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burningstar06
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#22133667 - 08/24/15 01:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I packed my bags and took the pictures I was going to leave but it was so emotional me and my boyfriend ended up crying on the floor together I gave him one more chance and if he blows it I'm gone
The thing was I was gunna stay at his friends house I wasn't going to cheat on my boyfriend I just wanted space and I didn't have anywhere else to go at 12:30 at night so my boyfriends dad was all like she's just going to cheat on you and if she goes there I wont let her back into the house
I just didn't have it in me to go I was almost out the door and when I saw my boyfriends face and how sad he ws and that he was crying I just couldn't do it he almost had a panick attack
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burningstar06
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22133670 - 08/24/15 01:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Now I feel like complete shit I just want to numb out
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nicechrisman
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06] 1
#22133675 - 08/24/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hang in there
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: nicechrisman]
#22133688 - 08/24/15 01:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OP maybe your boyfriend is borderline.. Kind of sounds like it really, with the black and white extreme rationality and all.
Anyway, good luck to you. Do what makes you happy but you guys need to have a real talk.
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22133694 - 08/24/15 01:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I still say you're probably best off leaving him.
But I hope for the best for you regardless of what you decide.
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Edited by CookieCrumbs (08/24/15 01:58 AM)
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Acaterpillar
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#22133707 - 08/24/15 01:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: I still say you're probably best off leaving him.
But I hope for the best for you regardless of what you decide.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22133726 - 08/24/15 02:06 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I literally just made a post about how I was surprised you took everyone's advice so quickly and actually decided to leave him. How usually it takes months/years for someone to open their eyes and realize what everyone has been telling them all along was the truth and the only answer.
Instead, you caved. "1 more chance" yeah and then it'll be another and another and another. No matter how many times he proves to you that he cannot or will not change, you're just going to keep giving him chances.
I'm not trying to be a dick, but really? Please spare us of the post in a couple of weeks you're going to feel compelled to make about how he didn't change and you don't know what to do.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Shroomslip]
#22133732 - 08/24/15 02:13 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I feel like she probably caved because it happened so soon.
Don't "spare us" the post. You really need to seriously reevaluate everything about this situation, whether you stay or not, Burningstar.
Oh and fuck what your boyfriend's father says. He's the one that raised the fine piece of work that has your life on lockdown.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#22133746 - 08/24/15 02:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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This isn't the type of decision that needs to be drug out. Actually the sooner the better. Should she just wait around until he progresses to breaking bones and shit? Maybe she should wait until he goes full blown psycho and actually puts her in a life threatening situation? She caved because he's familiar and they've been together for so long. No matter how toxic the relationship she's going to want to stay, at least until she ends up in the hospital or a morgue or something drastic.
And yes spare us the post, that is my opinion, but I doubt I'm alone in it. If you don't want to take the advice given, then don't ask for it. It'll just be another 5+ pages of pretty much everyone unanimously telling her she needs to leave and that the situation she's in is completely fucked up, which at the end of the saga, she will decide to stay again. Thus repeating the cycle. This shit will just keep coming full circle, so let's just not.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Shroomslip]
#22133754 - 08/24/15 02:42 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You dummy. Enjoy the knuckle sandwiches and Hawaiian punch I guess...
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Matt87]
#22134363 - 08/24/15 07:45 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well what the hell OP.... good luck I guess.
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Mr.GuessWork
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: pachoo]
#22134468 - 08/24/15 08:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You should at least set yourself up so you can leave at the drop of a hat if you want to, OP. You still have the initial problem, and you may want to leave later. You should cut down on your hard-to-move valuables and start saving money.
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Burke Dennings
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06] 1
#22134531 - 08/24/15 08:44 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Burningstar06, of course he seemed sad and remorseful, it's part of the cycle of abuse. Please familiarize yourself with it so you can see it as it happens.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse
And maybe it wouldn't be so bad if you had done something that would've made your bf's dad not allow you to stay in the house. It'd keep you from going back into a dangerous situation. What you need to be doing right now is getting your ducks in a row. Start figuring out where you're going to stay, how you're going to live, etc because what you're doing right now is worse than many other options available to you. Contact a local battered women's shelter. These people can help you, it's a national domestic abuse hotline: 1-800-799-7233 They can offer advice, resources, all the pertinent info. No one will judge you, and frankly, the only embarrassing thing about your situation is that you're staying in it.
Please act on this. I'm worried that you're not understanding the full gravitas of what is happening to you. If you need to talk in private, please contact myself or my fiancé sun_spots. User CookieCrumbs has also been giving you the excellent advice in here and would probably help in pm.
Don't just sit there and act like serious shit isn't happening to you though.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Burke Dennings]
#22134603 - 08/24/15 09:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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The worlds full of trash men and shit boys.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Shroomslip]
#22134631 - 08/24/15 09:21 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Shroomslip said: This isn't the type of decision that needs to be drug out. Actually the sooner the better. Should she just wait around until he progresses to breaking bones and shit? Maybe she should wait until he goes full blown psycho and actually puts her in a life threatening situation? She caved because he's familiar and they've been together for so long. No matter how toxic the relationship she's going to want to stay, at least until she ends up in the hospital or a morgue or something drastic.
And yes spare us the post, that is my opinion, but I doubt I'm alone in it. If you don't want to take the advice given, then don't ask for it. It'll just be another 5+ pages of pretty much everyone unanimously telling her she needs to leave and that the situation she's in is completely fucked up, which at the end of the saga, she will decide to stay again. Thus repeating the cycle. This shit will just keep coming full circle, so let's just not.
This. Toxic relationship is toxic. The relationship is over. Drag it out or move on now. The choice is hers. We can finish up here.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Yage] 1
#22134683 - 08/24/15 09:36 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yage said: The worlds full of trash men and shit boys.
It usually takes two to tangle, case in point.
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: qman]
#22135713 - 08/24/15 02:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
qman said:
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Yage said: The worlds full of trash men and shit boys.
It usually takes two to tangle, case in point.
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burningstar06
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22135751 - 08/24/15 02:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: This isn't the type of decision that needs to be drug out. Actually the sooner the better. Should she just wait around until he progresses to breaking bones and shit? Maybe she should wait until he goes full blown psycho and actually puts her in a life threatening situation? She caved because he's familiar and they've been together for so long. No matter how toxic the relationship she's going to want to stay, at least until she ends up in the hospital or a morgue or something drastic.
And yes spare us the post, that is my opinion, but I doubt I'm alone in it. If you don't want to take the advice given, then don't ask for it. It'll just be another 5+ pages of pretty much everyone unanimously telling her she needs to leave and that the situation she's in is completely fucked up, which at the end of the saga, she will decide to stay again. Thus repeating the cycle. This shit will just keep coming full circle, so let's just not.
I left its over i left today with my sister and i iill be calling the hotline to figure some things out right now im still just rly hurt and in shock it only been an hour so far im going to buy new phone so he dont have my numbe either its over im out the police came by after my sister callef in concern after me not answering my silent phone whil i was sleeping an it was over after that
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Acaterpillar
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22135773 - 08/24/15 02:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Wow, way to pull through. I'm happy for you. 
This path won't be easy in the beginning but it will get better day by day. Eventually one day you'll look back and be thankful for the choices you made.
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Burke Dennings
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Re: When you have a major crush on ur boyfriends good friend.... LADY'S help [Re: burningstar06]
#22135801 - 08/24/15 02:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Really proud of you. 
Now. Don't go back.
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