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Anonymous #1
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My parents hate me
#22098087 - 08/16/15 09:39 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Edited by Anonymous (09/01/15 09:29 AM)
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Thunderbird310
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Sorry to hear that man. I used to have a sour relationship with my parents. They even kicked me out of the house while I was still in high school. Over time as I basically moved away and limited my communication with them they started to come around. Sometimes it can take a while for parents to relinquish control. Once they realize you are who you are, they may just decide to treat you better. This is just my experience and I'm no psychologist so take it for what it is worth.
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DensePlacebo
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Ya was kicked out for smoking pot at 15 years old the best part it was my dads pot. Anyway they kicked me out and I immediately moved provinces and spent four years on my own with no contact with my parents just grandparents. Long story short they eventually begged me to talk to them and be with the family again. Were still not the best relationship but it gets better slowly I guess.
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Penelope_Tree
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I'm sorry to hear you are going through an experience like that. I have a similar story, though not as severe, I admit. My father is and always has been emotionally disconnected and my mother is a codependent passive aggressive with unresolved emotional trauma. So, as you can imagine, I didn't have the most emotionally healthy upbringing. I felt alone, disconnected from my family, and lacking in love most of the time. There were lots of arguments. There were also good times; I can't deny that. I will say the best thing Ive ever done to heal from the negative experiences was seek counseling and move across the country. I understand not everyone is able to do that.
In that case, help heal yourself. Understand that grieving the loss of something you wanted (a healthy and happy family life) is natural and healthy and a necessary part of the process. Understanding that your family couldn't give that to you because of their own inability to deal with their traumas and flaws makes empathy easier, though it doesn't excuse them; it helps you to see the bigger picture and move onto a new perspective. Finally, giving yourself the space to heal allows the wound to stop being constantly irritated while you process the experience.
Good luck! You will do fine. Keep your head up and take care of yourself.
Namaste
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Edited by Anonymous (09/01/15 09:29 AM)
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Penelope_Tree
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Quote:
Anonymous said: What they do to me really hurts.
Fresh out of school I passed exams into the countries best flying school. To get airline transport pilot license and enrol on their course it cost something like 80 grand and to get that kind of money u have to go to a bank and for bank to give you these money u need parental guarantee.
Not only I didn’t get parental guarantee, my step dad told me to forget about flying (my ideal job, life long dream and ambition) and go work at a fish factory gutting fish 
One thing I’ve learned in life is : never stay where u not appreciated.
I'm sorry you were treated with disrespect. Don't let that discourage you from having dreams, motivation, and ambition. Not all human beings treat each other with disdain. Find the ones who lift you up. while you're seeking those people, remember that challenges and setbacks are what determines character. Failure is an illusion; failure only occurs when one quits on a goal. I highly suggest focusing all your mental capacity and energy onto one goal. Having a strong sense of purpose will put the difficult stuff into perspective. View it as a set in a workout that will make you stronger, more aware. You literally can do anything you set your mind to, you just have to find a way and be patient.
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Anonymous #1
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Beautiful advice thanks
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champinhom
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Well, without knowing you or your history of finishing what you start, I can't say whether your parent's not being willing to fork out 80,000$ is selfish or just plain common sense.
I would say this, however: If you treat them with compassion--which you can't do until you feel some for them, which it doesn't sound like you presently do--then they will probably start to respond in kind.
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Your only real chance is to fly planes for the Air Force. Lucky for you they currently need more pilots for once. Even if you went to a fancy flight school your chances of getting hired with no previous experience flying passengers are exceedingly slim. Yeah you do need to be in basically perfect physical condition and have great vision, but how bad do you want to fly? Bad enough to take out a student loan and blow it on laser eye surgery?
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Masked
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I don't think they will let someone with a physical disability fly?
Can you shed some light on your disability?
You mentioned you have your own place but then also mention how you "should pack up and leave your parents permanently". Do you live with them part time or something? Is this to do with your disability?
There are pieces to the puzzle here I need to know before having an opinion and giving advice
How old are you?
What do you do to support yourself?
What exactly do they complain about?
More details needed please
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