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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22114986 - 08/20/15 12:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd be quite surprised if it's 200ug per drop.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114991 - 08/20/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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me too. although i suppose it's not impossible.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22114992 - 08/20/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just got offered a thumbprint last week. It's 200ug trust me
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 3
#22115004 - 08/20/15 12:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You might have 200ug hits. Monkeys might fly out of my ass.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22115010 - 08/20/15 12:32 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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nicechrisman said: You might have 200ug hits. Monkeys might fly out of my ass.
What'd you do to piss Jim Carrey off?
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: nicechrisman]
#22115012 - 08/20/15 12:32 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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whatever you say man. Around san fransisco they're really not all that uncommon. I mean even some of the wow around here gets up too 200ug but you have to look around and find people in the know.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115068 - 08/20/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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so is she gonna let you dshsb
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: thelanzii]
#22115079 - 08/20/15 01:10 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I don't know what that means but she hasn't responded yet so I could have just fucked this up she goes out of her way to flirt with me when we see eachother so I'm not sure.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 4
#22115105 - 08/20/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You've been on the shroomery for over a year and you don't know what DSHSB means? Dude it comes up in like 1 of every 10 threads, minimum.
And what exactly, word for word, did you say in the text?
Texting for a date is really bad move. Women want confidence and that's probably the last confident way to do it. I mean that's like right up there with emailing her and only slightly below having a friend go ask for you.
There may be a way to salvage it, but it really depends on what you said.
Like, if the phrase was "Wanna meet up for some drinks" you can play it off like "wish you coulda made it last night, me and a few friends decided to go have a night out".
At least then you're making it seem as if the invitation was a purely social one.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115114 - 08/20/15 01:30 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just told her that I was gonna go out to the bars to grab a drink this weekend and was wondering if she wanted to come
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115118 - 08/20/15 01:33 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Read my above edits. If that is exactly what you told her, you could save it by making it seem like a totally casual thing, make it 100% obvious it was never a date or something. If you go that route, don't waste a bunch of time trying to convince her, just mention it and put your poker face on.
Next time ask her in person. Absolutely noting counts as much as having confidence. I've admitted I never had this, but I've known plenty of man whores in my life and saw how they operate around women. I honestly never had the balls to do it, but I learned a lot by watching them.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22115123 - 08/20/15 01:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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OR yo could just be confident and not give a shit. For all you know her phone is dead and that's why she hasn't texted.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
#22115129 - 08/20/15 01:40 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I hope I didn't just make this super aquward I only see her one day week but still. And I try and have confidence but it's hard to be just completely outgoing and shit
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita] 1
#22115138 - 08/20/15 01:49 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I mean beyond that obviousness. It's pretty obvious after a certain length of time that it wouldn't be from a dead battery or her just being asleep or not checking her phone or something. After a certain point it's obvious she got the message and just chose not to respond.
Ask someone for a date through text, get no answer, and then ask in person, you're going to come across as desperate. Which alongside creepy, is one of the last things you want to come across as.
He's kind of already blown the confidence thing unless he can rectify it. Which is what I'm trying to help him do. Not giving a shit is a bad play. Pretending to not care, might be a good one, but it really only works when the other party is interested in you as well. That also only works on certain people.
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Rebelutionsssss said: I hope I didn't just make this super aquward I only see her one day week but still. And I try and have confidence but it's hard to be just completely outgoing and shit
To be clear, I'm not proposing you text her tomorrow late morning/early afternoon and say that. It should just be some random comment when you two meet face to face. Mentioned in passing. Think about what you're saying and how you say it, what leads to you even saying it. Should somehow just seem like a normal evolution of whatever conversation you're having. How you set that up, is up to you.
It is true I don't have a lot of practical experience, but I have plenty of observational experience. I am also well versed in body language and social interaction/psychology.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115143 - 08/20/15 01:55 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It really matters how atached she is to her phone. Some people can't live with out it, some only have it on them 30% of the time. My phone is shit right now, so I have it usually 1 out of 3 days or so.
But I get what you mean. But it really matters, do you guys text a lot, or is it occasional texting? Because if you guys text often, then it is no biggie. If it's like one of the only times you texted, then maybe a big deal.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
#22115152 - 08/20/15 02:02 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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We don't really text much but when I do see her in person she's definitely giving off those signs that she's interested in me. Fuck man I should have just forgot about the whole thing it could be because my ex still works where we work even though we like never see her. I'm just going to go with the fuck it route and forget I ever did this
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22115163 - 08/20/15 02:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would argue that that texting all the time does not mean that texting a date request is no biggie. That's just another variable. For some it won't matter, others want to be swept off their feet and may view (even if only at the subconscious level) a texted date request as being weak or unconfident.
Generally it's not the best decision to just chance these things. Which is why I make the recommendations I do. Other than being asked by someone they absolutely don't want to date (because denying it is easier through text) there is pretty much no woman out there who would prefer to be asked out through text. Some may not mind, but almost none are going to prefer it. So it should be done in person.Quote:
Rebelutionsssss said: We don't really text much but when I do see her in person she's definitely giving off those signs that she's interested in me. Fuck man I should have just forgot about the whole thing it could be because my ex still works where we work even though we like never see her. I'm just going to go with the fuck it route and forget I ever did this
Don't give up man. I am a lot like you from all that I've seen on this subject, probably could even say we're twins. I know where you are and I know how you feel. I don't regret being married or who I married, but I do constantly regret never putting myself out there. Even if you end up finding your one without putting yourself out there, this shit will still bug you. Decades after it's not even relevant anymore.
It's very possible she just hasn't seen the message yet, but even if she has, the situation is very salvageable. Assuming she even had a problem with the text invite, you are not anywhere near close to having dug yourself in a hole you can't get out of.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Shroomslip]
#22115176 - 08/20/15 02:26 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Don't give up and shroomslip is being pretty spot on.
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Achillita]
#22115187 - 08/20/15 02:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thanks guys I guess I'll wait and see what goes down. Most likely the "ohhhhh I would but I'm busy this weekend"
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Re: So I finally got the balls and asked her to grab a drink with me [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#22115196 - 08/20/15 02:47 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If you get that, then just play it off. "Maybe next time" or some shit. Then later (and I don't mean weeks or months) ask for a date/time that's good for her. If she seems interested in you, then all you need to do is approach it the right way. This is where it gets hard to tell you what to do, because predicting entire conversations is impossible. This is the point you wing it. different techniques work on different people and you have to read people to know what path to take. One may respond to the quirky "I won't take no for an answer" another may respond to the heartfelt "I think you're interesting and I'd like to get to know you better" attitude. Or anything in between.
You have all you need. There's no reason to not approach it with confidence. Just be you, and let your instincts guide you.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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