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So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me 1
#22114748 - 08/19/15 11:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Waiting on a response
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 3
#22114755 - 08/19/15 11:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So you didn't ask her in person then?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114757 - 08/19/15 11:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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dont wait up man.
do something else in the mean time, try to get ur mind off things.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114760 - 08/19/15 11:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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good luck homey, I'm pulling for ya
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 3
#22114776 - 08/19/15 11:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Shes fucking someone else bro
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114780 - 08/19/15 11:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Waiting on a response
that's a no
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Prisoner#1]
#22114796 - 08/19/15 11:34 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Lol I literally just saw her at work and texted her 2 minutes ago. Pretty sure she's not fucking someone else
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 4
#22114810 - 08/19/15 11:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would suggest asking her either face to face or on the phone, not in text.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114817 - 08/19/15 11:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well I kind of already fucked that one up
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114819 - 08/19/15 11:41 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hey good luck!!
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114822 - 08/19/15 11:41 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Call her right now
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114837 - 08/19/15 11:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Isn't that going to seem weird that I text her and 3 minutes later start calling her? Besides she just got off work so she's probably driving
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman] 2
#22114840 - 08/19/15 11:48 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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calling after a text could look pretty needy
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: 404]
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Yeah good point. I was just thinking from the angle of trying to mitigate the "I just asked you out by text" issue. But you're right.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114924 - 08/20/15 12:10 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You've planted the seed, now let it grow.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: 404] 1
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404 said: calling after a text could look pretty needy
Yea, maybe. I would probably call regardless though.
If she's into OP, I doubt she would be less interested in him just because he text and called.
Good luck, Reb.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: kr0nik0] 2
#22114967 - 08/20/15 12:21 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm glad I finally did it. Got a raise this week and found out I'm gonna be manager, finally asked the girl I like out, will be picking up a bomb 200ug vial soon. Life's looking up guys
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22114971 - 08/20/15 12:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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A vial should have more than 200ug in it.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114978 - 08/20/15 12:23 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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200ug per drop I always word that wrong
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22114983 - 08/20/15 12:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Probably a bad idea to text shit like that. What's done is done though. Just don't do it in the future. Ask them face to face, or at the very least, by phone (with your voice).
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22114986 - 08/20/15 12:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd be quite surprised if it's 200ug per drop.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114991 - 08/20/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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me too. although i suppose it's not impossible.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114992 - 08/20/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just got offered a thumbprint last week. It's 200ug trust me
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#22115004 - 08/20/15 12:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You might have 200ug hits. Monkeys might fly out of my ass.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
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nicechrisman said: You might have 200ug hits. Monkeys might fly out of my ass.
What'd you do to piss Jim Carrey off?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22115012 - 08/20/15 12:32 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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whatever you say man. Around san fransisco they're really not all that uncommon. I mean even some of the wow around here gets up too 200ug but you have to look around and find people in the know.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115068 - 08/20/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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so is she gonna let you dshsb
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: thelanzii]
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I don't know what that means but she hasn't responded yet so I could have just fucked this up she goes out of her way to flirt with me when we see eachother so I'm not sure.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 4
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You've been on the shroomery for over a year and you don't know what DSHSB means? Dude it comes up in like 1 of every 10 threads, minimum.
And what exactly, word for word, did you say in the text?
Texting for a date is really bad move. Women want confidence and that's probably the last confident way to do it. I mean that's like right up there with emailing her and only slightly below having a friend go ask for you.
There may be a way to salvage it, but it really depends on what you said.
Like, if the phrase was "Wanna meet up for some drinks" you can play it off like "wish you coulda made it last night, me and a few friends decided to go have a night out".
At least then you're making it seem as if the invitation was a purely social one.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115114 - 08/20/15 01:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just told her that I was gonna go out to the bars to grab a drink this weekend and was wondering if she wanted to come
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Read my above edits. If that is exactly what you told her, you could save it by making it seem like a totally casual thing, make it 100% obvious it was never a date or something. If you go that route, don't waste a bunch of time trying to convince her, just mention it and put your poker face on.
