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Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal?
#22106780 - 08/18/15 01:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm a 30 y/o male. Started dating the love of my life a few months ago and everything has exceeded my wild expectations. Everything from loving, kindness, and just pure happiness. LSD trips that mean everything, unconditional love when sober as well, and expectations of having a family together.. Some of you know the deal.
The problem I'm having is that she constantly is horny. I'm talking about as soon as we wake up, as soon as we get home from work, and before sleep every night.
If this was roughly 5 years ago I would've been delighted but my old bones call it once a day enough now lol. the problem is, if I'm not in the mood, she gets a bit frustrated...more like unwanted and feels bad about herself which I reassure her is not the case.
Any ideas on how to make this situation a bit more comfortable on both ends?
Thanks for any advice. 
Edit: Fuck, this was supposed to be anon LOL. Still need some answer.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22106844 - 08/18/15 01:54 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Have you talked to her about it? Could it be just a phase? Trying to get pregnant?
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: bm0322]
#22106852 - 08/18/15 01:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Haha, reverse roles and that's me and my lady.
Maybe suggest she get a vibrator?
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22106867 - 08/18/15 02:01 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You're gonna have a lot of kids jump in here saying they wish they had that problem....WTF are you complaining about?..lol. I know what you mean though...sometimes, a hard days work , or just life in general can take you out of the mood for constant sex. Once a day sounds pretty cool to me.
If you have a good, open and honest relationship...I would tell her that your drive is just not there all the time for various reasons....certainly not because she is undesirable. Maybe recommend her pleasing herself if her drive is that prominent....even buy her a toy or something....I knew a woman like that ...she already had quite a assortment of devices. lol
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0] 1
#22106918 - 08/18/15 02:17 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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My girl is kinda like that too Kr0n I basically had to explain to her that I'm not always in the mood
She got all butthurt at first and then eventually got over it.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Thayendanegea] 1
#22106942 - 08/18/15 02:21 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Even when I am not in the mood, i can get there in a few minutes 
Maybe you can satisfy her, but tell her she cant expect a glorious cumshot from you three times a day. Maybe throw in a charging battery analogy
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Thayendanegea]
#22107054 - 08/18/15 02:55 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thayendanegea said: You're gonna have a lot of kids jump in here saying they wish they had that problem....WTF are you complaining about?..lol. I know what you mean though...sometimes, a hard days work , or just life in general can take you out of the mood for constant sex. Once a day sounds pretty cool to me.
If you have a good, open and honest relationship...I would tell her that your drive is just not there all the time for various reasons....certainly not because she is undesirable. Maybe recommend her pleasing herself if her drive is that prominent....even buy her a toy or something....I knew a woman like that ...she already had quite a assortment of devices. lol
Lol. I knew quite a few people would say that it's not a problem, but yea, it's just a bit much at times. Almost feeling guilt for not making love to her.
We do have a very honest relationship. The only honest relationship I've had in my life to be honest. We've talked about it, and she also pleases herself..even if I were to have sex with her multiple times a day.
We have a lot of toys, and I love using them on her but like I said, it's constant sexual energy coming from her.
She's happy and all with how things are but I do feel guilty at times. That's really what the issue is.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107059 - 08/18/15 02:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Tripsurfer said: Even when I am not in the mood, i can get there in a few minutes 
Maybe you can satisfy her, but tell her she cant expect a glorious cumshot from you three times a day. Maybe throw in a charging battery analogy
I used to be the same way until a couple years ago if not a bit less. Just have no desire for it sometimes, it's a very weird, new feeling for me.
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: My girl is kinda like that too Kr0n I basically had to explain to her that I'm not always in the mood
She got all butthurt at first and then eventually got over it.
