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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: The Moose]
#22168567 - 08/31/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I stopped being friends with this dude I used to be really close with because he fucked my ex Never looked back. Made me realize how much of a dick he was to begin with. He was always trying to fuck our other friends' girls.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: xpsprogamer]
#22169044 - 08/31/15 12:57 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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xpsprogamer said: Guys it has nothing to do with the fact that its an ex. it's about the lack of respect the friend has for him. his friend could have gotten his dick wet any where. the friend should have respected his wishes and not gone for it.
so you are saying: if you were given a pizza but after a few slices decided you don't like pineapple so you put the pizza outside where anyone could have a slice but because you had a slice you don't want your friend to have a slice and call him a crappy friend if he helps himself?
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: CosmicFool]
#22169055 - 08/31/15 12:59 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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At a basic level it comes down to "i had that once therefore no one I know should ever have it"
But I can see how it makes things akward and could break up the friendship, it its painful for you to see that girl with your friend and they end up together you might stop seeing that friend, but he still isnt ultimately doing anything wrong, you are just hung up.
All is fair in love and war they say. Not true perhaps but if he really likes the girl and she really likes him, shit is going to happen and a friend's hurt feelings are not going to stop it.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Moonshoe]
#22169081 - 08/31/15 01:08 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I mean I can understand feeling awkward about the roommate situation with this going on, but yeah this notion of eternal dibs on someone you're not with any more is bullshit.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: psi]
#22169099 - 08/31/15 01:12 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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This thread... The bro advice is great hehe. Forgive and forget right? Up to you. I would put it behind me. At least let him know whats up if you decide not to hang out any more, saying no hard feelings but you cant be around him any more. Live your own life.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: initiatethehello]
#22169146 - 08/31/15 01:24 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I would wanna move out too.
Starting a fight might lead to more fights.
Ive been in a similar situation before too. A new girlfriend started getting close to my best friend, then it got romantic. We werent Ex's thou, just long distance.
I would move out, its tough real tough to be betrayed by a friend and your Ex at the same time. Real hard.
Time to get out. It wont stop bothering you, i promise u that.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#22169166 - 08/31/15 01:28 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I mean I understand, if my wife and I broke up and she started dating my best friend it would be really rough and would probably lead to me not seeing my best friend any more. But ideally I would love to be so cool with myself and life that It wouldn't bother me. In theory it shouldn't but in reality we are human and our primate egos are still very active with all the possessiveness and insecurity that goes along with it.
But we can transcend that stuff and must try our best to.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Moonshoe]
#22169297 - 08/31/15 01:59 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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thanks for the replies everyone.
i may have definitely overreacted at the time of posting this, but i still stand by my sentiments. i've been so good to this dude for so long despite him acting in really inappropriate highly self-centered ways.
i've had discomfort with him for quite sometime now and this was just the cherry on the top.
again, thank you all for your opinions.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: initiatethehello] 1
#22169389 - 08/31/15 02:25 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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If my friend asked me not to bang some girl then I wouldn't do it, especially if it was someone he had a serious relationship with at some point. There are literally billions of girls he could've had sex with. He chose to disrespect you and that just doesn't seem like something a friend would do. If it was me I would move out, but you have to make your own decisions. I don't know how close you guys actually are.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Lophosaurus]
#22169402 - 08/31/15 02:28 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You say that but if there was sufficient chemistry, you were immensely attracted to her, your personalities clicked, you fell in love with her etc, you most likely WOULD.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Moonshoe]
#22169458 - 08/31/15 02:39 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Nope, if it was a friends girl I would never let it get that far. I'm attracted to lots of girls with similar personalities who are off limits and I never try to mess around with them. Well I'm married now, but in my single days I would never try anything with my friends girls.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Lophosaurus]
#22169474 - 08/31/15 02:43 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lophosaurus said: If my friend asked me not to bang some girl then I wouldn't do it, especially if it was someone he had a serious relationship with at some point. There are literally billions of girls he could've had sex with. He chose to disrespect you and that just doesn't seem like something a friend would do. If it was me I would move out, but you have to make your own decisions. I don't know how close you guys actually are.