Next time ask her in person. Absolutely noting counts as much as having confidence. I've admitted I never had this, but I've known plenty of man whores in my life and saw how they operate around women. I honestly never had the balls to do it, but I learned a lot by watching them.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22115123 - 08/20/15 01:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OR yo could just be confident and not give a shit. For all you know her phone is dead and that's why she hasn't texted.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
#22115129 - 08/20/15 01:40 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I hope I didn't just make this super aquward I only see her one day week but still. And I try and have confidence but it's hard to be just completely outgoing and shit
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I mean beyond that obviousness. It's pretty obvious after a certain length of time that it wouldn't be from a dead battery or her just being asleep or not checking her phone or something. After a certain point it's obvious she got the message and just chose not to respond.
Ask someone for a date through text, get no answer, and then ask in person, you're going to come across as desperate. Which alongside creepy, is one of the last things you want to come across as.
He's kind of already blown the confidence thing unless he can rectify it. Which is what I'm trying to help him do. Not giving a shit is a bad play. Pretending to not care, might be a good one, but it really only works when the other party is interested in you as well. That also only works on certain people.
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Rebelutionsssss said: I hope I didn't just make this super aquward I only see her one day week but still. And I try and have confidence but it's hard to be just completely outgoing and shit
To be clear, I'm not proposing you text her tomorrow late morning/early afternoon and say that. It should just be some random comment when you two meet face to face. Mentioned in passing. Think about what you're saying and how you say it, what leads to you even saying it. Should somehow just seem like a normal evolution of whatever conversation you're having. How you set that up, is up to you.
It is true I don't have a lot of practical experience, but I have plenty of observational experience. I am also well versed in body language and social interaction/psychology.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
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It really matters how atached she is to her phone. Some people can't live with out it, some only have it on them 30% of the time. My phone is shit right now, so I have it usually 1 out of 3 days or so.
But I get what you mean. But it really matters, do you guys text a lot, or is it occasional texting? Because if you guys text often, then it is no biggie. If it's like one of the only times you texted, then maybe a big deal.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
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We don't really text much but when I do see her in person she's definitely giving off those signs that she's interested in me. Fuck man I should have just forgot about the whole thing it could be because my ex still works where we work even though we like never see her. I'm just going to go with the fuck it route and forget I ever did this
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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I would argue that that texting all the time does not mean that texting a date request is no biggie. That's just another variable. For some it won't matter, others want to be swept off their feet and may view (even if only at the subconscious level) a texted date request as being weak or unconfident.
Generally it's not the best decision to just chance these things. Which is why I make the recommendations I do. Other than being asked by someone they absolutely don't want to date (because denying it is easier through text) there is pretty much no woman out there who would prefer to be asked out through text. Some may not mind, but almost none are going to prefer it. So it should be done in person.Quote:
Rebelutionsssss said: We don't really text much but when I do see her in person she's definitely giving off those signs that she's interested in me. Fuck man I should have just forgot about the whole thing it could be because my ex still works where we work even though we like never see her. I'm just going to go with the fuck it route and forget I ever did this
Don't give up man. I am a lot like you from all that I've seen on this subject, probably could even say we're twins. I know where you are and I know how you feel. I don't regret being married or who I married, but I do constantly regret never putting myself out there. Even if you end up finding your one without putting yourself out there, this shit will still bug you. Decades after it's not even relevant anymore.
It's very possible she just hasn't seen the message yet, but even if she has, the situation is very salvageable. Assuming she even had a problem with the text invite, you are not anywhere near close to having dug yourself in a hole you can't get out of.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
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Don't give up and shroomslip is being pretty spot on.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
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Thanks guys I guess I'll wait and see what goes down. Most likely the "ohhhhh I would but I'm busy this weekend"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
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If you get that, then just play it off. "Maybe next time" or some shit. Then later (and I don't mean weeks or months) ask for a date/time that's good for her. If she seems interested in you, then all you need to do is approach it the right way. This is where it gets hard to tell you what to do, because predicting entire conversations is impossible. This is the point you wing it. different techniques work on different people and you have to read people to know what path to take. One may respond to the quirky "I won't take no for an answer" another may respond to the heartfelt "I think you're interesting and I'd like to get to know you better" attitude. Or anything in between.
You have all you need. There's no reason to not approach it with confidence. Just be you, and let your instincts guide you.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Well it's good you took the plunge and asked Atleast. Don't push it any further though and wait for a response. It's all speculation untill she responds. She could be busy, battery died, who knows.
Worst case scenario of she does say no, just act normal like nothing ever happened and try not to let it change the way you act around her and all that.
Just gotta wait and see what happens I guess. Hopefully it all goes well though. Good luck!
