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Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like..
#22117546 - 08/20/15 04:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well umm I have not been out with a girl since I broke up with a chick whom was fucking crazy & verbally/physically abused me. I was fucked for allowing it to happen but anyways that was almost two years ago now & I have finally dealt with all the mental anguish & feel i'm ready to test the waters again.
Now onto the subject at hand, my best buddy 2-3 years ago I believe maybe even 4 now but honestly don't quite remember. He liked this chick & they hung out alone in her car one night getting stoned listening to good tunes then sometime after that at a party she hooked up with his other really close friend (band mates & such) so he was pretty bummed/pissed at the girl & the friend. The friend & him ended up getting over it & are close again & last I heard him say about the girl was that it was his own fault he didn't let her know how he felt. Since then he has had a few girlfriends & at the moment has been dating a girl for about a year & they clearly are in love & are a perfect match (both are as hippy as they come)
So that girl he used to like for like the past year has been liking all my posts/links on facebook which dosent really mean anything but I said what the hell & just msged her saying I think she seems cool/nice & that we should grab a pint sometime or something & she said she didnt know me too well but I seem like a lax guy & that she would be down to chill but she isn't really looking for anything then went on to say not sure how things will pan out but she is down if I am! . So not sure exactly sure what that meant but I kinda hope it meant she's not looking for anything serious but is down to hook up because she is really damn cute, into nature , good music & etc.
We are going to chill pretty soon & I have been pretty stoked about but then it hit me about my buddy! like I totally forgot now I'm guilt tripping about it. So they never hooked up, he in the past while I was dating that crazy chick hooked up with a chick I liked prior though i'm not sure if he knew I did or not (cant remember) he told me about so I was sorta like wtf? but at same time I never hooked up with her or nothing, then a chick that I dug like all of highschool who I never did anything with but in hindsight it was so obvious I could have but I was pussy & I chilled with her alone all the time etc. He was going to go back packing with her & talked about banging her n shit to me but I was like whatever & was cool with it. So all these things considered I feel like it should be cool if I hang with that chick but should I tell him or just kick it with her & not tell him?
It is possible I am just totally overthinking this all but I seriously would hate to upset the guy because he has been my best buddy for like 15 years.. what do you guys think I should do ? I'm super rusty with the ladies so im pretty nervous about hanging with her but still will be hype lol.
If anyone read all of this thank you! I feel as though I wrote a shit ton haha.
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Re: Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like.. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22117634 - 08/20/15 05:06 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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He never dated her. He never even hooked up with her. He has an amazing girlfriend. If I were you I wouldnt sweat it.
Also, you havent even hung out with her yet, so I think its a little premature to be wondering if he would be pissed off about sex or relationship.
Go with the flow. Have fun!
 
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Re: Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like.. [Re: empty space]
#22117956 - 08/20/15 06:14 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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A real friend will tell you go get it even if they want it and can't get it themselves. Why because a real friend will help not hinder. Besides if he has a girlfriend just tell him infront of her.
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Re: Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like.. [Re: basqueshaman]
#22131706 - 08/23/15 04:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If your friend has that big of a problem with you banging a girl he liked but couldn't get, that's his problem. IMO if he even has a problem with you banging his ex that's his problem.
Basically, if she has no commitment to anyone right now, and you the same, it's fair game. At least to adults.
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Re: Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like.. [Re: 36fuckin5]
#22132588 - 08/23/15 07:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I wouldn't worry about your buddy. If he does end up getting jealous or whatever about it, then he's got problems and should be confronted about not being such a jealous little bitch as much in the future.
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Re: Hanging out with a girl that my best friend used to like.. [Re: fbi365]
#22133412 - 08/23/15 11:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like she's not into you anyways..shouldn't be a problem.
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