Yea, I figure that's what's going to happen. Not really butthurt on my lady's part but I know what you're saying.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22107076 - 08/18/15 03:03 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah I've had this issue before. I think when girls are really in love their libido grows to such gigantic proportions that any mortal man would have trouble keeping up. That girl from my case wanted it seven times per day if it was up to her. No way. I never figured out how to deal with it though, I just ended up eating pussy constantly
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22107084 - 08/18/15 03:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bee pollen has an incredible amount of vitamins and minerals in it, plus roughly 16g of protein in it when fresh, and will increase your libido, as well as make you generally very healthy. I've been eating it throughout the day every day -- now I have giant cumshots and can fuck a girl over and over for hours.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107115 - 08/18/15 03:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I've also heard that combining ammonia and bleach helps with increasing libido as well.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107128 - 08/18/15 03:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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When I'm not feeling it a little head usually changes my mind. If you stay soft after that mabey you should get medicine from a doctor.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22107143 - 08/18/15 03:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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get her an IUD, most women experience a loss of libido. and 5 year birth control too.
*WARNING, could also turn her into a crazy bitch
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Matt87]
#22107149 - 08/18/15 03:16 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I hate how people think that men should always be in the mood and that there is something wrong with them if they aren't. Such bullshit. People's libido's vary
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] 1
#22107224 - 08/18/15 03:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: I've also heard that combining ammonia and bleach helps with increasing libido as well.

Hey more bee pollen for me and my friends. Not a problem. There's a shortage anyway and the last thing we need is buttfunk riff raff fools running around horny as fuck and reproducing with equally basic women. Would rather people like you drink ammonia and bleach anyway.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Matt87]
#22107232 - 08/18/15 03:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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empty space said: Bee pollen has an incredible amount of vitamins and minerals in it, plus roughly 16g of protein in it when fresh, and will increase your libido, as well as make you generally very healthy. I've been eating it throughout the day every day -- now I have giant cumshots and can fuck a girl over and over for hours.
I'll definitely have to look into that. Thanks for the tip.
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GoldenEye said: Yeah I've had this issue before. I think when girls are really in love their libido grows to such gigantic proportions that any mortal man would have trouble keeping up. That girl from my case wanted it seven times per day if it was up to her. No way. I never figured out how to deal with it though, I just ended up eating pussy constantly 
haha. Yes, a lot of pussy eating has been going on recently. Thankfully I really enjoy it.
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Matt87 said: When I'm not feeling it a little head usually changes my mind. If you stay soft after that mabey you should get medicine from a doctor.
My girl gives the best head I've ever experienced. It's fucking tantalizing and I'm still astounded. It's not that I can't get my dick up, it's just that I rather not fuck for the sake of fucking. It's taken on a lot more meaning to me over the last few years when it comes to making love vs fucking.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107241 - 08/18/15 03:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Is your butt hurt right now sir?
Can you provide me with a peer reviewed source that proves that bee pollen increase libido?
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] 1
#22107268 - 08/18/15 03:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'll smear some be pollen on my dick if need be.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107279 - 08/18/15 03:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yes I have pages and pages of it but Im not going to do the research for you. You seem like you suck as a human so why the fuck would I give you my secrets? If you are curious then go figure it out yourself.

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Eh that wouldn't do anything for you but then you could have your girl suck it off your dick which sounds fun in its own regard.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
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I am really curious. Jokes aside. Where would I procure bee pollen?
Sure as hell am not going to start popping Cialis to keep up with my woman's libido.
I was thinking about it, and this all may have something to do with a beta-blocker I was prescribed roughly 4 months ago. It's Atenelol and it was first given to me to regulate my heart beat when I quit drinking. Apparently after all this time without drinking I still need to take it or my BP goes through the roof. Scary stuff since I'm constantly active and at least in decent shape.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107306 - 08/18/15 03:48 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You're the one that made the claim and now I'm the one that's supposed to research it? I'm sure it would only take you 30 seconds to pull an excerpt out of your "pages and pages."
It's cool though. It must mean you have absolutely no scientific evidence to back up your claim. I see it all the time on here.
What a butthurt faggot. I guess anyone that doesn't agree with you just "sucks as a human being."
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22107316 - 08/18/15 03:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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kr0nik0 said: I am really curious. Jokes aside. Where would I procure bee pollen?