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
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Social media is a good way to start improving your social skills if you aren't confident face to face Good luck OP
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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I suggest you ask a different girl out while you wait. It'll help you to stop psyching and obsessing over this one girl.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Magenta]
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So she actually did say she can't go this weekend but would love to go out next weekend so is that like a "I'm not interested" or is she just actually busy this weekend?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Sounds like she's actually busy If she really doesn't want to, she'll say the same next weekend. But things are looking good! Just chill, and pass the time until next week. Don't obsess or freak about it.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115241 - 08/20/15 03:31 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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That's a sign of interest. Go with some of your friends too so it doesn't feel like a date, and work your magic getting to know her during the night out with your friends. Don't friend zone your self though, talk with your hands, it displays passion and confidence in what you believe you're saying. Be funny, and for gods sake, don't talk about work. If she brings up work, joke about it in some way.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115252 - 08/20/15 03:39 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Definitely sounds interested. I'd nail down a time and place now.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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I'd just take things at face value and not try to read into them too much. She probably is busy. who knows.
So i would probably just act like nothing has happened and try not to push it too much, and just see where it goes. She knows about it now and it'll be in her mind, so leave it at that.
And i think what magenta said is a good idea too about organising to go out with a group of friends or something like that, so its not just you and her cos those kind of things can be awkward and put alot of pressure on the other person.
Like i think it would be great if you could just be like " well hey we're doing this, come hang out if you want " kind of thing
What Achillita said to. dont obsess over it and start being weird and different. just keep your cool and be the same, after all, thats the you she liked in the first place!
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
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Try to keep it on the low at work too, cos you don't want to get in trouble or cause any problems. Keep in mind your about to become a manager now which is a position that has more responsibility with it and things like harassing women in the work place is not a good look for a manager at all.
Not to make you worried or anything but yeah, deff good to keep things on the low atleast to start at work too. let her lead on that kind of stuff and dont just start creeping her at work and all that.
not to put a downer on things but you gotta keep in mind too things can go really bad if you work with the chick. because drama can get dragged into the work place and it can become a circus. its no bueno having to see your ex everyday or not being able to have the healthy time apart by being forced to see them at work and all that.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115264 - 08/20/15 03:48 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just told her to call me next week when she's free. I hope this works out because she's the same age as me and likes to party I'm pretty sure she rolls too since she hits up edm festivals a lot but we'll find out about that later well cool guys thanks for the advice. I should really stop psyching myself out and have a little more confidence. I would be the night manager anyways and she works days so I don't really see much of her but I'll keep that in mind for sure
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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i dunno what your social situation is like but i reckon its deff a good idea to organise something for next weekend with a group that you can invite her to though
haha sounds good though man. hope it goes well 
is she hot??
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22115281 - 08/20/15 03:57 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I already told her one of our coworkers wants to go who she knows and I was thinking of maybe inviting my really outgoing friend and his girlfriend so she won't be the only girl out there. And yea she's really cute man
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115301 - 08/20/15 04:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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thats awesome dude. sounds like a good idea.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
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now I'm just freaking out about how I'm going to act because I've always been kind of a quite guy. I'm just hoping my really talkative friend will keep the conversation going so things don't get all quiet, which I'm sure won't happen you know.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115311 - 08/20/15 04:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If you get your chance, make her remember you. As I told you in the good date idea thread, times when focus isn't solely on you, are preferable. But that doesn't mean just treat her like she was any other friend. Don't push, but let it be known you are interested in more than that. As Magenta said, don't friendzone yourself.
And for the love of god don't go getting drunk as hell. Just sip on beer or something. Maybe a shot or two to start things off and loosen you up (this is totally dependent on you, I dunno how you are on alcohol, I open up a bit). Have fun, be a part of the group, but show a genuine interest in wanting to know about her. Pay attention to what she's talking about, ask questions, offer your opinions or experiences.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115314 - 08/20/15 04:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: So she actually did say she can't go this weekend but would love to go out next weekend so is that like a "I'm not interested" or is she just actually busy this weekend?
