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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115216 - 08/20/15 03:05 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well it's good you took the plunge and asked Atleast. Don't push it any further though and wait for a response. It's all speculation untill she responds. She could be busy, battery died, who knows.
Worst case scenario of she does say no, just act normal like nothing ever happened and try not to let it change the way you act around her and all that.
Just gotta wait and see what happens I guess. Hopefully it all goes well though. Good luck!
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115217 - 08/20/15 03:05 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Social media is a good way to start improving your social skills if you aren't confident face to face Good luck OP
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115222 - 08/20/15 03:16 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I suggest you ask a different girl out while you wait. It'll help you to stop psyching and obsessing over this one girl.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Magenta]
#22115230 - 08/20/15 03:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So she actually did say she can't go this weekend but would love to go out next weekend so is that like a "I'm not interested" or is she just actually busy this weekend?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115240 - 08/20/15 03:31 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like she's actually busy If she really doesn't want to, she'll say the same next weekend. But things are looking good! Just chill, and pass the time until next week. Don't obsess or freak about it.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115241 - 08/20/15 03:31 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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That's a sign of interest. Go with some of your friends too so it doesn't feel like a date, and work your magic getting to know her during the night out with your friends. Don't friend zone your self though, talk with your hands, it displays passion and confidence in what you believe you're saying. Be funny, and for gods sake, don't talk about work. If she brings up work, joke about it in some way.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115252 - 08/20/15 03:39 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Definitely sounds interested. I'd nail down a time and place now.
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Soulidarity
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115257 - 08/20/15 03:41 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd just take things at face value and not try to read into them too much. She probably is busy. who knows.
So i would probably just act like nothing has happened and try not to push it too much, and just see where it goes. She knows about it now and it'll be in her mind, so leave it at that.
And i think what magenta said is a good idea too about organising to go out with a group of friends or something like that, so its not just you and her cos those kind of things can be awkward and put alot of pressure on the other person.
Like i think it would be great if you could just be like " well hey we're doing this, come hang out if you want " kind of thing
What Achillita said to. dont obsess over it and start being weird and different. just keep your cool and be the same, after all, thats the you she liked in the first place!
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22115261 - 08/20/15 03:45 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Try to keep it on the low at work too, cos you don't want to get in trouble or cause any problems. Keep in mind your about to become a manager now which is a position that has more responsibility with it and things like harassing women in the work place is not a good look for a manager at all.
Not to make you worried or anything but yeah, deff good to keep things on the low atleast to start at work too. let her lead on that kind of stuff and dont just start creeping her at work and all that.
not to put a downer on things but you gotta keep in mind too things can go really bad if you work with the chick. because drama can get dragged into the work place and it can become a circus. its no bueno having to see your ex everyday or not being able to have the healthy time apart by being forced to see them at work and all that.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115264 - 08/20/15 03:48 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just told her to call me next week when she's free. I hope this works out because she's the same age as me and likes to party I'm pretty sure she rolls too since she hits up edm festivals a lot but we'll find out about that later well cool guys thanks for the advice. I should really stop psyching myself out and have a little more confidence. I would be the night manager anyways and she works days so I don't really see much of her but I'll keep that in mind for sure
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115267 - 08/20/15 03:50 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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i dunno what your social situation is like but i reckon its deff a good idea to organise something for next weekend with a group that you can invite her to though
haha sounds good though man. hope it goes well 
is she hot??
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22115281 - 08/20/15 03:57 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I already told her one of our coworkers wants to go who she knows and I was thinking of maybe inviting my really outgoing friend and his girlfriend so she won't be the only girl out there. And yea she's really cute man
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115301 - 08/20/15 04:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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thats awesome dude. sounds like a good idea.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Soulidarity]
#22115305 - 08/20/15 04:18 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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now I'm just freaking out about how I'm going to act because I've always been kind of a quite guy. I'm just hoping my really talkative friend will keep the conversation going so things don't get all quiet, which I'm sure won't happen you know.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115311 - 08/20/15 04:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If you get your chance, make her remember you. As I told you in the good date idea thread, times when focus isn't solely on you, are preferable. But that doesn't mean just treat her like she was any other friend. Don't push, but let it be known you are interested in more than that. As Magenta said, don't friendzone yourself.
And for the love of god don't go getting drunk as hell. Just sip on beer or something. Maybe a shot or two to start things off and loosen you up (this is totally dependent on you, I dunno how you are on alcohol, I open up a bit). Have fun, be a part of the group, but show a genuine interest in wanting to know about her. Pay attention to what she's talking about, ask questions, offer your opinions or experiences.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115314 - 08/20/15 04:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: So she actually did say she can't go this weekend but would love to go out next weekend so is that like a "I'm not interested" or is she just actually busy this weekend?
It could be either. I don't know what your rules are but mine are I would wait for her to bring it up again so you don't look thirsty or desperate. Plus if she evades it again, her interest level is self-explanatory.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: bukkake]
#22115320 - 08/20/15 04:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I drink pretty often so I can handle my liquor pretty good but I definitely won't be slamming shots down like nothing. I feel like I'll be able keep a good conversation going with her based on what I sort of already know but who knows. I'm just going to have to keep reminding myself to pay most of my attention to her so she knows where I'm trying to take this. My friend has his appartment all to himself too so I'm thinking once the bars close we can go back there and party till whenever
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115329 - 08/20/15 04:41 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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but remember, you gotta keep in your mind that nothings happened yet. so try not to get caught up in all of it just yet untill anything happens
drinking always helps me settle down and get into my social mode. i kinda have to be drunk a bit to be myself or to get into party mode. otherwise im awkward socially when sober lol
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115571 - 08/20/15 06:58 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: Waiting on a response
Have you considered kidnapping?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Patlal]
#22115586 - 08/20/15 07:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Soulidarity said: but remember, you gotta keep in your mind that nothings happened yet. so try not to get caught up in all of it just yet untill anything happens
drinking always helps me settle down and get into my social mode. i kinda have to be drunk a bit to be myself or to get into party mode. otherwise im awkward socially when sober lol
I'm the same way man. Supperrrrr quite until I really start getting into party mode.Quote:
Patlal said:
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Rebelutionsssss said: Waiting on a response
Have you considered kidnapping?
and I was thinking that but they might ask questions when she doesn't show up for work
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