Sure as hell am not going to start popping Cialis to keep up with my woman's libido.
I was thinking about it, and this all may have something to do with a beta-blocker I was prescribed roughly 4 months ago. It's Atenelol and it was first given to me to regulate my heart beat when I quit drinking. Apparently after all this time without drinking I still need to take it or my BP goes through the roof. Scary stuff since I'm constantly active and at least in decent shape.
Yup. Beta blockers are known to fuck up your libido and your ability to get erections.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107327 - 08/18/15 03:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well, fuck... So either high BP constantly which is dangerous as hell, or have a constantly hard dick like I did before I started taking this shit.
I wish I would've researched it more before taking it but my doctor had been trying to shove it down my throat for almost a year. Need to figure out something so I don't have to take those meds anymore.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22107332 - 08/18/15 03:53 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Do you take you BB for tremors/anxiety or do you strictly just have high blood pressure?
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: You're the one that made the claim and now I'm the one that's supposed to research it? I'm sure it would only take you 30 seconds to pull an excerpt out of your "pages and pages."
It's cool though. It must mean you have absolutely no scientific evidence to back up your claim. I see it all the time on here.
What a butthurt faggot. I guess anyone that doesn't agree with you just "sucks as a human being."
Well actually its on paper and I'd have to scan it, hence why YOU aren't worth my time. Also I don't think you suck because you disagree with me, I think you suck because of your general shitty attitude and because you say things that highlight your prejudice and ignorance like "what a butthurt faggot".
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107351 - 08/18/15 03:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well actually its on paper and I'd have to scan it,
Suuuure it is
I should be able to type in bee pollen male libido and get a bunch of hits if it's scientifically established
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I think you suck because of your general shitty attitude and because you say things that highlight your prejudice and ignorance like "what a butthurt faggot".
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#22107375 - 08/18/15 04:03 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's a superfood man. Just mix it with some chia, goji, spirulina and acai and you'll live forever.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: Do you take you BB for tremors/anxiety or do you strictly just have high blood pressure?
Both unfortunately.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
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Fuck. Well i was thinking of getting some prescribed to me basic of my tremor I've recently developed in my left hand. Its pretty embarrassing since I'm waiting tables and its pretty noticeable even though I'm not nervous. I've been using benzos and alcohol to self medicate but I know that's a extremely unhealthy alternative.
I just don't wanna risk my dick not working over a stupid tremor
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#22107398 - 08/18/15 04:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You suck at the internet. Is calling people butthurt the only method you have to arouse anger? Boring troll is shitty.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107408 - 08/18/15 04:14 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bro you're obviously butthurt and its okay man I've been there. Denial isn't going to fix anything though. You need to man up and accept your butthurt for what it is, childish.
I'll also need you to fill out this form to give to your butthurt specialist. This will ensure that you're provided with the best possible treatment plan for your condition.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107523 - 08/18/15 04:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Ahaha I love it when someone who still calls people "butthurt faggots" in 2015 calls other people childish.
By the way you are terrrrrribly unworthy of rocking the Forward Escape album cover in your sig.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107526 - 08/18/15 04:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Why am I unworthy?
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Because only chillers get to rep the dave and you leak wackness.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107550 - 08/18/15 04:50 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Wow man. You'e getting pretty worked up over some bee pollen.
Tell me more about your anger issues
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107628 - 08/18/15 05:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Ha you think Im angry but really you are incredibly enjoyable to troll because you say really dumb shit.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22107715 - 08/18/15 05:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well this is how I saw the situation play out.
1) I say bee pollen is bullshit 2) you say okay that's fine 3) you went back and edited your post and told me to drink ammonia and bleach which insinuates obvious levels of butthurt 4) when I ask for a source you tell me you wont waste your time on me. AKA "I have no source.' 5) you call me stupid but you're the one still arguing with the "troll'
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22107745 - 08/18/15 05:38 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm trolling the troll because I have too much time on my hands today. Don't flatter yourself, someone like you couldn't even get me slightly annoyed let alone angry.
