she lives from Colorado 3 months ago, I didn't expect her to be gone this soon. Two months ago she had a scan and some tests and there was no cancer in her body. Two months later and she only has 3 weeks to live. I have no clue how to cope, I know it is not good to shove all the feelings and whatnot down deep inside I need to deal with them. I just have no clue how to.
When she is gone the only family I will have is my 2 sons.
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circastes
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I really feel for you man...
Surely the docs would be able to hook you up with a community-funded counselor, someone specialised in these matters? You can talk to those people to your heart's content, it's like having a really good smart friend specialised in your problem.
Try and keep your head up until that happens. Keep hydrated if you're drinking a lot, and keep eating. And trrryyy to limit intake as if you get fully addicted it can really spiral. I've got an alcoholic friend who says "it's just GOT me", and this is a guy who has been on H and meth, and he kicked those easily compared to this.
Good luck.
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thecoloradokid
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I have been trying to keep busy during the day. Like today, I installed a new hand rail and a handle on the outside of the front door jam. My aunt, who lives with my grandma now, is going to have to come live with me. I also installed hand rails in the bathroom for her. I am pretty sure I can keep it together, it is just harder at night when it is quiet and everyone is sleeping.
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yogabunny
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thecoloradokid said: I just found out(4 days ago) that my grandma has stage 4 lung cancer and she will not be here for my sons birthday in 3 weeks. I am not even really sure how to feel because I am kind of numb at the moment. When I think on it I stop having the ability to breathe, literally. It as if my lung seize and stop expanding and contracting. I have been drinking pretty heavily when everyone goes to bed at night. I feel like I am lucid dreaming and cannot wake up when I am not drinking. I just moved back to the state she lives from Colorado 3 months ago, I didn't expect her to be gone this soon. Two months ago she had a scan and some tests and there was no cancer in her body. Two months later and she only has 3 weeks to live. I have no clue how to cope, I know it is not good to shove all the feelings and whatnot down deep inside I need to deal with them. I just have no clue how to.
When she is gone the only family I will have is my 2 sons.
I'm so sorry.
My Mom was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer at the end of October last year. The first Doctor gave her a year to live. She went for a second opinion at a bigger hospital and they put her on a pretty intense chemo/radiation treatment, and after her recent scans she is completely in remission with no sign of cancer in her body.
Did they say why only 3 weeks?
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thecoloradokid
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She is unable to handle and sort of surgery or chemo therapy and they said that for it to have come on this bad in 2-3 months that she had only weeks to live.
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