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InvisibleJokeshopbeard
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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22087210 - 08/13/15 01:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I think it's a little callous for you to tell me what my opinion is.

Would you mind explaining how "the differing view from monogamy to polygamy is larger than a basic animal instinct for sexual gratification." for me please?

I fail to understand how it is more than that.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #22087277 - 08/13/15 01:39 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Because the opinion of love is entirely different. I can tell you what your opinion is if you write it down. It's not my fault if you don't clarify. Don't get your panties in a bunch.


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InvisibleJokeshopbeard
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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22087297 - 08/13/15 01:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You seem to forgo my politely asked question in order to be passive aggressive. My opinions are dynamic, and not fixed. If you feel I'm missing the point, then please help me to understand why.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #22087319 - 08/13/15 01:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I didn't miss anything, you just chose to not read it. No point in saying it again.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22087828 - 08/13/15 03:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Being polyamourous wouldn't be something I'd use just to sleep with other people. love happens and sometimes it's so amazing and deep that you know you'd be kicking yourself forever if you never explored it. Life is too short to deny an amazing, once in a lifetime connection with someone. Just my opinion.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: lillFish]
    #22088185 - 08/13/15 04:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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lillFish said:
Being polyamourous wouldn't be something I'd use just to sleep with other people. love happens and sometimes it's so amazing and deep that you know you'd be kicking yourself forever if you never explored it. Life is too short to deny an amazing, once in a lifetime connection with someone. Just my opinion.



true, but you could just tell your current partner that you found someone and that you want to break off the relationship with her (the current partner)


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: lillFish]
    #22088332 - 08/13/15 05:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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lillFish said:
Being polyamourous wouldn't be something I'd use just to sleep with other people. love happens and sometimes it's so amazing and deep that you know you'd be kicking yourself forever if you never explored it. Life is too short to deny an amazing, once in a lifetime connection with someone. Just my opinion.




If true love is a 'once in a lifetime connection' (which, IME/IMO, it is), then how can you share it with many?

There's various levels of love for others of course, and before I experienced 'true love' I would perhaps be more open to the fact one could share 'love' with many.

As with anything, it's a highly individual state. I think 'true love' is just too overwhelming to allow for polyamory. But 'love' in and of itself, could well allow for this, provided the conditions mentioned in the OP like excellent communication, trust and boundaries exist.

I love lots and lots of people, but I've only ever had one true love.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: ShiVersblood]
    #22088373 - 08/13/15 05:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Stealth1Vampire said:
asking a guy to be in a poly relationship is like asking the guy to lose his spine. its the same thing as allowing urself to be shit all over and pretending to be okay with it



You only say this because you have no game :rofl:


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: empty space]
    #22088382 - 08/13/15 05:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I have a practical concern/question:  For women who are involved in a "poly" type of arrangement, which means she is sleeping with more than one guy.  If she gets pregnant, she/they will have to get DNA testing to see who's the father of the child, won't they?  Seems to me it's a (somewhat) undesirable thing.

and who's going to raise the child?


Edited by WAN (08/13/15 05:52 PM)


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: WAN]
    #22088666 - 08/13/15 07:12 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I think a lot of you are confusing polyamory with swinging. It's not a free for all. Most polyamoryous people I have seen are SO mindful and careful of how, when and who they engage with sexually. Many many non-monogamous relationships are 3 or more people who consider themselves committed and don't have any other relationships outside their group.

Something like this appeals to me because I'm bisexual and think it makes waaaay more sense to raise children with a group/tribe as opposed to just two people.

:shrug:


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: yogabunny]
    #22088743 - 08/13/15 07:30 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I wish I could find other people to try it with. If done well it could have huge benefits for raising kids, much like an extended family household.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: yogabunny]
    #22088753 - 08/13/15 07:32 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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yogabunny said:
I think a lot of you are confusing polyamory with swinging. It's not a free for all. Most polyamoryous people I have seen are SO mindful and careful of how, when and who they engage with sexually. Many many non-monogamous relationships are 3 or more people who consider themselves committed and don't have any other relationships outside their group.

Something like this appeals to me because I'm bisexual and think it makes waaaay more sense to raise children with a group/tribe as opposed to just two people.

:shrug:


^I am afraid that that is too avant-garde for me.


Edited by WAN (08/13/15 07:32 PM)


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: WAN] * 1
    #22089765 - 08/14/15 01:02 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

It is condescending to assume that people who are polyamorous do not understand "true love".    And also funny in how far off the mark it is.