It could be either. I don't know what your rules are but mine are I would wait for her to bring it up again so you don't look thirsty or desperate. Plus if she evades it again, her interest level is self-explanatory.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: bukkake]
#22115320 - 08/20/15 04:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I drink pretty often so I can handle my liquor pretty good but I definitely won't be slamming shots down like nothing. I feel like I'll be able keep a good conversation going with her based on what I sort of already know but who knows. I'm just going to have to keep reminding myself to pay most of my attention to her so she knows where I'm trying to take this. My friend has his appartment all to himself too so I'm thinking once the bars close we can go back there and party till whenever
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115329 - 08/20/15 04:41 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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but remember, you gotta keep in your mind that nothings happened yet. so try not to get caught up in all of it just yet untill anything happens
drinking always helps me settle down and get into my social mode. i kinda have to be drunk a bit to be myself or to get into party mode. otherwise im awkward socially when sober lol
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115571 - 08/20/15 06:58 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Waiting on a response
Have you considered kidnapping?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Patlal]
#22115586 - 08/20/15 07:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Soulidarity said: but remember, you gotta keep in your mind that nothings happened yet. so try not to get caught up in all of it just yet untill anything happens
drinking always helps me settle down and get into my social mode. i kinda have to be drunk a bit to be myself or to get into party mode. otherwise im awkward socially when sober lol
I'm the same way man. Supperrrrr quite until I really start getting into party mode.Quote:
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Have you considered kidnapping?
and I was thinking that but they might ask questions when she doesn't show up for work
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22116504 - 08/20/15 12:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just be silly and joyful and funny and overall just bring great energy towards her and she'll be hooked.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
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So I finally got a drink and asked she to grab the balls with me.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22120599 - 08/21/15 02:59 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Honestly man I feel like this thread and all the responses are kind of bizarre.
"BAD MOVE MAN, U ASKED HER TO COME PARTY WITH U...... VIA TEXT!"
Nah, I feel like our society is a little overly caught-up on the concept of "appearing confident", which is in itself a less-than-confident mentality to possess.
Everybody should just,
Ya know,
Take it easy, man. 
Maybe dance around a bit, shake the dust off a little. C'mon ya'll, shake a tail feather for once. Life's too short for this trash.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Sheekle]
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There's a difference between appearing confident and being confident. Being confident is definitely a key factor in these situations.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Sheekle]
#22120624 - 08/21/15 03:20 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: Honestly man I feel like this thread and all the responses are kind of bizarre.
"BAD MOVE MAN, U ASKED HER TO COME PARTY WITH U...... VIA TEXT!"
Nah, I feel like our society is a little overly caught-up on the concept of "appearing confident", which is in itself a less-than-confident mentality to possess.
Everybody should just,
Ya know,
Take it easy, man. 
Maybe dance around a bit, shake the dust off a little. C'mon ya'll, shake a tail feather for once. Life's too short for this trash.
They're not bizarre. While not universal, these are facts. Texting for a date is a bad move, many people read this as a lack of confidence, it's impersonal and goes a long ways to separate the two people involved. Though I'd argue that it doesn't matter if you are confident or are just appearing to be confident, all that matters is perceived confidence. The confidence really has nothing to do with you. It's a show for whoever you're trying to impress. If they see confidence, then it doesn't matter whether it was an act (so long as you can keep the act up) or if it truly was confidence.
Totally serious. How many women have you asked out and dated?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Sheekle]
#22120851 - 08/21/15 06:37 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: Honestly man I feel like this thread and all the responses are kind of bizarre.
"BAD MOVE MAN, U ASKED HER TO COME PARTY WITH U...... VIA TEXT!"
Nah, I feel like our society is a little overly caught-up on the concept of "appearing confident", which is in itself a less-than-confident mentality to possess.
Everybody should just,
Ya know,
Take it easy, man. 
Maybe dance around a bit, shake the dust off a little. C'mon ya'll, shake a tail feather for once. Life's too short for this trash.
i think society is too caught up on trying to impress other people and the need to be accepted. cos i think most people do all this stuff to impress others and make them think they are cool or more palatable.
but i hate the whole cat and mouse game thing myself. it causes un-necessary problems and alot of times can end up ruining a good thing. My experience has taught me to basically not take anything seriously, not really care about anything or at least not let people know i do, and to try not get suckered into traps or used.
it almost seems like in these kind of things being genuine can actually be detrimental. ' i cant let her know i like her or she wont like me anymore and lose interest ', having to ' be cruel to be kind ', and ' that's too much too soon, it'll put her off '.
It seems you get better results from just telling people what they want to hear, as opposed to speaking your mind openly. and presenting or acting in a way that you think is viewed favorably to other people, as opposed to just being yourself.
