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Thayendanegea
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22106897 - 08/18/15 02:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Okay so anyways.. There is this girl that I know from my meetings. Screw the other girl I told you guys I was dating. She seems like she is almost out of the picture and has so much going on with her I do NOT want this thing to continue. I met this other chick at my homegroup. Very attractive. I mean holy shit. And she actually introduces herself to me. So anyways it's just always flirting and stuff when I see her at the meeting. I ended up getting her number some months back. And now she is getting to the point of where she is all over me most times when I see her even when I want to avoid her.
Anyways. Here is the catch. She has a boyfriend of 3 years. I actually just gave out a medallion to them both last week. Impressive stuff. And tonight she told me she was going to rent a car and come pick me up so she could take shots of me with her camera. (Trying to get my portfolio started). ANYWAYS. I wanna fuck this girl. I don't know how to go about doing that with the boyfriend situation and I already feel guilty as fuck for even thinking like this. What should I do? I mean.. she is pretty up there in looks and she is really down to earth. I tell her things in spanish all the time. "Eres hemosa, ves te muy bien." Things like that. And she seems to love it when I do. I'm not a bad guy. I don't want to live that way anymore but i'm so attracted to her it's hard to stay away.
You should ask your sponsor. If he was worth his weight he would tell you that the program of AA is about doing the "Next right thing" and this obviously isn't for many reasons. Not for you and not for her...it is about being honest with yourself and others. My guess is this is your prime reason for joining AA...not to stop drinking or better your life.
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JustForToday
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: Thayendanegea]
#22108300 - 08/18/15 07:50 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22108607 - 08/18/15 08:59 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: I don't know what you should do really. I can only say what I'd do. If I were you, I'd s tick around for a while and enjoy her company. Be supportive when she needs it. You'll find out the details about the bf situation soon enough. And if it takes too long and you lose interest, well, just move on.
I understand. But what if she wants me to make a move on her?
Dude, if she wants you, she'll let you know. She's not exactly an angel, I doubt she's gonna play innocent.
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Thayendanegea
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22110139 - 08/19/15 08:10 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
lol ....keep telling yourself that....Soooo that means you don't have a sponsor then?
-------------------- Look Deep Into Nature,and Then You Will Understand Everything Better. Albert Einstein
Edited by Thayendanegea (08/19/15 08:18 AM)
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: Thayendanegea]
#22113746 - 08/19/15 07:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
lol ....keep telling yourself that....Soooo that means you don't have a sponsor then?
Listen. Go pick up a white chip, then after you got 17 months of sobriety, then come and talk to me. k? Bye felicia!
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: koods]
#22113749 - 08/19/15 07:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: I don't know what you should do really. I can only say what I'd do. If I were you, I'd s tick around for a while and enjoy her company. Be supportive when she needs it. You'll find out the details about the bf situation soon enough. And if it takes too long and you lose interest, well, just move on.
I understand. But what if she wants me to make a move on her?
Dude, if she wants you, she'll let you know. She's not exactly an angel, I doubt she's gonna play innocent.
I guess we will have to see.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22113855 - 08/19/15 07:59 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Listen. Go pick up a white chip, then after you got 17 months of sobriety, then come and talk to me. k? Bye felicia!
Sobriety
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Thayendanegea
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22115694 - 08/20/15 08:09 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
lol ....keep telling yourself that....Soooo that means you don't have a sponsor then?
Listen. Go pick up a white chip, then after you got 17 months of sobriety, then come and talk to me. k? Bye felicia!
Try sixteen years kid....and BTW, you wouldn't last one week with me as a sponsor.....keep coming back.
Normally, I wouldn't give a rats ass about a punk like you...but, you are openly saying that you are a member of a organization that saved my life and countless others...I love and respect it. You are trashing AA's good name by your behaviors...and anybody that comes across your posts would surely think that AA must be a joke....I take offense to that and I wish you would take Bill Wilsons photo off of your avatar and stop referring to the "program" of AA that your actions seem to show that you know nothing about.
-------------------- Look Deep Into Nature,and Then You Will Understand Everything Better. Albert Einstein
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: Thayendanegea]
#22118237 - 08/20/15 07:28 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
lol ....keep telling yourself that....Soooo that means you don't have a sponsor then?
Listen. Go pick up a white chip, then after you got 17 months of sobriety, then come and talk to me. k? Bye felicia!
Try sixteen years kid....and BTW, you wouldn't last one week with me as a sponsor.....keep coming back.
