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Mr.GuessWork
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22135832 - 08/24/15 02:45 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You've got to love good siblings.
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psi
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06] 1
#22135856 - 08/24/15 02:50 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Was not following the entire thread but good for you, things sounded pretty fucked up. Not sure where things are at with your ex's friend but personally I would suggest looking outside of your ex's social circle entirely for a new partner.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: psi]
#22136675 - 08/24/15 05:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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still think a 3some should happen
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22136832 - 08/24/15 06:21 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Good job OP and good luck again. Have faith in yourself because you can get through this. Glad your sister helped you out. Just focus on getting healthy and happy. Did you manage to get all your stuff?
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: pachoo] 3
#22137092 - 08/24/15 07:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I got about half of it I'll be going back with an officer to.get the rest and they advized him not to touch any of my stuff and I a so took the pictures so I sold be fine with that I got a new phone already and a safe place to stay
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06] 1
#22137131 - 08/24/15 07:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm so relieved to see that you're making the smart, safe decision. This is the beginning of your new life. You're in the driver's seat now.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22137162 - 08/24/15 07:29 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It feels good to.have my freedom back though it does
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22137386 - 08/24/15 08:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's going to keep feeling better now that you're out of that situation too. I'm glad the cops could get involved about your stuff. Good call. It's just stuff, but it's still yours.
Yay I'm so happy for you!!
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: pachoo]
#22137618 - 08/24/15 09:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I don't even know where to begin so I'll give my thoughts.
My current girlfriend has gone through my phone twice. She gave me the password to her phone one time i was sitting cross legged on her bed. I just said uhh why? So if you want to. Dude i trust you i have no reason to not. I dont care who your messaging or talking to as long as you come home to me and not being scandalous we're A ok.
Once trust is broken and i have to look through your phone what the fuck are we even doing atm. I did that shit in my past and I'm sick of it.
So i dunno op sounds like a control freak and just kind of a terrible SO in general.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Enjoywho] 1
#22138138 - 08/24/15 11:14 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said:

I don't even know where to begin so I'll give my thoughts.
My current girlfriend has gone through my phone twice. She gave me the password to her phone one time i was sitting cross legged on her bed. I just said uhh why? So if you want to. Dude i trust you i have no reason to not. I dont care who your messaging or talking to as long as you come home to me and not being scandalous we're A ok.
Once trust is broken and i have to look through your phone what the fuck are we even doing atm. I did that shit in my past and I'm sick of it.
So i dunno op sounds like a control freak and just kind of a terrible SO in general.
Agreed. Hypocritical too. Defiant that her boyfriend was mad at her for confiding in one of his friends but when he does the same with another girl she flies off her top? What a joke.
It takes two to tango. Both OP and her boyfriend are to blame.
The rest of you acting as a giant sound board need to stop enabling her.
That is all, peasants.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: MoxyOx]
#22138176 - 08/24/15 11:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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There's a (maybe even good) chance she's leaving out details, but she did admit to fighting back, or even initiating it to begin with. The fact she's willing to admit that kinda supports her side of the story. If she did just want to play victim, she'd probably act like it was totally one sided.
Then there is the argument I made earlier, that regardless of the right or wrong in this situation this relationship just is not healthy for any involved. Whether she's 100% honest or lying through her teeth, there is good reason to say it needs to be done with.
I also think Enjoywho's comment of OP being the controlling one is just a simple oversight (and that he actually meant her boyfriend). OP hasn't really said anything that would lead anyone to believe she is the control freak. Her boyfriend on the other hand though..
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: MoxyOx]
#22138950 - 08/25/15 06:14 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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MoxyOx said: It takes two to tango. Both OP and her boyfriend are to blame.
The rest of you acting as a giant sound board need to stop enabling her.
"Enabling her" to do what exactly? Regardless of who can be blamed for what, clearly this was an unhealthy relationship and IMO it's good that it's ending.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22138961 - 08/25/15 06:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: Really proud of you. 
Now. Don't go back.
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Burke Dennings said: Really proud of you. 
Now. Don't go back.
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Burke Dennings said: Really proud of you. 
Now. Don't go back.
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Burke Dennings
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: psi]
#22138967 - 08/25/15 06:33 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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With long threads like this, ones that have a lot of verbose responses, a lot of people skip pertinent info after they focus on one thing. MoxyOxy seems to have done that, as have others. At another forum I lurk at, they have a word for it: "HIPPO", which stands for Happily Ignoring Previous Posts and Opinions. You see a lot of this at boomtown.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22138976 - 08/25/15 06:39 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So wait... your boyfriend is "jealous" and yet... you have "always had a crush on his best friend"..
That is very shady indeed.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Oeric McKenna]
#22138997 - 08/25/15 06:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I believe op is trying to justifying cheating in the most round about way
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Shroomslip]
#22139273 - 08/25/15 07:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: There's a (maybe even good) chance she's leaving out details, but she did admit to fighting back, or even initiating it to begin with. The fact she's willing to admit that kinda supports her side of the story. If she did just want to play victim, she'd probably act like it was totally one sided.
Then there is the argument I made earlier, that regardless of the right or wrong in this situation this relationship just is not healthy for any involved. Whether she's 100% honest or lying through her teeth, there is good reason to say it needs to be done with.
I also think Enjoywho's comment of OP being the controlling one is just a simple oversight (and that he actually meant her boyfriend). OP hasn't really said anything that would lead anyone to believe she is the control freak. Her boyfriend on the other hand though..
I wasn't referring to her but to her bf that was in all the comments i read. But i only read the first 2 pages. So yes that was an oversight in english speaking. 
It's funny though she goes through my phone and that's ok. Even though the bitches i be talking to are really good friends of mine and I've never cheated. I think it's so disrespectful and rude.
She even said after i explained dude those are some homies i don't even think of them like that at all. My last bf cheated on me so it's my own issues. Even though i know if i did go through her shit with permission at this point that fight would be on me.
I just don't care to. I trust you baby. And phones are such personal items these days i don't think anyone should touch mine without permission.
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Edited by Enjoywho (08/25/15 07:29 AM)
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22139387 - 08/25/15 07:36 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: With long threads like this, ones that have a lot of verbose responses, a lot of people skip pertinent info after they focus on one thing. MoxyOxy seems to have done that, as have others. At another forum I lurk at, they have a word for it: "HIPPO", which stands for Happily Ignoring Previous Posts and Opinions. You see a lot of this at boomtown.
I don't think it's ignoring as much as it being easy to miss certain posts in a long thread like this. I totally missed her post where she said they get in to fist fights, but I have 40 posts per page and it's one of the last ones on page 3.
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Burke Dennings
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: larry.fisherman] 1
#22139759 - 08/25/15 08:34 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Whether intentionally or not, relevant info was ignored by many.
However, I did not direct that post at you. I was speaking in general.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22139777 - 08/25/15 08:40 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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glad to hear you're making positive changes op.
don't second guess it later
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