By the way, I love your assumptions. You know what they always say, "Assume makes an ass out of u and me." Certainly you are a master of jumping to conclusions.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22108614 - 08/18/15 09:01 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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kr0nik0 said: I'm a 30 y/o male. Started dating the love of my life a few months ago and everything has exceeded my wild expectations. Everything from loving, kindness, and just pure happiness. LSD trips that mean everything, unconditional love when sober as well, and expectations of having a family together.. Some of you know the deal.
The problem I'm having is that she constantly is horny. I'm talking about as soon as we wake up, as soon as we get home from work, and before sleep every night.
If this was roughly 5 years ago I would've been delighted but my old bones call it once a day enough now lol. the problem is, if I'm not in the mood, she gets a bit frustrated...more like unwanted and feels bad about herself which I reassure her is not the case.
Any ideas on how to make this situation a bit more comfortable on both ends?
Thanks for any advice. 
Edit: Fuck, this was supposed to be anon LOL. Still need some answer. 
Exercise hit the weights
should vastly increase your sex drivee
damn auto correct
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: SunnyD]
#22108625 - 08/18/15 09:02 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Of course that's normal.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: niclovinz10]
#22110479 - 08/19/15 10:06 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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my girl is up for pretty much anything at any time of day. she loves to give head and is good at it, loves to get face fucked, loves anal and enthusiastically satisfies every perverted desire or fantasy i've ever had, and i'm kind of a freak. i'm not even comfortable going into detail about some of the stuff we do. i love her to pieces and am usually sore after the weekends from our marathon fuck sessions.
but i'm also a really busy guy. i go to school, i work a drama-filled full-time job, and sometimes when i'm able to catch my breath from all of that i'm just not in the mood. i don't want to say that sex feels like a chore, but sometimes i really do just want to unwind and have a conversation. she's cool about it on the sparse occasions that i say no, but that pressure is still there. it seems to me that the pressure makes it worse. she's come over before not expecting anything, and when she just kinda chills, i usually find myself wanting to fuck her brains out. i don't have a solution to your problem op aside from talking to her about it. there are worse problems to have, but at the same time, it's probably not fair for her to be putting that much pressure on your relationship.
you can also buy her one of these.

if i ever buy any more sex toys, it'll just be replacements for this. orgasms on tap for the womens.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22110825 - 08/19/15 11:13 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Kron be more alpha and fuck her till her hips break
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22110910 - 08/19/15 11:23 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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The Doobie Dude said: Kron be more alpha and fuck her till her hips break

Kr0n here are some things that will help Exercise ( ever since I started I'm horny all day every day pretty much ) Get some vibrators or sex today for her Maybe tell her some days you are just tired, but your still madly in love with her
I'm sure shelle understand
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22111188 - 08/19/15 12:04 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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lol a pill for womens libido?? its called cocaine
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: The Doobie Dude]
#22111226 - 08/19/15 12:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Or money.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: JohnnieYen]
#22111279 - 08/19/15 12:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JohnnieYen said: get her an IUD, most women experience a loss of libido. and 5 year birth control too.
*WARNING, could also turn her into a crazy bitch
10 years and it's a physical implant that doesn't affect libido. it's the bee's knees
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Black_Sunset]
#22111362 - 08/19/15 12:38 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Nah bro. Bee pollen is what you need
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22111874 - 08/19/15 01:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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dress up as a bee to increase your li-bee-do.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy] 1
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Get her to dress up as a bird. Birds and bees. There is a joke there somewhere. I promise.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: GoldenEye] 1
#22112172 - 08/19/15 02:13 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Alright Kro, tag me in, take a breather.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Patlal]
#22112196 - 08/19/15 02:19 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: Patlal]
#22112207 - 08/19/15 02:22 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Patlal said: Alright Kro, tag me in, take a breather.
Lets make this one a double team
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy]
#22112220 - 08/19/15 02:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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millzy said: enthusiastically satisfies every perverted desire or fantasy i've ever had, and i'm kind of a freak.
And isn't just grand?
