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Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other?
#22167325 - 08/31/15 12:21 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I personally will be popping the question soon and curious on ideas on how to deliver the question.
Peronally I was thinking of a nice winery, finding a nice romantic spot and going for it.
What are you ideas?
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus] 1
#22167326 - 08/31/15 12:22 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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put a ring on my dick ( i have a small penis) and get her to suck it off.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: mollymadman]
#22167328 - 08/31/15 12:23 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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hahahahaha, not quite what i was looking for. Thanks though!
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus] 1
#22167334 - 08/31/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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via text.
seems like all the cool kids are doing that shit these days.
nah.. i vote for the winery, specially in paso robles.. that place is nice.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus]
#22167337 - 08/31/15 12:29 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hendodamus said: I personally will be popping the question soon and curious on ideas on how to deliver the question.
A message in a bottle.
No, but seriously; don't do it.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: rackem]
#22167345 - 08/31/15 12:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Cheers the winery option is looking good.
The other idea i had was a mariachi band on our deck with champagne flowing.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus]
#22167420 - 08/31/15 01:14 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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both ideas sound nice 
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: zZZz]
#22168043 - 08/31/15 08:12 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I asked my lady one night just us two and our newborn first son were out on a beach at the lake laying on a blanket having a midnight meal. I went digging in my pocket and she thought I was going for a condom. She cried a lot when she found out what I was really doing lol. That was about 5 years ago. Have 3 kids now.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus]
#22168050 - 08/31/15 08:14 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I hope to God that she brought up getting married, cuz if she didn't and you're just popping the question without her being ready you are in for a terrible marriage.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus]
#22168180 - 08/31/15 09:06 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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One of my greatest regrets is how I proposed to my wife. Would give anything to go back and do it differently, but she never minded and we are happy as baked clams.
A really nice vacation in a romantic place such as on a beach or scenic vista with wine and picnic is the way IMO.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hendodamus]
#22168187 - 08/31/15 09:11 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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First time around, there really was no proposal. It was more like a mutual agreement. Kinda hard to explain, but was basically "if we get married then I can stay here with you instead of moving out of state with my parents". We were engaged for 11 months and then had a falling out. Couple years later, got back together and I can't remember what was said because it was a period in my life when I was pretty strung out. Got married and have been for 10 years now.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Shroomslip] 2
#22168191 - 08/31/15 09:15 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I proposed to my wife in a mental hospital 
But to be fair I was crazy at the time so it seemed like a good idea. In front of my friends and family.
But she said yes, and I always figure if she said yes when I was at my worst, that portends good things for our marriage, and nine years together we are going very strong.
We got married on a beautiful beach destination wedding on the Islands so that was lovely. But she deserved a romantic proposal but I wasn't thinking straight 
Everytime I apologize for it she laughs and says it doesnt matter.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Moonshoe]
#22168209 - 08/31/15 09:25 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I wouldn't.
I don't believe in marriage
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Patlal]
#22168216 - 08/31/15 09:27 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Neither did we
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Patlal]
#22168231 - 08/31/15 09:30 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I never understand it when someone says something like that.
Find someone you love and want to spend your life with, what's the problem?
Just seems like people who say that are too afraid to actually be tied down or for some reason feel the relationship isn't going to last, which if that's true, why even stay in it in the first place?
I got married because I knew who I wanted to spend my life with. I don't need to worry about losing half of everything in the divorce or whatever else people say to justify that stance. I'm not going into the relationship expecting it to fail.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Moonshoe]
#22168233 - 08/31/15 09:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I stick to my convictions
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Patlal]
#22168250 - 08/31/15 09:35 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Everyone sticks to their convictions until something happens in their life that completely changes how they think about those convictions.
Its easy to say you will never get married before you fall in love with the love of your life.
That said there is nothing wrong with living together and being in love and not getting married and many advantages to that.
But I love married life.
But then everyone does, until they get divorced. Overall not getting married is the "smarter" option, that or get a prenup. But there are many advantages to marriage as well depending on circumstance.
For example, by getting married I obtained a free fully paid off house worth 300 000 - .5 million dollars. Never knew that would happen when we did it, but it came about as a result.
You also get a lot of respect from other people when you are married, for whatever reason.
People respect you as a person more and your relationship more.
If you do get married just get a good prenup. We don't have one, but so far we have been lucky to be super happy together and marriage is bliss. But I have seen many horror stories result from marriage including my own parents nasty divorce after THIRTY FIVE YEARS of marriage so I am under no illusions that things couldn't change.
We have discussed how we would handle it if we fell apart, I don't think it would happen, but if it does I expect/hope it would be a simple and civil thing.
We both maintain seperate jobs, incomes and bank accounts/debts and I think that is a great idea for any married couple as I have seen marriages often suffer when people mix up marriage with business and money.
Keep these seperate!
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22168254 - 08/31/15 09:36 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: I never understand it when someone says something like that.
Find someone you love and want to spend your life with, what's the problem?
There is no problem at all. Marriage is not a prerequiste to stay with someone your whole life
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Shroomslip said:
Just seems like people who say that are too afraid to actually be tied down or for some reason feel the relationship isn't going to last, which if that's true, why even stay in it in the first place?