Normally, I wouldn't give a rats ass about a punk like you...but, you are openly saying that you are a member of a organization that saved my life and countless others...I love and respect it. You are trashing AA's good name by your behaviors...and anybody that comes across your posts would surely think that AA must be a joke....I take offense to that and I wish you would take Bill Wilsons photo off of your avatar and stop referring to the "program" of AA that your actions seem to show that you know nothing about. 
LOL. So funny. Such a good attitude. Such brotherly love. You're probably just a dry drunk.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22120996 - 08/21/15 07:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I know the big book better than you. Let's go to page 69. Highlight if you even practice the program which I don't think you do. You're probably just full of AA Suggestions rather than actual book. WE DO NOT WANT TO BE THE ARBITER OF ANYONE'S SEX CONDUCT.
It is a suggestion to stay out of a relationship for a year. It is a suggestion to stay away from girls at your own meetings. It is not book. I can break down literally anything you probably believe. Thank God I have a knowledgeable sponsor and that I ,myself, have actually read the big book and understand it.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22121041 - 08/21/15 08:02 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Uhh...you guys sure that this AA stuff actually helps?
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: Thayendanegea] 1
#22121055 - 08/21/15 08:06 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Just because all my sexual threads relate to my meetings doesn't mean a mother fucking thing. Should I tell everyone what I do for program? No. I don't need to. I don't need validation from anyone because I have it from God.
lol ....keep telling yourself that....Soooo that means you don't have a sponsor then?
Listen. Go pick up a white chip, then after you got 17 months of sobriety, then come and talk to me. k? Bye felicia!
Try sixteen years kid....and BTW, you wouldn't last one week with me as a sponsor.....keep coming back.
Normally, I wouldn't give a rats ass about a punk like you...but, you are openly saying that you are a member of a organization that saved my life and countless others...I love and respect it. You are trashing AA's good name by your behaviors...and anybody that comes across your posts would surely think that AA must be a joke....I take offense to that and I wish you would take Bill Wilsons photo off of your avatar and stop referring to the "program" of AA that your actions seem to show that you know nothing about.
The dude has not had sex in 6 years and honestly i question if he has ever had sex just laugh at him and move on
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Thayendanegea
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22121077 - 08/21/15 08:16 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: I know the big book better than you. Let's go to page 69. Highlight if you even practice the program which I don't think you do. You're probably just full of AA Suggestions rather than actual book. WE DO NOT WANT TO BE THE ARBITER OF ANYONE'S SEX CONDUCT.
It is a suggestion to stay out of a relationship for a year. It is a suggestion to stay away from girls at your own meetings. It is not book. I can break down literally anything you probably believe. Thank God I have a knowledgeable sponsor and that I ,myself, have actually read the big book and understand it.
....I'm referring to the parts of the big book that talk about honesty and humility....you obviously skipped over them and went right to the sex part...lol. Anyway, I'm done here 
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: koraks]
#22122013 - 08/21/15 11:29 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: Uhh...you guys sure that this AA stuff actually helps?
Exactly what I was thinking
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: Thayendanegea]
#22125745 - 08/22/15 07:13 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: I know the big book better than you. Let's go to page 69. Highlight if you even practice the program which I don't think you do. You're probably just full of AA Suggestions rather than actual book. WE DO NOT WANT TO BE THE ARBITER OF ANYONE'S SEX CONDUCT.
It is a suggestion to stay out of a relationship for a year. It is a suggestion to stay away from girls at your own meetings. It is not book. I can break down literally anything you probably believe. Thank God I have a knowledgeable sponsor and that I ,myself, have actually read the big book and understand it.
....I'm referring to the parts of the big book that talk about honesty and humility....you obviously skipped over them and went right to the sex part...lol. Anyway, I'm done here  
No you wasn't. Now that I called you out, you're trying to change the subject. You originally came into my thread knocking me because I'm messing around with girls in the rooms.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22232720 - 09/13/15 05:05 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Update. I left the girl alone. My guilty conscious ate at me.
Now i'm befriending her boyfriend and he keeps asking me all these questions about her and stuff. She has been being unfaithful. I can't believe this. I feel so bad for him. I feel guilty because I liked this girl. I gotta make amends.
But how? I can't actually tell him I was pursuing her.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22232728 - 09/13/15 05:07 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Say nothing
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: zappaisgod]
#22232969 - 09/13/15 05:56 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You should totally tell him that you've been trying to bang his gf too. That'll be super effective.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: automan]
#22233004 - 09/13/15 06:02 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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He deserves better than her. I can't believe this fucking girl.
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Re: It's me again with another question. (Reasonable though) [Re: JustForToday]
#22234510 - 09/13/15 09:32 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Let him figure it out for himself.
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