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My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it
    #22114562 - 08/19/15 10:38 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

My mom's pretty much the most annoying person I know, (aside from one of my cousins). I consciously go out of my way to avoid asking her questions sometimes because I know that when I do that, she'll just ramble on and on about shit I already know without actually getting to the point of the answer. She has all these weird little quirks that weird me out, like they make me genuinely uncomfortable. Like for example, she always feels the need to grab my arm when she talks to me for some reason - and  I just get this instinctive feeling of "ew get away from me weirdo". Her personality really doesn't have any pronounced zest to it in any particular way, she's just kind of like a bland, annoying, drunk.


Now, I really wish this wasn't the case. I feel like it would be a lot better for the both of us if I liked her personality. This would make both of us happy.

Don't get me wrong though, we get along. I'm not much of a fighter, so we shoot the shit, talk the hap, ya know. But, we don't really have any significant meaning to our relationship. The vast majority of our interactions include her saying things to me and me usually just kind of spacing out and wishing that she'd stop talking to me.

I wholeheartedly appreciate the fact that she brought me into this world and has allowed me the privilege of being brought into such a hearty and healthy lifestyle, I don't take the things that she does for me for granted or anything.


But yeah, I don't really like her personality at all. I feel like, I dunno, I should do something about this. I want to like her more, but I can't really control my emotions in that way. She's just such... a drag.


I mean, I can understand why she is the way she is. She's had a pretty hard life and upbringing, and has tons of medical problems and stuff. So life is really stressful for her, and she projects this stress onto others by being the uptight drunk she is, and I wish it wasn't this way just as much for her sake, as it is for mine, but it is the way it is.

So,


How should I like my mom more? I feel guilty for not liking her. I want her to be happy, and I obviously love her because of that fact itself. But it's like an actual challenge to get myself to want to be around her.

Maybe I'm just being melodramatic, because I mean I guess she's not THAT bad. But obviously I think it's enough of a problem that I felt the need to make this thread.



Thoughts? Opinions?


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle] * 4
    #22114572 - 08/19/15 10:41 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Are you momhurt or something?


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle] * 1
    #22114578 - 08/19/15 10:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Take LSD with her


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle] * 5
    #22114583 - 08/19/15 10:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I quite enjoy your mother's company.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: nicechrisman]
    #22114586 - 08/19/15 10:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

nicechrisman said:
Take LSD with her



I took LSD and hung out with her once. She said that I "filled her soul with the love I'd been slacking on throughout the years". Then she later said "I gotta get me some acid!" to my friends.

Not kidding either, that's a 100% true story.


I doubt she'd ever take acid with me though, despite the fact that she said she wanted some on that particular day. She has a ton of anxiety, she'd probably just flip out if she ever tripped.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: nicechrisman]
    #22114587 - 08/19/15 10:45 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

nicechrisman said:
Take LSD with her




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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle]
    #22114616 - 08/19/15 10:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Are you Emo?


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: 404] * 1
    #22114619 - 08/19/15 10:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

that's just how moms are. just gotta letm do their thing.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle] * 4
    #22114625 - 08/19/15 10:53 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Move out you fucking bum


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
    #22114747 - 08/19/15 11:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

DSHSB
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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Nitrous Monkey]
    #22114771 - 08/19/15 11:30 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

She keep lecturing you to move out of her basement??
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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Nitrous Monkey]
    #22114806 - 08/19/15 11:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Mine also does, its not all the time or that bad, and has never changed my overwhelming love, but nevertheless I feel guilty everytime

recently we drank cactus together, I was surprised how well she did, on the correct path!


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Does]
    #22114812 - 08/19/15 11:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

That's rad


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Sheekle]
    #22114815 - 08/19/15 11:39 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

When I was a kid still living with my mom all her little quirks would annoy the shit out of me too.
When you're constantly around someone that you don't necessarily want to be around that much, it becomes extremely annoying.

When I moved out of my mom's place is when I finally started enjoying her company.
I believe the same thing will happen for you when you get some time away from the nest.

As for her being somewhat of a drunk, I understand you don't like that but does she do anything that negatively affects you when she's drinking?


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: kr0nik0]
    #22114872 - 08/19/15 11:55 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

That's kind of how my grandma makes me feel, less 'get away from me' and more exasperation and knowing that I'll never have an authentic deep connection or understanding with her - she's very nice, I love her a lot, but she doesn't think I can do anything and a huge part of it is because I'm a woman. She learned to drive, hit a tree soon after, and never drove again, and does not have any faith in my driving abilities, or ability to independently navigate the world because it's too unsafe - she never questions the status quo or ponders any difficult questions, she tells me that I need to find a nice man to take care of me because I'm already 23.

We are literally a different species, I never even knew how to talk to her beyond pleasantries and small talk, and I still don't really know how, I just got better at faking small talk. She's in the beginning stages of Alzheimer and is sometimes in a totally different world and thinks she is talking to someone she knew 40 years ago instead of her grandkids on a very occasional basis - she mainly calls me because she mixes up numbers and gets confused about what time of day it is and. In a way, it's almost gotten easier to communicate with her now, I don't know why exactly. It was really weird to hear her think I was someone else at first, but after I learned how you're supposed to act with people dealing with dementia and knowing not to try to insist that she's wrong and keep the convo going without confusing her, it's easier to interact with her. Probably sounds horrible.

My mom is the total opposite of my grandmother, she's an intellectual, is a classical flutist and hugely into art and music and has worked in the tech industry since the '80's up until the present - she reads all the time, and I think I've seen one crappy romance novel in my grandmothers house and nothing else. My mom and I get and understand each other, but I honestly do not know how my mom put up with my grandma as a kid. My grandfather was very, very smart and intense, an engineer who went to college at 16,he died when my mom was young, but she still takes after him way way waaayyy more than my grandmother.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: pirate-blues] * 1
    #22116344 - 08/20/15 11:44 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You probably annoy the shit out of her, too.
She just has the good graces to keep it in check.

Who knows, I'm not a family psychologist.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: SoupSandwich] * 1
    #22116351 - 08/20/15 11:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I still live at home with my parents too. It kinda sucks because i'm 34 and bitches don't really like the idea of me bringing them back to my moms basement.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: Bosephus_jonez]
    #22116533 - 08/20/15 12:34 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

i have the flip side to all this, my mom moved back in with me at the start of the year, i had to call her because she has been at her friends and was supposed to be home yesterday lol she is great and i am glad to have her close in my life but sometimes figuring out the line of being concerned and respecting her privacy can be hard.

all i can suggest is try and appreciate the things you do enjoy with your mother and try to steer the setting towards those times.


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Re: My mom annoys the piss out of me and I can't help it [Re: ReposadoXochipilli]
    #22116626 - 08/20/15 12:56 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

It's perfectly natural for your mom to be the most annoying person in the world to you. It's their job. Mom's nag you about being safe and telling you things you already know. It's part of growing up to realize this and treat her with respect anyway, because she is your mom and she just wants you to be safe. It sounds like you already realized this. :manofapproval:


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    #22116697 - 08/20/15 01:14 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I hope your mom doesn't ever read that, shel never get it the way you wrote it.:peace: I also suggest moving out. Mother spiders eat their young if they stick around too long.

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