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maui
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Help
#22148663 - 08/26/15 08:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm going to try to keep this short. I met this girl a couple months ago. She is 19 and I am 20. We hooked up the second time we hung out. It was the first time I had sex when I wasnt drunk. We hung out the next weekend and I asked her out. She was reluctant, saying that she didnt know if she was ready for a relationship (she has a 14 month old baby). She eventually said yes and things were great.
Now I dont have the best experiences with relationships and I have never once broken up with anyone. I made a solid effort to keep myself from falling for her, until she fell for me. She was everything I wanted (minus the baby). She smoked, she drank, she's funny. We just clicked. So after about 3 weeks in I made the mistake and fell for her. I dont think I've ever had quite the connection with anyone else as I have with her. We had so many good memories and thats what is keeping me from letting her ago... Aside from the sex.
She broke up with me about a month and two weeks into the relationship. It was awful. A couple days later I see her again and we talk and she says she loves me, and she asks me to get back together with her. Basically the next day she breaks up with me again, saying shes not ready for a relationship. We agree to get rid of the labels "boyfriend" and girlfriend" and things were ok for a week or so... but of course its not the same. We've basically just been fucking and there is no longer any real affection on her part.
I'm coming to realize that she is really not the best person for me, being that she has a kid already, she dropped out of highschool, other issues, and we really just dont seem to be getting along anymore despite my extensive efforts... she just doesnt seem to give a damn. But I can't just let her go like that... I dont want to. I miss the things we did and the memories keep me anchored to this idea that maybe there is a chance for us to be happy again together.
Oh yea and I also transferred schools partly because of her (this school is better for me and is where i originally wanted to go).
I'm terrible with dealing with my feelings and I feel like im on drugs that wont wear off... depression.
Would anyone like to give me some advice?
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Re: Help [Re: maui]
#22148735 - 08/26/15 08:22 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If I was in your position, I'd break away from the toxic relationship and wish her well in life
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maui
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That's what I feel is best... I'm just stuck grasping thin air for any hope and I cant stop myself.
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empty space
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Re: Help [Re: maui]
#22148774 - 08/26/15 08:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You are 20 man. You have a lot of life ahead of you and a lot of beautiful women to meet -- women who aren't 19 year old high school drop-outs with kids.
Also, 19 & 20 year olds don't know what they want out of life or relationships yet. I can guaran-damn-tee that you don't want to spend your life with this girl, even if you aren't aware of that yet. And the longer you date a girl with a kid, the harder it is going to be to get out of the relationship. You are 20. That's not your kid. You don't need those feels.
My advice to you is.... on to the next... errr.... few. Colleges have so many beautiful women and most people are just entering into their sexual experimentation phase. Have fun. Have lots of fun.
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maui
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Quote:
empty space said: You are 20 man. You have a lot of life ahead of you and a lot of beautiful women to meet -- women who aren't 19 year old high school drop-outs with kids.
Also, 19 & 20 year olds don't know what they want out of life or relationships yet. I can guaran-damn-tee that you don't want to spend your life with this girl, even if you aren't aware of that yet. And the longer you date a girl with a kid, the harder it is going to be to get out of the relationship. You are 20. That's not your kid. You don't need those feels.
My advice to you is.... on to the next... errr.... few. Colleges have so many beautiful women and most people are just entering into their sexual experimentation phase. Have fun. Have lots of fun.
Thanks, This helps.
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Re: Help [Re: maui]
#22149989 - 08/27/15 06:17 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dude this is a blessing in disguise. You have a fuck buddy.
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