Literally all it does is complicate things and cause confusion. But its also human nature and society has established alot of these social conventions. 'dude, i can't text her back instantly', 'sending a second un-answered message means i've lost and makes me look desperate' and that 'three day rule' thing people quote as gospel about not contacting a girl for 3 days after so you dont appear desperate or clingy, when really you just want to talk to the person and interact with them.
communication is a bit of a confusing mess when you start thinking about it. trying to transfer a message from your brain in a way that will be translated in the other persons brain to have the desired effect, and trying to take note of all the things that can distort a message. such as the disconnect between how the very direct male logic and common sense driven mindset works, compared to the emotionally driven and indirect female mind set. And then individual personalities. i'm also not a fan of all of the ques people tend to pick up on, like body language, ' its not what you say, but how you say it ', all kinds of crap.
But maybe theres a hidden answer in this communication quandry.. to skip all of the headaches by just not over thinking things in the first place and just taking them at face value. saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: koods]
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Shroomslip said: Totally serious. How many women have you asked out and dated?

I've asked many times and have never gotten a straight answer. Sheekle, we all want to know about your sexual prowess!
Unless of course, your prowess is close to that of Wilt Chamberlain which would make us all feel inadequate.
@Solidarity: Good post, man. That's what I was thinking while reading through this thread but just didn't have the patience to type it out like you did. Good stuff.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: kr0nik0]
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He's asked out more guys I think. And by asked out, I mean asking if he can get a hand job.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: koods]
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Interesting. I often wonder what man or woman was on the other side of his glory hole experience.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Rebelutionsssss said: I just told her that I was gonna go out to the bars to grab a drink this weekend and was wondering if she wanted to come
Your mistake was not texting her per say. You saw her today and should have asked in person. But you shouldent have texted her the day you saw her a few days after you saw her would be fine. It would imply you were busy and NOW you know you wanna hangout, ya feel me. That is not even that big of a deal honestly you goofed when you asked her if she wanted to come to the bars. The text should have looked like. "Hey, I'm going to the bars this weekend what time should I pick you up." or if you ain't ballsy enough for that one "Hey, I am going to the bars this weekend and wanted to know which is your favorite?" Don't ask tell OR imply but don't ask. Either way use good grammar bitches love good grammar.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
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Rebelutionsssss said: So she actually did say she can't go this weekend but would love to go out next weekend so is that like a "I'm not interested" or is she just actually busy this weekend?
Here is what you gonna do man. Go to the bars and take a single good picture of what looks like everyone ESPECIALLY you having fun. Post that shit on Facebook which I bet you both are friends on, show her you are fun. Then around this time next week ask her when you should pick her up. She is interested dont over think it. NEWS FLASH sometimes people mean what they say homie
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
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OP, Just text her and say "I think u should come over so we can fuck."
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
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in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
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The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22120973 - 08/21/15 07:33 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Soulidarity said: in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
You cant have a full blown conversation as your normal self and then out of the blue be ballsy confident you gotta work up to it but idk it works for me
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: koods]
#22120979 - 08/21/15 07:36 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koods said: The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
Hey, I am heading to the bars Koods what time should I pick you up?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22120980 - 08/21/15 07:37 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I've noticed that when you walk into a bar reeking of sex, it makes people's necks break looking at you.
Unfortunately most guys going to a bar by themselves don't have anyone to make them reek of the needed sex.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: kr0nik0]
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kr0nik0 said: I've noticed that when you walk into a bar reeking of sex, it makes people's necks break looking at you.
Unfortunately most guys going to a bar by themselves don't have anyone to make them reek of the needed sex.
IK right? Like if you eat a chick out and you have that smell on your face/beard women give you so much attention its crazy
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
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koods said: The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
it actually works in a sales environment, particularly for people who are on the fence. just a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
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Soulidarity said: in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
You cant have a full blown conversation as your normal self and then out of the blue be ballsy confident you gotta work up to it but idk it works for me
ya i mean its pretty bold, not really my style.
to be honest i don't really have much game. i waste or ignore alooot of opportunities that could bear fruit if i pursued them more and had better game.
i'm heaps good at opening the door and getting their attention and putting it out there. but once i walk into the room i'm pretty much clueless on how to progress things from there and shit starts to get awkward fast
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
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Rebel..you are fine. Dint listen to the people on here saying you messed anything up because you didnt. I think it was a great decision yo ask her out via text. Girls love texting.
