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Soulidarity
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22120995 - 08/21/15 07:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koods said: The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
it actually works in a sales environment, particularly for people who are on the fence. just a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
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Soulidarity said: in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
You cant have a full blown conversation as your normal self and then out of the blue be ballsy confident you gotta work up to it but idk it works for me
ya i mean its pretty bold, not really my style.
to be honest i don't really have much game. i waste or ignore alooot of opportunities that could bear fruit if i pursued them more and had better game.
i'm heaps good at opening the door and getting their attention and putting it out there. but once i walk into the room i'm pretty much clueless on how to progress things from there and shit starts to get awkward fast
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22121008 - 08/21/15 07:51 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebel..you are fine. Dint listen to the people on here saying you messed anything up because you didnt. I think it was a great decision yo ask her out via text. Girls love texting.
Bringing her to a party is actually a great idea as well. So far you are playing this really well. I think this is going to be the start of something great for you brother. Dont let any shroomery virgins spoil your vibe. Youre good, i promise.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22121046 - 08/21/15 08:03 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Soulidarity said:
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koods said: The assumptive close makes you sound like a cocky douche.
it actually works in a sales environment, particularly for people who are on the fence. just a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
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The Doobie Dude said:
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Soulidarity said: in salesman speak they usually call that as the assumptive close. i dunno how well it would work out of the blue to get a chick to go out with you. atleast prob not something i could get away with. they'd prob be like wtf is he on about, lol.
You cant have a full blown conversation as your normal self and then out of the blue be ballsy confident you gotta work up to it but idk it works for me
ya i mean its pretty bold, not really my style.
to be honest i don't really have much game. i waste or ignore alooot of opportunities that could bear fruit if i pursued them more and had better game.
i'm heaps good at opening the door and getting their attention and putting it out there. but once i walk into the room i'm pretty much clueless on how to progress things from there and shit starts to get awkward fast
closing used to be a bitch for me but a simple phrase like "i called the taxi my place or yours?" is simple and works wonders
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Patlal
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22122153 - 08/21/15 12:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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SO OP, what's going on?
Update plz
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Patlal]
#22122177 - 08/21/15 12:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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he's been at the strip club for the last 29 hours
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomopotamus]
#22122223 - 08/21/15 12:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I told her to call me next week when she's free but then she never responded so that seemed kind of weird to me but I'm going to be tripping on acid at the beach tomorrow so hopefully it can show me a few answers I haven't been able to find.
I hope this works out, she's really cute and down to earth
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empty space
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122235 - 08/21/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Forget about her when you are tripping on the beach. Enjoy yourself, have a good time, go with the flow, and you might just meet a cute, down to earth girl to take your mind off the one that you work with. If you put too much focus in one place, especially without reciprocation, you are hurting your chances of establishing the relationship.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: empty space]
#22122244 - 08/21/15 12:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea I'm just going to wait and see what she says next week. If she doesn't hit me up then I'm just moving on
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomopotamus]
#22122265 - 08/21/15 12:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like she's down. If she comes up with some BS excuse for not going next weekend, then I might be doubtful. Just have a good plan with some fun friends involved. Don't go into it like you are really into her. Girls can be put off by that. Just act as if she's just another friend coming along to have a good night. Have fun, have some good conversations and laughs. You should be able to tell if she's into you. If she shows some signs, then it's time to DSHSB.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: toader123]
#22122280 - 08/21/15 12:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm not sure it was a good idea for you to tell her to call you next week. It's better to leave that ball in your court. She's more likely to flake imo. I'd shoot her a text later in the week with a plan.
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: toader123]
#22122286 - 08/21/15 12:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Fuck you're right atleast I'll know if she really likes me because if she does she'll actually hit me up
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Soulidarity
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122293 - 08/21/15 12:45 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Try not to push it too much with the next week thing also. You don't want to be seen as harassing her. And also try not to let any of it change the way you act around her and stuff
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Soulidarity
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22122298 - 08/21/15 12:46 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's not an all or nothing kind of thing. You've planted the seed which is the main thing
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22122299 - 08/21/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea I'm not going to hit her up again unless she calls or texts me first
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122308 - 08/21/15 12:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Damn bro you sound pressed as hell. You sound worst then me 4 years ago when I wanted to marry this girl in my class because she added me on Facebook and I took that as a sign that we were soul mates and then she lost interest in me and then I became obsessed with her and pressed as shit with trying to impress her.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122314 - 08/21/15 12:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea, it's funny I was giving my brother advice on a very similar situation recently. He told her to give him a call when she wanted to do something. Of course that never happened, so he went ahead and called her with a plan. she agreed. They ended up together for a few months.
But Soulidarity is right. Don't want to be too pushy. Either way, if it happens cool. If not, oh well. Not much to lose.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Janky Tits]
#22122337 - 08/21/15 12:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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haha. i think we've all been this guy at one point, it's part of the learning experience, the sooner the better. on to the next brotha
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sanchothestoner
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22122373 - 08/21/15 01:04 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Yea I'm just going to wait and see what she says next week. If she doesn't hit me up then I'm just moving on
i'd shoot her a text next week. i mean sure, wait a while to see if she hits you up but there's nothing wrong with you being like "so do you still wanna go out to the bar with me?" or whatever the fuck yer gonna do with her.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: sanchothestoner]
#22122407 - 08/21/15 01:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well my original plan was to just DSHSB but then I figured I should at least take her out for a drink first
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Janky Tits

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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Vsnares.Zappa]
#22122428 - 08/21/15 01:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Exactly man, I wish I adopted that mentality sooner. Would of saved me two and half years of depression, self loathing, and effort over these damn hoes that aren't worth a single fuck. Id rather have it happen to me at the tender age of 14 then having to be a pathetic crybaby 26 year old man crying over a bitch who I desperately believe is my soul mate. OP I'm not saying that is you, I'm talking about myself and what I would be at the age of 26 if I continued being the same way I was when I was 14.
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