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Patlal
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: nicechrisman]
#22106235 - 08/18/15 11:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It was a lesson life decided to teach me.
I learned to be more open in terms of commitment. Which I will in the future.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22106284 - 08/18/15 11:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Patlal said: It's strange.
Nobody ever mans up to take responsibility of their fuck up on this website. When I do, suddenly everybody is trying to say that's not my own fault.
Do we have some sort a of guilt issues up in here?
It's not politics, man. These things aren't about blame. You should look at it in a more practical and honest way and recognize that your emotions are pushing you toward rash actions that are driven by things like panic and jealousy. You weren't and still aren't ready for the kind of attachment and commitment that she wanted (nothing wrong with that BTW, and it was good to admit that), and she wanted somebody that would offer that to her in a way she could take seriously. She's thinking with her lady-dick, just like your thinking with your dick right now. She left that dude for a reason, and she's probably compromising her integrity of spirit to go back to the same situation so she doesn't have to feel desperate or alone. People get stuck with choices like that when they mature sometimes, and it makes me sad. There's nothing you can do about it except be cool and be a good friend (if possible) while you watch shit burn or work itself out. Maybe you'll learn something useful. C'est la vie, Patlal.
EDIT: Don't open yourself up to commitment you're not ready for either, man. She was moving too quick because she was desperate. Life is long, and those kind of rash decisions will chase you and continue to fuck you throughout the course of your life. The pace you had set was more reasonable IMO. You barely knew this chick. You didn't even know her long enough for her to get comfortable with being crazy around you.
Edited by Mr.GuessWork (08/18/15 11:26 AM)
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Mr.GuessWork]
#22106764 - 08/18/15 01:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hindsight is 20/20, op....Life is about "today"...and you had alot of great "todays" with that girl...be thankful for that.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22107697 - 08/18/15 05:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
This is the cool thing about free will being an illusion. You can move on from poor choices and lost loves without the guilt.
There was no way around you making that choice. Your brain decided it before you were conscious of it. Everything in your DNA and environment up to that point led to that decision.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal] 1
#22107718 - 08/18/15 05:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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does this mean you're no longer professor pussy?
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22107730 - 08/18/15 05:35 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22108049 - 08/18/15 06:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Patlal said: This roommate of mind that I've been having a fun time with has constantly wanted to have something more than just fun. I constantly said that I'm not avaialble emotionally (out of fear of attachment and commitment and all the other dumbass walls I built in front of me....
Now she met a guy, she wants to stop seeing me and it fucking blew my mind.... For the first time, I cared. I just had the most emotional conversation of my life about it... It pushed me to the wall and forced me to make a decision. I went for yes, I'll I'm willing to man up and do the adult thing for once in my godamn life, but it's too late.... She's going for that douche of guy she broke up with in the past and is willing to give him another chance... I know its a mistake. Rookie mistake even to give an ex another chance... But there's no changing her mind... I missed the boat. now it's sailing away.
I totally got what I deserved. I get that I lost. She gave me all the shots in the world and I was too much of a child to to catch the ball and score a touchdown.
I will survive. I don't even know why I'm writing this. This website needs to know every detail of my life for some reason. I'm compelled to tell you guys everything.
I don't need your sympathies or nice words or whatever. I learned a lesson the hard way. I grew up in a sense. Never will I put obstacles in front of me again. Cause this time I put one too many and I tripped, fell and hurt myself. Truly eye opening what you can do to your own self without even realizing it.
Life... What a strange thing...
So, how have you guys fucked your personal life lately?
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Patlal
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Lucis]
#22108060 - 08/18/15 06:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Fennario said: does this mean you're no longer professor pussy?
I guess not....
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22108121 - 08/18/15 06:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Bigfeely123]
#22109120 - 08/18/15 10:56 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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as mentioned though you were a rebound fling, sorry about that just enjoy it for what it was, kinky professor student playtime.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal]
#22109208 - 08/18/15 11:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dont feel too bad, ive been there so many times when i was younger.
I usually just missed all the cues and had no idea the girl i liked liked me also. I was so clueless.
A lot of times i was afraid of rejection, so i kept the relationship "just friends". Thats what u get for not taking chances in life.
It takes courage and dedication to say "hey, i wanna be your man. Stay with me". Its not an easy desicion.
Im currently with a long term girlfriend. I love her so much. Sure, we argue and distance ourselves, but when things are good, they sure are good.
There will be many more Patlal. If u find the right one, u will know next time and you will make a bold move to make her your girl/woman.
Love, its quite the journey, thru Heaven and Hell, but oh so worth it.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: ballsalsa]
#22109242 - 08/18/15 11:44 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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ballsalsa said: she was gonna get back with that guy either way. you saved yourself the extra pain of being serious with her. you were the rebound fling.
Honestly that probably would have happened. You really did yourself a solid in the end bro. I fucked my shit up about 3 months ago with a girl I really liked just by being too much of a push over doing anything and everything she asked thinking that if I some how didn't challenge her at all then she would some how love me but after I realized all I was doing was making myself seem like a weak little bitch.
No more. I focus on building up myself and living my life. If someone wants to share that with me then fine but I'm done putting other people Infront of myself. Time to live life to its fullest and stop wallowing in despair!
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#22109264 - 08/18/15 11:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah me as well.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Patlal] 1
#22109416 - 08/19/15 01:20 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just evict her and bang the new tenant 
Plus it may still be salvageable. Try to talk to her about it and see what she says
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Soulidarity]
#22109423 - 08/19/15 01:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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if he can't muster the willpower to go charging in their like a bull and marking his territory to run the guy off and state his love for her, then id suggest he plays the friend card for a while, and soon as that guy fucks up you tell her he's no good for her and that you would treat her right
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: makaveli8x8]
#22111029 - 08/19/15 11:38 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I think he just wants a pity party.
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Re: Well, I just missed out on my first actual opportunity at love because I'm a fucking child... [Re: Sham87]
#22111441 - 08/19/15 12:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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