Bringing her to a party is actually a great idea as well. So far you are playing this really well. I think this is going to be the start of something great for you brother. Dont let any shroomery virgins spoil your vibe. Youre good, i promise.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
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koods said: The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
it actually works in a sales environment, particularly for people who are on the fence. just a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
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Soulidarity said: in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
You cant have a full blown conversation as your normal self and then out of the blue be ballsy confident you gotta work up to it but idk it works for me
ya i mean its pretty bold, not really my style.
to be honest i don't really have much game. i waste or ignore alooot of opportunities that could bear fruit if i pursued them more and had better game.
i'm heaps good at opening the door and getting their attention and putting it out there. but once i walk into the room i'm pretty much clueless on how to progress things from there and shit starts to get awkward fast
closing used to be a bitch for me but a simple phrase like "i called the taxi my place or yours?" is simple and works wonders
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
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SO OP, what's going on?
Update plz
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Patlal]
#22122177 - 08/21/15 12:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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he's been at the strip club for the last 29 hours
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomopotamus]
#22122223 - 08/21/15 12:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I told her to call me next week when she's free but then she never responded so that seemed kind of weird to me but I'm going to be tripping on acid at the beach tomorrow so hopefully it can show me a few answers I haven't been able to find.
I hope this works out, she's really cute and down to earth
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122235 - 08/21/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Forget about her when you are tripping on the beach. Enjoy yourself, have a good time, go with the flow, and you might just meet a cute, down to earth girl to take your mind off the one that you work with. If you put too much focus in one place, especially without reciprocation, you are hurting your chances of establishing the relationship.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: empty space]
#22122244 - 08/21/15 12:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea I'm just going to wait and see what she says next week. If she doesn't hit me up then I'm just moving on
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomopotamus]
#22122265 - 08/21/15 12:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like she's down. If she comes up with some BS excuse for not going next weekend, then I might be doubtful. Just have a good plan with some fun friends involved. Don't go into it like you are really into her. Girls can be put off by that. Just act as if she's just another friend coming along to have a good night. Have fun, have some good conversations and laughs. You should be able to tell if she's into you. If she shows some signs, then it's time to DSHSB.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: toader123]
#22122280 - 08/21/15 12:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm not sure it was a good idea for you to tell her to call you next week. It's better to leave that ball in your court. She's more likely to flake imo. I'd shoot her a text later in the week with a plan.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: toader123]
#22122286 - 08/21/15 12:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Fuck you're right atleast I'll know if she really likes me because if she does she'll actually hit me up
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122293 - 08/21/15 12:45 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Try not to push it too much with the next week thing also. You don't want to be seen as harassing her. And also try not to let any of it change the way you act around her and stuff
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22122298 - 08/21/15 12:46 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's not an all or nothing kind of thing. You've planted the seed which is the main thing
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22122299 - 08/21/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea I'm not going to hit her up again unless she calls or texts me first
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122308 - 08/21/15 12:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Damn bro you sound pressed as hell. You sound worst then me 4 years ago when I wanted to marry this girl in my class because she added me on Facebook and I took that as a sign that we were soul mates and then she lost interest in me and then I became obsessed with her and pressed as shit with trying to impress her.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122314 - 08/21/15 12:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea, it's funny I was giving my brother advice on a very similar situation recently. He told her to give him a call when she wanted to do something. Of course that never happened, so he went ahead and called her with a plan. she agreed. They ended up together for a few months.
