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Icelander
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You could get more vulnerable?
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Icelander]
#23002988 - 03/13/16 03:18 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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I wrote her after she threatened a restraining order if I sent one more e-mail. I am still free! 

OK, so maybe lust played a small part...
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Rahz
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OrgoneConclusion said: I wrote her after she threatened a restraining order if I sent one more e-mail. I am still free! 
Clearly she's wanting you to be a man and force yourself on her.
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Rahz]
#23004299 - 03/13/16 10:13 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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You jest, but there may be something to that. A very wise man here once wrote:
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That's one version of reality, but I think it's along the same line that got you to this dilemma in the first place. Consider other perspectives. What you did accomplish was to flatter the woman, which is not a bad thing despite the shock of your suddenness. If you truly did butcher things, then congratulations on getting rid of the bitch quick. But my experience is that if a woman likes you she will give you plenty of chances and be very generous in that regard, keeping in consideration her own feelings and need for centerness. You rocked her boat a little too rough, but no big deal she will get over it. There's no single thing you can do to ruin such an opportunity. If a woman likes you, it takes a concerted series of fuck ups to truly change her mind.
Got a note the other day wherein she APOLOGIZED for not writing back sooner, laughed and said some encouraging things.
Am trying to set up the first meet in 11 months come May. Then maybe I can let go or move this thang forward. A year between dates is a bit much. That would mean I could get in maybe 10 dates before I kick the bucket.
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viktor
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I never realised you were such a creep.
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: viktor]
#23004350 - 03/13/16 10:30 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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Someone here is envious that they have no one to stalk them.
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viktor
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You're almost as creepy as SeaShrooms.
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: viktor]
#23004465 - 03/13/16 11:09 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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Widdle white wabbits cannot be creepy.
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Kurt
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All things must go their way. Do existential narrarives burn through to ash? I think that's what the jelly-fish say.
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Rahz
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Goes to show, you can fuck up and still do good. Thanks for chronicling the account, you're obvious agony during parts of this ordeal has been very amusing. 
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OrgoneConclusion said: You jest, but there may be something to that. A very wise man here once wrote:
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That's one version of reality, but I think it's along the same line that got you to this dilemma in the first place. Consider other perspectives. What you did accomplish was to flatter the woman, which is not a bad thing despite the shock of your suddenness. If you truly did butcher things, then congratulations on getting rid of the bitch quick. But my experience is that if a woman likes you she will give you plenty of chances and be very generous in that regard, keeping in consideration her own feelings and need for centerness. You rocked her boat a little too rough, but no big deal she will get over it. There's no single thing you can do to ruin such an opportunity. If a woman likes you, it takes a concerted series of fuck ups to truly change her mind.
Got a note the other day wherein she APOLOGIZED for not writing back sooner, laughed and said some encouraging things.
Am trying to set up the first meet in 11 months come May. Then maybe I can let go or move this thang forward. A year between dates is a bit much. That would mean I could get in maybe 10 dates before I kick the bucket.
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Rahz]
#23041338 - 03/24/16 01:03 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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Rahz, she agreed to meet with me come May! She wrote: "I have to after all we have been through!"
Stockholm Syndrome anyone?
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Stand her up.
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Sun King]
#23041644 - 03/24/16 02:40 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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Haha! You always have the sagest advice on here.
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I wish you all the luck, OC.
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DividedQuantum said: I wish you all the luck, OC.
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OrgoneConclusion said: I wrote her after she threatened a restraining order if I sent one more e-mail. I am still free! 

OK, so maybe lust played a small part... 
If she knew, she wishes her pic wasn't on The Shroomery.
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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: CosmicJoke]
#23041889 - 03/24/16 03:51 PM (7 years, 10 months ago) |
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That is not her - just what she looks like to me!
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Rahz
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OrgoneConclusion said: Rahz, she agreed to meet with me come May! She wrote: "I have to after all we have been through!"
Stockholm Syndrome anyone? 
If there's one thing we can learn from Beauty and the Beast, it's that love's all that matters if you keep them locked up long enough.
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laughingdog
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OrgoneConclusion said:
OK, so maybe lust played a small part...
ya think?
not really an existential ...
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OrgoneConclusion
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No, not lust. That was just me playing to the audience here.
To this day some 9 months later, I cannot have a sexual fantasy about her. Not that she is too pure or that it is forbidden or sacrilegious, nor that my libido is gone. I just can't - and I have no explanation for that. Never happened with any other woman I cared about romantically or was seriously attracted too.
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You are maturing.
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