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Good news/bad news:
The good news is that I believe my fever is over. On a scale of 1-10, my pain level dropped from 100 to a 2. I now see her and our encounter as ordinary.
The bad news is that I now see her and our encounter as ordinary.
Silly human.
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OrgoneConclusion said: Good news/bad news:
The good news is that I believe my fever is over. On a scale of 1-10, my pain level dropped from 100 to a 2. I now see her and our encounter as ordinary.
The bad news is that I now see her and our encounter as ordinary.
Silly human. 
I can see your math skills weren't damaged.
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Sun King]
#22081024 - 08/12/15 11:46 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I see wherein your surprise got lost in the mail.
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Has your newfound compassion remained out of interest?
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Of course! That is what happens when one is cracked in half.
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I'm very glad to hear that man! Nothing like a bit of soul crushing pain to spur on ones personal growth!
Nietzsche put it well IMO when he said:
"To those human beings who are of any concern to me I wish suffering, desolation, sickness, ill-treatment, indignities - I wish that they should not remain unfamiliar with profound self-contempt, the torture of self-mistrust, the wretchedness of the vanquished: I have no pity for them, because I wish them the only thing that can prove today whether one is worth anything or not - that one endures."
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Nietzsche would be fun at a party.
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xFrockx said: Maybe try just being honest and apologizing to her for overreacting. If you can break the ice again telling her about your past would be a good way to become closer to her and would help to explain your lack of sanity in the situation.
Tried. No response.
When a woman closes her heart, apologies, clever words and logical arguments have no effect.
The more you try and fix a woman, the more she gets turned off. Give it some time bro.
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xFrockx said: Maybe try just being honest and apologizing to her for overreacting. If you can break the ice again telling her about your past would be a good way to become closer to her and would help to explain your lack of sanity in the situation.
Tried. No response.
When a woman closes her heart, apologies, clever words and logical arguments have no effect.
The more you try and fix a woman, the more she gets turned off. Give it some time bro.
women want to do the fixing. they don't want to be fixed they want to believe their perfect
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I have a book about 25% written called "Haley's Comet: A once in a lifetime encounter". What is ironic is that women will love this book for its mushy fantasy romance, but in real life hate guys that act the way I did. Go figure!
Look for me on Oprah next year after it hits The New York Times best seller list.
Women in the audience will be tossing their panties on the stage.
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Is this like a midlife crisis thing?
*cough* Death Anxiety *cough*
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: xFrockx]
#22084477 - 08/13/15 02:03 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I do see possibility in letting things cool off and checking in on her, but a different state of mind with less (or more depending on the perspective) care and concern is in order. Gotta let that good love simmer on the back burner and never be mentioned directly. That's how the ladies like it, and there's probably good reason for it.
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Rahz]
#22084782 - 08/13/15 04:12 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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please copy and paste that here
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Rahz]
#22084802 - 08/13/15 04:21 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rahz said: I do see possibility in letting things cool off and checking in on her, but a different state of mind with less (or more depending on the perspective) care and concern is in order. Gotta let that good love simmer on the back burner and never be mentioned directly. That's how the ladies like it, and there's probably good reason for it.
Good advice. Probably too late, though. I butchered it good.
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I think you are suffering from transference neurosis.
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Good advice. Probably too late, though. I butchered it good.
That's one version of reality, but I think it's along the same line that got you to this dilemma in the first place. Consider other perspectives. What you did accomplish was to flatter the woman, which is not a bad thing despite the shock of your suddenness. If you truly did butcher things, then congratulations on getting rid of the bitch quick. But my experience is that if a woman likes you she will give you plenty of chances and be very generous in that regard, keeping in consideration her own feelings and need for centerness. You rocked her boat a little too rough, but no big deal she will get over it. There's no single thing you can do to ruin such an opportunity. If a woman likes you, it takes a concerted series of fuck ups to truly change her mind.
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Re: My Existential Crisis [Re: Rahz]
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Rahz said: But my experience is that if a woman likes you she will give you plenty of chances and be very generous in that regard, keeping in consideration her own feelings and need for centerness. You rocked her boat a little too rough, but no big deal she will get over it.
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Rahz said: There's no single thing you can do to ruin such an opportunity. If a woman likes you, it takes a concerted series of fuck ups to truly change her mind.
And this.
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Seems I just took a short respite from the agony and it is back with a vengeance. There is no place to hide; not sleep, sports, TV, drugs or alcohol. Am too agitated to meditate.
Here is a lady' somewhat similar dilemma:
Twin Flames, Extreme Pain and Faith
If you have recently found, or have been wrestling with, a Twin Flame relationship for any amount of time, I'm sure you've discovered the absolute debilitating pain. Though I believe the pain, to a degree, is necessary as it shapes us into who we are supposed to be, I also believe we make it far worse on ourselves than it has to be.
My personal twin flame journey has been about as complicated as most. I wish I'd known or understood the concept before I met this man who was a mirror of myself, but alas, not so much.
As I've said before, I wasn't aware of the concept before it started coming up in my meditation, but I will tell you, that the only thing that has enabled me to survive the pain of this experience, the only reason I have kept my TF in my life, is because of my personal faith.
Don't get the wrong idea, I'm not about to preach religion at you. However, without some kind of faith in something I honestly don't know how a person would survive this. I read it put once, "Why would staring at the other half of your soul and having it reject you, not be the most painful experience in the universe?"
I know there is a lot of suffering and pain going on in our world. I've had my fair share of it, but this is different. It's very hard to even explain it because it's so unlike anything else you've experienced. You think you are crazy. You think it shouldn't be like this. You think there is something wrong with you. My pain was compounded by thinking I'd lost my mind over some man, something I considered myself too smart and self aware to ever do.
For a very long time, I very seriously thought I had lost my mind. I'm still not entirely certain I did not.
I am ready. Start at max voltage:
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Could you share the link you got the extract above from please OC? Sounds like what I'm going through!!
Here's a song that seems appropriate:
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Have you considered keeping her in a cage in your cellar until she comes around?
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