But Soulidarity is right. Don't want to be too pushy. Either way, if it happens cool. If not, oh well. Not much to lose.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Janky Tits]
#22122337 - 08/21/15 12:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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haha. i think we've all been this guy at one point, it's part of the learning experience, the sooner the better. on to the next brotha
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122373 - 08/21/15 01:04 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Yea I'm just going to wait and see what she says next week. If she doesn't hit me up then I'm just moving on
i'd shoot her a text next week. i mean sure, wait a while to see if she hits you up but there's nothing wrong with you being like "so do you still wanna go out to the bar with me?" or whatever the fuck yer gonna do with her.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: sanchothestoner]
#22122407 - 08/21/15 01:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well my original plan was to just DSHSB but then I figured I should at least take her out for a drink first
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Vsnares.Zappa]
#22122428 - 08/21/15 01:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Exactly man, I wish I adopted that mentality sooner. Would of saved me two and half years of depression, self loathing, and effort over these damn hoes that aren't worth a single fuck. Id rather have it happen to me at the tender age of 14 then having to be a pathetic crybaby 26 year old man crying over a bitch who I desperately believe is my soul mate. OP I'm not saying that is you, I'm talking about myself and what I would be at the age of 26 if I continued being the same way I was when I was 14.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Janky Tits]
#22122439 - 08/21/15 01:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea she's hella cute and down to earth so it would be dope if it worked out but I'm not losing any sleep over it or anything.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122465 - 08/21/15 01:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I feels you man. I've been through at least 3 girls already who I was like "Yep this girl is perfect, she is the most beautiful girl in the world and if I don't have her I will never be happy." I'm happy I eventually realized these kinds of girls are interchangeable when it comes to looks. I use to think that hot blonde girl with pretty blue eyes and a perfect face and boobs is the most beautiful girl in the world and is surely the one for me and she is so one of a kind that I'll never find a girl that is as hot or beautiful as her. But guess what there is a girl almost identical to her look wise down the street. It sounds corny but what counts is if you find a girl who is chill and cool and shares similar interests as you. You just have to open to the idea that there are plenty of fish in the sea man.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Janky Tits]
#22122514 - 08/21/15 01:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah I honestly really dont even trip off how "beautiful a girl looks more than likely its just makeup and more than likely she is really self-centeredI hope I can find a Woman who does not need any make up or feel any need for make up I dont mind if she wants to spice it up in bed to getr some make up on but I dont want a clown mask girl that is just performing black magic deception on all the Men that is a disgusting trait to deceit like that
Wow im rambling Best of luck Rebelution hope you get her and she gets you, but please try to look for games of deja vu they will appear and make sure she is true I really hope you do. I dont want to read about how your Heart has been broken in a month or whenever your a great Guy from what I read.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: BoomerMan420]
#22122551 - 08/21/15 01:41 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thanks man wish everyone could see me as you guys do
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22128223 - 08/22/15 06:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebel, don't text her next week. You don't want to come off as even a little desperate. Not even a fucking little bit. And no, nobody tell me a girl likes it when you are pushy.
She knows whatsup and now all you can do is wait. If she doesn't call or text, move on. She might even text or call down the road because she saw you didn't "need" her so she feels like you have something other girls would want.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bodhi of Ankou]
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bill_Oreilly]
#22130195 - 08/23/15 09:51 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Don't listen to Bill.
Rebel you should not have told her to call you next week as a man you are supposed to put the effort in to get them to go out with you. Did you do the whole picture on Facebook thing?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22130634 - 08/23/15 12:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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? Why does asking a girl out have to be difficult like this Shouldn't it be like "hey I like you, do you like me? Ok well let's go on a date"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22130638 - 08/23/15 12:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yes you could have done it like that
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22130677 - 08/23/15 12:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Cause it works like this "I might like you, do you might like me?"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22130700 - 08/23/15 12:21 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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And then it's like "well I kind of like you but there's another guy I kind of like but I'll act like I like you to see if I can benefit"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22130728 - 08/23/15 12:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: And then it's like "well I kind of like you but there's another guy I kind of like but I'll act like I like you to see if I can benefit"
Then there is "hey im gonna fuck your best friend and sit back and watch the cat fight"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22130821 - 08/23/15 12:50 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: ? Why does asking a girl out have to be difficult like this Shouldn't it be like "hey I like you, do you like me? Ok well let's go on a date" 
Is it really this hard? That's how I always got dates. Honestly, I asked first tho.
Haha you guys are so cute with your awkward bashfulness. Sorry it hinders you tho.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: pachoo]
#22131657 - 08/23/15 04:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's tougher for us cos were expected to put the work in and win them over. Girls get to kick back and consider all their options and toy with any of the gladiators that try to enter the arena
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22132103 - 08/23/15 05:50 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OP did you say you were going to invite a bunch of other people out on your date with this chick? I don't think that's a very good idea. It might take the edge off, but it also ceases to be a date at all. At that point you are just hanging out.
Other than that, I think you did the fine. It's mostly up to her now, but you will likely be expected to call or text her up and confirm next weekend.
If she liked you, it wouldn't matter if you called or texted or asked face to face.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: fbi365]
#22132267 - 08/23/15 06:28 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I always thought that asking a girl out is super cliché and just embarrassing. A girl must think " did a guy really just ask me out on a date? that's super weird what am I supposed to do? This isn't the 70s"
if I was a girl, that's what would go through my head.