"If my friend asked me not to bang some girl then I wouldn't do it"
I would never ask in the first place, it's embarrassing and degrading to ask another male to NOT stick his dick into some female.
It shows the world that you're a pathetic little bitch that's afraid of a dick being in something you used to fuck yourself, "because it might hurt your feelings". 
Some of you guys act like a bunch of little girls instead of men, WTF? Have some fucking pride and at least act like you don't give a shit!!
Edited by qman (08/31/15 02:44 PM)
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: qman]
#22169508 - 08/31/15 02:50 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thats a bit harsher way of saying but generally how I feel to. If its over its over. You cant have it both ways. You can expect your friends NOT to make a move on a girl you are with and be totally within your rights, but you can't ask them not to make a move on a girl you are not even with. There is simply no grounds for it.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: Moonshoe]
#22169587 - 08/31/15 03:02 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Moonshoe said: Thats a bit harsher way of saying but generally how I feel to. If its over its over. You cant have it both ways. You can expect your friends NOT to make a move on a girl you are with and be totally within your rights, but you can't ask them not to make a move on a girl you are not even with. There is simply no grounds for it.
yeah, for sure. never did I tell him he couldn't. i just said nice and clear, 'yeah dude, it would bother me.' there are so many beautiful fish in the sea, why choose the one that would inflict discomfort and suffering on a friend just to get your dick wet.
but yeah, i didn't pee on her or anything.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: initiatethehello]
#22169597 - 08/31/15 03:03 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Its easy to say "there are a lot of beautiful fish in the sea" but in many cases people have a very hard time finding anyone and for some people sex and relationships can be a real struggle. I know for sure there are a lot of people who go a long time without any real opportunities, and for those people if a girl shows interest, its not so easy saying no with no guarantee you will get another chance any time soon.
Don't get me wrong I totally get where you are coming from, but the best way to "get back" at them is just to be cool and happy and not let it bother you.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: qman]
#22169627 - 08/31/15 03:09 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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qman said:
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Lophosaurus said: If my friend asked me not to bang some girl then I wouldn't do it, especially if it was someone he had a serious relationship with at some point. There are literally billions of girls he could've had sex with. He chose to disrespect you and that just doesn't seem like something a friend would do. If it was me I would move out, but you have to make your own decisions. I don't know how close you guys actually are.
"If my friend asked me not to bang some girl then I wouldn't do it"
I would never ask in the first place, it's embarrassing and degrading to ask another male to NOT stick his dick into some female.
It shows the world that you're a pathetic little bitch that's afraid of a dick being in something you used to fuck yourself, "because it might hurt your feelings". 
Some of you guys act like a bunch of little girls instead of men, WTF? Have some fucking pride and at least act like you don't give a shit!!
If my friend would be a pathetic little prick for asking, it wouldn't influence how I acted. He's still my friend and I wouldn't do that to him. Why hurt his feelings when I could just get another girl.
I think this situation is different than most because he lives with his best friend and still has feelings for this girl. He's going to have to see them making out on the couch and hear them having sex in his own house. I don't think it was wrong of him to ask his friend not to get with his ex. Actually he shouldn't even have to ask, his friend should just know to find a different girl.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: initiatethehello]
#22169695 - 08/31/15 03:25 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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How long has it been since you and your ex broke up?
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: nicechrisman]
#22170118 - 08/31/15 05:17 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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His friend showed no regard for his feelings and a lack of respect towards him as a person. His friend being in his apartment and pushy about it makes it even worse.
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Re: silly question. just curious on what you'd do. [Re: CosmicFool]
#22171797 - 08/31/15 10:47 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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CosmicFool said:
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xpsprogamer said: Guys it has nothing to do with the fact that its an ex. it's about the lack of respect the friend has for him. his friend could have gotten his dick wet any where. the friend should have respected his wishes and not gone for it.
so you are saying: if you were given a pizza but after a few slices decided you don't like pineapple so you put the pizza outside where anyone could have a slice but because you had a slice you don't want your friend to have a slice and call him a crappy friend if he helps himself?
Pizza compared to an intimate relationship with a human...
...yeeaah ok, there's been times when the pizza finally shows up and it's just like that.. fair enough.
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