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22112383 - 08/19/15 02:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Im sorry, goldilocks, is your porridge too hot???
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22112552 - 08/19/15 03:30 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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The Doobie Dude said: lol a pill for womens libido?? its called cocaine
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zappaisgod said: Or money.
Or getting enough sleep on a regular basis.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: koraks]
#22112576 - 08/19/15 03:34 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said:
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millzy said: enthusiastically satisfies every perverted desire or fantasy i've ever had, and i'm kind of a freak.
And isn't just grand? 
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22113466 - 08/19/15 06:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I believe in quality over quantity. To me, your gf's sex drive sounds really compulsive/excessive.
I hope you guys can come up with a compromise. If you're trying to look for ways to keep up with her, you might want to look into the chinese medicine/tantric practice of semen retention.
Maca root powder is also a good supplement for enhancing libido.
Good luck!
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
#22113491 - 08/19/15 06:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You know I love you darling but what the fuck? Kro isn't the problem. He's got a psycho nympho on his hands. Not that that's always a bad thing if you're in a band.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22113598 - 08/19/15 07:02 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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To me, your gf's sex drive sounds really compulsive/excessive.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
#22113676 - 08/19/15 07:19 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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@yogabunny
how would you approach dealing with compulsive sex drives? like i said, i really don't mind having a lot of sex, but i could do without the pressure she puts on me to deliver every single second of the time we spend together. things seem to flow better when i don't feel like that's going on, but i'm really not sure how to sensitively handle the subject.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22114229 - 08/19/15 09:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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millzy said: but i'm also a really busy guy. i go to school, i work a drama-filled full-time job, and sometimes when i'm able to catch my breath from all of that i'm just not in the mood. i don't want to say that sex feels like a chore, but sometimes i really do just want to unwind and have a conversation. she's cool about it on the sparse occasions that i say no, but that pressure is still there
Yea, you hit the nail on the head right here. There's no fights or arguments with my lady and I, but as you put it, sometimes it does feel like a chore because it's so constant.
As for the magic wand, I don't have one of those specifically but we have lots of other toys for her around. It holds her over really well for a couple hours lol.
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The Doobie Dude said: Kron be more alpha and fuck her till her hips break

Kr0n here are some things that will help Exercise ( ever since I started I'm horny all day every day pretty much ) Get some vibrators or sex today for her Maybe tell her some days you are just tired, but your still madly in love with her
I'm sure shelle understand
You're absolutely right. Exercise plays a huge role in my libido and I'm ashamed to say I've been pretty damn lazy for the past month. When I kind of "quit" drinking back in January I got in great shape over the next several months. Unfortunately I got lazy not too long ago.
We did have a conversation about it again today (her neediness in the sex department), and she's completely fine with the ordeal of me not necessarily keeping up with her but it is something extremely new to me which makes it a bit weird.
@Doobie: Being alpha is a joke. A really funny one...The tag team I'd consider. Maybe... but only if you brought another girl with you. What would I get out of watching your ass having sex with the woman I love?
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Yes, come blow on my "porridge". Pervert...
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yogabunny said: I believe in quality over quantity. To me, your gf's sex drive sounds really compulsive/excessive.
I hope you guys can come up with a compromise. If you're trying to look for ways to keep up with her, you might want to look into the chinese medicine/tantric practice of semen retention.
Maca root powder is also a good supplement for enhancing libido.
Good luck!

I couldn't agree more with quality over quantity. Not too many years ago that was certainly the the other way around but nowadays really making love, for lack of a better term is all I want and need. "Fucking" although fun, I can definitely do without.
As for her sex drive being compulsive/excessive, I've thought a lot about this and I somewhat agree. I'm not sure where the line is drawn when it comes to having a high sex drive to being a nympho.
I appreciate the suggestion of Maca root powder. I'll definitly look into it. Thank you.
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zappaisgod said: You know I love you darling but what the fuck? Kro isn't the problem. He's got a psycho nympho on his hands. Not that that's always a bad thing if you're in a band.