  Love does not have particular definitions.  It varies in context and concept from person to person and situation to situation.  My love for my mother is unique and can not be replaced with any other person.  So it is with anyone that i care for. 

A person whom i think is worthwhile simply can not be replaced.  I could talk to 1000 people about the same topics, but each conversation would be unique.  Some more unusual or strange than others and some people would harmonize more readily with me. 

Each loving relationship is unique and important for its' own attributes.  If a person only evaluates love in terms of certain characteristics, then it becomes meaningless.

True monogamy means having only one partner for life.  Not too many people live out that particular scenario.  If ever a person has used the term "i love you" for more than one person, then they are not, and can not be, monogamous. 

Serial monogamy is like trading up for a better car.  Sure whatever car you have now is the best, but then something else comes along and you trade up since you can only have one car at a time.  Then that car becomes the best. 

With polyamory you are not forced into artificial and unnecessary dichotomies of good and bad.  Communication, trust, love, respect, compassion.  Those are the lynchpins of any good relationship, but in polyamory the strong need to lie is removed.  No need for it.

If you can tell your partner(s) in a straightforward fashion that you are attracted to and like someone else, then all need for subterfuge is removed.  If you are comfortable with yourself then jealousy and envy are much easier to deal with.  Getting rid of personal insecurities also makes it easier to form true loving relationships with people without all that baggage that many people think is necessary.


Tribal child rearing is a sound and practical strategy. 

FYI  monogamy as we know it is not practiced in most cultures in the world.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: WAN] * 1
    #22090320 - 08/14/15 08:15 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I can understand how Polyamory is too future for some. :tongue2:


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True monogamy means having only one partner for life.  Not too many people live out that particular scenario.




Qft!

Most of the couples I know who got married in our early-mid 20's are divorced now, and as a result of cheating.

Also, I encourage everyone to really take some time to think about why you might be immediately discounting poly as avant-garde, weird, or disgusting. Where does your notion of a "traditional" relationship come from? Is that something that is innate? Or, perhaps, is it a program that was installed by your parents, television and pop-culture at large?

Food for thought.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: ShiVersblood]
    #22090771 - 08/14/15 11:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Stealth1Vampire said:
takes more skill? That is the exact opposite of what it takes. Poly takes no skill it just takes not having a back bone and takes u not caring about ANYTHING, including not caring about urself.




I know a chick that has 3 kids with two different guys and it's because at one time they were both down with it.

Not even making that. Disgusting bitch. A girl friend of mine one time almost beat the ever living shit out of her but that's a different story all together. This girl pulled the polyamorous crap one 6 sets of 2 dudes and they were all dumb enough to agree with it. I can only imagine what diseases she has caught. Sucks to be her.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: ShiVersblood]
    #22105259 - 08/18/15 03:07 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Stealth1Vampire said:
Poly relationships are such bull. Its just an excuse to cheat. I would go insane with jealousy and probably just kill the girl if I was ever in a poly relationship, I couldnt handle it.



Quote:

Stealth1Vampire said:
asking a guy to be in a poly relationship is like asking the guy to lose his spine. its the same thing as allowing urself to be shit all over and pretending to be okay with it



Quote:

Stealth1Vampire said:
takes more skill? That is the exact opposite of what it takes. Poly takes no skill it just takes not having a back bone and takes u not caring about ANYTHING, including not caring about urself.



Thanks for the 0 shroom rating because I said you had no game. If you had game you would just brush your shoulder off. Soooooo thanks for proving me right!

:rofl2:


Edited by empty space (08/18/15 03:12 AM)


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: empty space]
    #22105277 - 08/18/15 03:18 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe you just got a 0 Shroom rating for being so closed-minded? :wink:


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: koraks]
    #22105300 - 08/18/15 03:35 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

:itwasgoodforme:


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: empty space]
    #22105323 - 08/18/15 03:54 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Haha :wink: don't let it get to you man. Neither of you. Different strokes for different folks.


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Re: Polyamorous Relationships [Re: koraks]
    #22105659 - 08/18/15 07:44 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Stealth gave me 0 shrooms too and told me I didn't respect myself enough to be in a poly-relationship, which was entertaining criticism. The rating isn't weighted very heavily though, so I'm guessing stealth is pretty liberal with the 0 shrooms stinginess. You're supposed to share the shrooms, stealth.


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