That is false. Although I do agree that if you know from the start that it won't last, just don't do it. Marriage has nothing to do with being tied down. In fact I don't like the words "being tied down". It sounds as if I'm being stopped from achieving my dreams or something. Marriage/No marriage has nothing to do with commitment anymore. You can divorce anytime you want.
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Shroomslip said:
I got married because I knew who I wanted to spend my life with. I don't need to worry about losing half of everything in the divorce or whatever else people say to justify that stance. I'm not going into the relationship expecting it to fail.
Good for you.
Now If I want to spend the rest of my life with the girl I love, is it ok with you if I choose not to get married? I just don't believe that a ceremony, a ring and a dress is needed to prove that you love someone. Hell, I should even have to prove that I love her. She should just know by how I treat her
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Patlal]
#22168286 - 08/31/15 09:46 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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No it's not okay. Get married damnit 
I don't really give a shit what you or anyone does or doesn't do with their life. I was just expressing an opinion. I really don't understand the people who go out of their way to say they don't believe in marriage. It's such a ridiculous statement. It's usually even said by the same people who tell others not to get married because then the chick is gonna get half when it doesn't work out.
P.S. There was no real ceremony or dress or ridiculous money spent on our wedding. We got married by a judge.
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Edited by Shroomslip (08/31/15 09:50 AM)
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Shroomslip]
#22168334 - 08/31/15 10:08 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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The only wedding I was ever at was done in a private house.. a nice house but a random house, by some old timer. It was effectively a keg party. Then the 'reception' I suppose it's called was up at this resturant/bar.. food and shit, pool tables etc.
It was more a party than a ceremony. That's how we do round here. They're still together, three chitlins running around and the whole 9..
I even took my hat off during the vows..
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Amanita86] 2
#22168363 - 08/31/15 10:16 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Our wedding was six people, me, my wife, my mother and three of our best friends. We got married on a beach in tobago by an ex-convict christian priest with prison tattoos, and the waves were too loud to hear what anyone was saying. The sun came out on a rainy day for exactly 2 hours, when we had scheduled to be married. I was starting to panic about the weather and then the sun came out over the beach just in time and stayed nice for the whole thing, then we went out and ate lobster and steak and drank.
It was wonderful in retrospect, and cheap. We stayed at an all inclusive resort.
My sister spent 10k for a huge classic wedding in a fancy hotel with numerous guests and the big cake and dress and the whole 9.
By brother's marriage (which was small) already fell apart and he and his wife are no longer together.
My wifes sister had a traditional hindi wedding which is even more extravagant then the western version with gold, an elephant, countless guests, good, etc. It cost a fortune paid by a wealthy grandfather.
They were given a house as a wedding gift.
The wedding lasted less then one year.
The majority of marriages either end in divorce or are unhappy.
About 50% end in divorce and of the remaining 50% at least half are relatively to severely unhappy in the marriage and infidelity occurs in about 30% at least.
The picture of marriage is relatively grim and the odds are relatively bad. The costs and risks can be severe, and marriage will not create love where it doesn't exist nor sustain it if it will otherwise end.
Love matters, not marriage.
I say this as a very happily married man.
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Edited by Moonshoe (08/31/15 10:37 AM)
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Moonshoe]
#22168433 - 08/31/15 10:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's what I'm saying.. not to get too sappy but if I ever get married it won't be in the bahamas.. that rain cutting out you're talking about, and getting that crisp clear sun, or the post rain smell and feel, shit you can't script that. That's a sign right there. I'd do it in the rain, Im not one of those people who runs from the grocery store to the car when its raining... if anything I walk slower.
That ex con convert with the tats is the cherry on top.. fuck a hotel wedding, I'm not getting married inside some building.. I forsee any wedding Im apart of being about as precisely scripted as being on the beach, maybe three days... todays when we show, this day we get married, this day we all head back to work.. come and go as you please.. and take some pictures to trade around for later...
of course I would have it strategically planned that on the day we schedule for everyone to go their separate ways me and the missus would have 2 or so days after that to hang out by ourselves, but that just goes with the territory..
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Moonshoe]
#22168480 - 08/31/15 10:43 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Moonshoe said: an elephant
lol, I missed that the first go round. Where do you find an elephant at??
See, we couldn't have that around here because that conversation would go from "where'd the elephant come from?" to.. "elephants like beer?" in a heartbeat..
Either that or someone would blow a few shot guns up his trunk and start trying to ride him through the surf..
Actually.. put that on the list.
Kegs, Food, ...elephant.  Plates Silverware..
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Amanita86]
#22168489 - 08/31/15 10:45 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Give her a ring in a box and put an Orange Tesla under the ring and roll with her right after proposing.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Mr. Material]
#22168712 - 08/31/15 11:34 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd probably set up a picnic lunch for us on the beach or something and ask the question then.
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Re: Ideas : How would/did you propose to your significant other? [Re: Hellogoodbyedeath]
#22171386 - 08/31/15 09:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Some very cool and interesting stories and advise peeps. Thanks for sharing 
Im looking forward to the moment , however i decide to finally do it!
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