Are nymphos always psycho in your experience or are there exceptions? Like I said to bunny, that distinction between really enjoying sex and being a nympho is a bit blurry for me.
No need to get in a band though. The reason I switched to playing the acoustic from electric recently is because my lady has a beautiful voice. We've performed a couple times at open mic nights and it's been a lot of fun. She sings a lot of blues as well as 60's-70's rock which is a blast for me to play on the guitar.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22114400 - 08/19/15 09:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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get the wand dude. i'm not even kidding. it's like the ps3 of sex toys.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy]
#22114466 - 08/19/15 10:13 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You sold me on it with your phrasing.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy]
#22115097 - 08/20/15 01:20 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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millzy said: get the wand dude. i'm not even kidding. it's like the ps3 of sex toys.
This guy knows what's up. Seriously. They're called magic for a good reason.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
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kr0nik0 said: I am really curious. Jokes aside. Where would I procure bee pollen?
Sure as hell am not going to start popping Cialis to keep up with my woman's libido.
I was thinking about it, and this all may have something to do with a beta-blocker I was prescribed roughly 4 months ago. It's Atenelol and it was first given to me to regulate my heart beat when I quit drinking. Apparently after all this time without drinking I still need to take it or my BP goes through the roof. Scary stuff since I'm constantly active and at least in decent shape.
holy fuck you are already taking heart medication? so much for you ever marrying me!
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy]
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millzy said: @yogabunny
how would you approach dealing with compulsive sex drives? like i said, i really don't mind having a lot of sex, but i could do without the pressure she puts on me to deliver every single second of the time we spend together. things seem to flow better when i don't feel like that's going on, but i'm really not sure how to sensitively handle the subject.
well, it's just plain tricky because you don't want to hurt her or to make her feel like she's undesirable. there are a lot of emotions wrapped up in sex and it can be extremely hard to strike a balance when one partner wants it more often than the other.
I know this because my partner and I have the same conundrum. In our case he would probably be happy with multiple times a DAY and I am super satisfied with multiple times per WEEK.
A couple of months ago he picked up this book The Tao of Sex, Health & Longevity and our sex life has been absolutely amazing ever since. Like even better than ye olde honeymoon phase. He has not ejaculated in a couple months, but we have sex all the time. It's nice because we get to enjoy sex more often w/o me feeling pressured to have an orgasm all the time, and he is experiencing mind/body/spirit benefits from not ejaculating too. I don't know if this techinique would work in the case where it's the woman who has the higher sex drive, though? Typical this is not the case, so it makes me wonder if there's something else going on that is making her seek out sex more often as a form of validation and confirmation that they're safe in the relationship?
I wonder if offering increased non-sexual romance/intimacy would help?
As I always say, a woman needs only 3 things to survive: food, water, and compliments! 
Other than that I would say set boundaries as far as how much you are comfortable with an beyond that, let them take care of themselves, which it sounds like you're already doing.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
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sprinkles said: holy fuck you are already taking heart medication? so much for you ever marrying me! 
Originally it was for when I quit drinking since my BP shot up at that time. I'm no longer taking it for my heart/BP, just for my anxiety which is the lowest rx'd amount (25mg's a day). Much better than the other options which would be either a SSRI and/or Benzo. Let's just go get married tomorrow. I already whittled you a ring from a block of mahogany. :P
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yogabunny said: I wonder if offering increased non-sexual romance/intimacy would help?
As I always say, a woman needs only 3 things to survive: food, water, and compliments! 
Other than that I would say set boundaries as far as how much you are comfortable with an beyond that, let them take care of themselves, which it sounds like you're already doing.

We've only been dating since the 4th of July so we're very much still in the honeymoon phase. There's a constant stream of cuddles, sweet gestures, and compliments on both ends. Maybe a little too many as I'm very much a romantic.
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Typical this is not the case, so it makes me wonder if there's something else going on that is making her seek out sex more often as a form of validation and confirmation that they're safe in the relationship?