To this day I have never asked a girl "out". I just start talking to them..if theres a connection, we end up hanging out more and more until eventually its implied that we are dating. I have never asked a girl on a date, never asked a girl to be my "girlfriend"...etc.
the only thing I have done that resembles something like that, is ask my girl to marry me.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bill_Oreilly]
#22132309 - 08/23/15 06:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well I count asking someone to go do something just the two of you is equivalent lol
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22132315 - 08/23/15 06:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I haven't been on a "new" date in 5 years and 4 months - but then again I got married. Good luck!
If I was single I wouldn't have the slightest clue what to do. I got lucky because I was horrible at being single.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22132445 - 08/23/15 07:06 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Well I count asking someone to go do something just the two of you is equivalent lol
ah, I gotcha.
im not saying what you did was wrong or you should be embarrassed at all, so please don't think that. Im just saying from MY point of view and my insecurities that I would never ask a girl out on a date. It just seems outdated 
just like asking a girl to be your girlfriend.
I think both just happen naturally.
I wouldn't even be like "hey do you want to go see a movie later or something?"
even that is too cliché for me and implies a "date".
The way I do it, is just ask a girl if she wants to hangout. Then when im with her, is when ill ask if she wants to see a movie or something.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22132477 - 08/23/15 07:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: You've been on the shroomery for over a year and you don't know what DSHSB means? Dude it comes up in like 1 of every 10 threads, minimum.
Holy shit I just spit coffee everywhere, nice.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bill_Oreilly]
#22132595 - 08/23/15 07:55 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Well I count asking someone to go do something just the two of you is equivalent lol
ah, I gotcha.
im not saying what you did was wrong or you should be embarrassed at all, so please don't think that. Im just saying from MY point of view and my insecurities that I would never ask a girl out on a date. It just seems outdated 
just like asking a girl to be your girlfriend.
I think both just happen naturally.
I wouldn't even be like "hey do you want to go see a movie later or something?"
even that is too cliché for me and implies a "date".
The way I do it, is just ask a girl if she wants to hangout. Then when im with her, is when ill ask if she wants to see a movie or something.
That all seems like dates/dating to me. Seems like you just don't want to put labels on things, which isn't a bad thing, but regardless most relationships start out with similar courtships.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: DTCharlieB]
#22132607 - 08/23/15 07:59 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yes exactly but i would never make known during the text or phone call that it was a date. I dont know why it just feels cliche to me
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bill_Oreilly]
#22132611 - 08/23/15 08:01 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would tend to agree with you Bill. But then again, I've been doing it wrong my whole life so... I wish we had a female opinion about this.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Bill_Oreilly]
#22132637 - 08/23/15 08:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bill_Oreilly said: Yes exactly but i would never make known during the text or phone call that it was a date. I dont know why it just feels cliche to me
Oh yes I see what you mean. I can dig that.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: fbi365]
#22132645 - 08/23/15 08:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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fbi365 said: I would tend to agree with you Bill. But then again, I've been doing it wrong my whole life so... I wish we had a female opinion about this.
Females don't know what they want. Ask males who have had various successful relationships.
Half joking about the female comment but I do think the best advice comes from the other side of the coin.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: DTCharlieB]
#22134431 - 08/24/15 08:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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This is the second thread that I've posted something and a guy says "Oh I wish there was a woman's perspective" haha
Most of time I see what bill O'Reilly does. A few times that's happened to me but it confused me until I asked. I think ladies need labels to see where they are in a relationship. I do, but not like just to know where we stand. But honestly it's like the same story over on our side with what you guys are saying. Alot of ladies like to get wooed, and alot are really shy and awkward as well. Alot of times now men and women want to hang out without being intimate so it gets even more confusing. I know with me, you could be hitting on me really hard but it will seriously go right over my head. I'm so oblivious. And alot of my lady friends tend to second guess the intentions of guys alot as well.
I would advise to be clear in your intentions while maintaining calm about it?
"Hey I like you and would like to spend more time together. What do you think about coffee/movie/hang out?"
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I was going to say something else....
Oh, and it's not the same amount of pickings for every girl. It's not like men are falling for us all over the place vying for our attention. That sounds very inaccurate. I think both sexes try to show what they can offer to a relationship and both choose accordingly.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: pachoo]
#22135719 - 08/24/15 02:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OP I met a girl at a concert 2 days ago. 5 texts later we are going to a bar for wings and drink on Wednesday...
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22149425 - 08/26/15 11:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So I just saw her and we talked for a few minutes and she said to get her to go out Friday
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