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getting your dick to stand still
#22073072 - 08/10/15 06:54 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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This is an awkward question but shit, figured I might ask it here, you never know what type of answers you might get with asking a question like this in a place like this
Long story short, I need the head of my dick to stay in pretty much the same place while I stimulate it with a vibrator, even if it goes from soft to hard.
I'm a pre-op trans woman and I take feminizing hormones, which discourage erections, so tucking my dick back in my panties, as I generally do on the daily basis, and holding the vibrator between my legs and up against the head almost works, often (not always) taking me close to orgasm. Unfortunately, I tend to start getting hard at some point. Imagine you had a clitoris, and as you approach orgasm, your clit suddenly starts moving around, forcing you to constantly relocate that sweet spot with your vibrator. That is usually enough of a distraction in itself to hold you back from climaxing. It's very frustrating, and I get the same problem when I try to hold my dick in a different position, such as in the waistband of my panties. I need the sensations to be consistent and that is basically impossible with this sort of moving target.
So I'm basically just wondering if anybody knows of any sort of doodad a person could wear, such as a harness or the like, which would hold the head of the penis in roughly the same position as it goes from soft to hard, so I can focus on getting off rather than being distracted by this demented game of whack-a-mole.
Alternatively, some way of keeping my dick soft even through climax would be a solution, but I don't know of any way to achieve that aside from alcohol or drug abuse, which is not on the table as an option. If only they made an anti-viagra of some kind.
Edited by Anonymous (08/10/15 07:05 PM)
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22073121 - 08/10/15 07:04 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Shit man, that sounds like quite a dilemma. The only thing that springs instantly to mind would be to use rope, but then as you become erect you're always gonna be facing that moving target issue. I mean there's just no way you're gonna be able to maintain the head in the same place going from soft -> hard or vice versa.
If I were in your shoes, I reckon I'd be considering going for the op (I'm amazed what they can actually do with surgery these days) but it's also pretty drastic and likely very expensive. Is it something you'll consider/have been considering?
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#22073175 - 08/10/15 07:14 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I absolutely want the operation, but I'm not going to be able to have it any time soon, as I believe I would have to spend a lot of money on a surgeon with a good track record for maintaining sensation. In the meantime, I have a pretty high libido and it would be really awesome if I could find some way to consistently get off. Even before I started hormones this was an issue, as the act of penetration is a turn-off for me and jacking off is a really awkward and indirect way of getting that clitoral (ish) stimulation I crave.
I've been able to get off from the vibrator method I've described a good number times, and it's by far my favorite method, but it's really hit-or-miss, usually miss, due to this moving-target issue. I get frustrated and give up more often than not.
Edited by Anonymous (08/10/15 07:25 PM)
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22073287 - 08/10/15 07:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Honestly it seems like the best solution would be an anti-viagra, but since there is virtually nonexistent demand for a drug which reliably prevents boners with a minimum of side effects, I'm up shit creek without a paddle. I just did a google search for "drugs which cause erectile dysfunction" and seeing diphenhydramine might help, maybe I'll give that a shot.
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22073392 - 08/10/15 07:56 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I feel you man, sounds like an entirely frustrating situation, and I wish there was some sage advice that might help. Is it not possible to orgasm via semi jacking off? My wife's ex was circumcised and I hear that you can stimulate the head only with what sounds like a very different motion to average jacking off.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#22073885 - 08/10/15 09:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I guess you mean sorta like holding your hand like this
 (perhaps with an extra finger or so)
So that the shaft doesn't get stimulated much?
I've played with this idea a bit but the problem isn't so much the stimulation of the shaft, that's actually quite pleasing. I tend to feel overstimulated when I do it this way.
(I'm circumcised BTW)
Edited by Anonymous (08/10/15 09:49 PM)
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22073952 - 08/10/15 09:53 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I was thinking more of a pair of fingers on either side of the head, so that the shaft isn't touched at all. At least, that's how I understood the description I was given!
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#22073982 - 08/10/15 10:01 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hmmmm. I'll have to give that a try tonight.
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22074341 - 08/10/15 11:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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They make what is essentially a strap-on shoehorn for men with ED. One of those might help keep everything in one place.

Another alternative is a penis pump with vibrations near the glans. I think Joel Kaplan makes one? I know you're not particularly concerned with getting an erection, but the pump might keep you in a consistent position and the vibrations stimulating your glans may seem as you put it "clitoral".
http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-toys-for-men/penis-pumps/mack-tuff-vibrating-penis-pump?utm_source=google%2Bproducts&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=product%2Bfeed&gclid=CLTD5ZihoMcCFYM9aQodRxcHnQ
My last suggestion is one of those rings that has one or two vibrating eggs on it. They're designed to tickle the naughty bits of a woman while she's being penetrated, but they feel damned fine for the guy as well, and you could possibly just wear it and let it do it's thing, and it'll follow wherever your dick winds up going without missing a beat... pun intended.

Also, totally unrelated, I ran across this image whilst looking for those, and it was hot as fuck so I had to post it:
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Re: getting your dick to stand still [Re: Srirachi]
#22077882 - 08/11/15 06:48 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Wow, thanks! Three options to explore there. And yes, that is a hot picture, I wouldn't mind getting fucked by her
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