I believe what you said here has a lot of truth to it in my situation. My gf's 2 past "serious" relationships have been for the most part based around sex. Relationships where she wanted to be cared for but instead was just used. And a few years ago while still in college she indeed did sleep around for her own validation quite a bit. At least she acknowledges it...
She constantly tells me this is the first time she's felt truly loved. Although it's really nice I can make her feel like this, I really do believe she associates caring/loving directly with sex. I don't know if that's wrong or not but IMO, there should be a distinction.
The Tao book of sex you mentioned sounds very interesting. I'll definitely need to check it out.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
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well, it's just plain tricky because you don't want to hurt her or to make her feel like she's undesirable. there are a lot of emotions wrapped up in sex and it can be extremely hard to strike a balance when one partner wants it more often than the other.
I know this because my partner and I have the same conundrum. In our case he would probably be happy with multiple times a DAY and I am super satisfied with multiple times per WEEK.
A couple of months ago he picked up this book The Tao of Sex, Health & Longevity and our sex life has been absolutely amazing ever since. Like even better than ye olde honeymoon phase. He has not ejaculated in a couple months, but we have sex all the time. It's nice because we get to enjoy sex more often w/o me feeling pressured to have an orgasm all the time, and he is experiencing mind/body/spirit benefits from not ejaculating too. I don't know if this techinique would work in the case where it's the woman who has the higher sex drive, though? Typical this is not the case, so it makes me wonder if there's something else going on that is making her seek out sex more often as a form of validation and confirmation that they're safe in the relationship?
I wonder if offering increased non-sexual romance/intimacy would help?
As I always say, a woman needs only 3 things to survive: food, water, and compliments! 
Other than that I would say set boundaries as far as how much you are comfortable with an beyond that, let them take care of themselves, which it sounds like you're already doing.

we are very intimate and there's a lot of romance. gifts, dinner, cuddling, spending pretty much all of my time with her, it's all there. i guess i'll just have to keep talking to her. she does crave validation constantly. but like, for real, we talk at least three hours daily on the phone, and we work together. it's not like i ignore her by any stretch lol.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: millzy]
#22116292 - 08/20/15 11:28 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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That to me suggests a need for a person to work on self-care/self-love more.
Does she do anything for to nurture/care for herself outside of y'alls relationship?
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
#22116407 - 08/20/15 12:03 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
yogabunny said: That to me suggests a need for a person to work on self-care/self-love more.
Does she do anything for to nurture/care for herself outside of y'alls relationship?
i'm a lot further down the road as far as that goes. we both have self esteem issues and difficult pasts. but i've put a huge chunk of that stuff to bed over the course of a couple of years of counseling recently. she hasn't, and it can be exhausting. there are times where her insecurities take center stage to the point that we can't even have a conversation. i would definitely agree that the sex drive is a form of seeking validation.
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Edited by millzy (08/20/15 12:04 PM)
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: yogabunny]
#22117143 - 08/20/15 02:59 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just wanted to report back about the bee pollen.
I have no idea if it was some sort of placebo effect but my girl and why spent the last 4 hours having the most amazing sex since we've started dating. One of the best times in my life actually. 
I still want to give the Maca root a shot next time as well as look into the Tao sex book. Is it just a certain type of tantric sex, or a full lifestyle behind "Tao"? I've never heard of it before but it sounds really intriguing.
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: kr0nik0]
#22117232 - 08/20/15 03:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Awesome I'm glad I could help. Altho that Malcolm_xtasy turd gave me a 0 shroom rating haha
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Re: Love of my life wants too much sex... is this normal? [Re: empty space]
#22117480 - 08/20/15 04:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Malcolm's a cool guy but he needs to stick his dick in a jar of bee pollen and loosen up.. or is it harden up. 
The sex was pretty interesting, again I really don't know if it had anything to do with the bee pollen but even if it was a placebo effect, it was a good one.. I felt like I was on the verge of coming for such a long time which was marvelous. When both the lady and I finally did, it was really intense in the best way possible.
Only problem is I now have really sore balls from them smacking around for multiple hours.  A small price to pay for that kind of lovemaking.
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