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Re: I feel like I can't ask women out [Re: Johnny_Wills]
#22109714 - 08/19/15 04:52 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Johnny_Wills said: Sounds like you need to work on yourself first. If you can't come to terms with yourself, and feel good about who you are, no one else will. I think you are probably a little depressed as well. I'd recommend going on crazy adventures to battle your depression first. Bungee Jumping, parachuting, scuba diving, etc. I used to feel like you do, but i managed to get over it by going out on the edge and doing some things i never imagined i was capable of . It helped me feel alive, and it somehow rebooted my system and boosted my self esteem. Parachuting really helped me, believe it or not. There is something awesome about jumping from a plane. And hey, having hours long chats with gals about all the crazy things you did and how they felt can't hurt your chances of getting laid Girls like it a little crazy.
I've heard and given advice like this a lot, and while it is true that knowing oneself is essential to building fulfilling relationships with others, it's not true that depression precludes one from intimacy. I have chronic depression and am still able to maintain a relationship and raise my children in a healthy, loving and nurturing environment. If depression is persistent, it's best for a person to accept it as an integral part of their personal constitution and learn to live with it.
This may not be op's problem, though. Sounds like he's just letting insecurity get the best of him.
OP: Would you say that the failure to be assertive with women is significantly impacting your life in a negative way? Or is this a minor problem for you?
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Re: I feel like I can't ask women out [Re: sun_spots]
#22109740 - 08/19/15 05:08 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would say it impacts it to a certain degree. I've always been a socially aquward person due to me moving around during high school. I went to 3 different high schools in 3 years so I never really made a group of friends I could really open up too which is why I think I found psychedelics. Anyways, yea it definitely impacts my life negatively because I'm just not outgoing enough for most women which is why I've only really had one long term relationship which was only 3 years.
I'm feeling kind of hopeless in my current position
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It's hard to make connections with peers when you lack physical stability in those crucial adolescent years. I think you should focus on making friends right now, and see where that takes you.
-------------------- ShiVersblood said: shut ur fucking mouth. before a penis is are be enters LordSenate said: Cheese poop... Who gives a fuck gotta eat lots of cheese.
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