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can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to?
    #22055031 - 08/06/15 06:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

do you find it difficult to perform if it's with someone you're not physically attracted to in the slightest?

I've kind of been going out for drinks with someone...we've fooled around a bit and I think she's really fun and cool, but I don't feel I could actually have sex with her.
She doesn't just doesn't turn me on - and I feel like this kind of contradicts the idea of sex.

Any tips or tricks? I feel like she's expecting the D, and I'm too nice to kind of break it down the way I just did here.

I don't know...what would you do??


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 1
    #22055035 - 08/06/15 06:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Drink more. Always works for me, or turn the lights off.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055036 - 08/06/15 06:52 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

and wow this sounds so shallow

I just feel like I wouldn't be able to do it...and I mean that in the most sincere/nicest way possible


I know there's more than flesh, but it just isn't there. Like I said, she's cool, I like her...but not like that.
I just feel like I've kind of been leading her on.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055046 - 08/06/15 06:55 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I'm not picky. I'll bang anyone with a pussy :shrug:


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055057 - 08/06/15 06:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

How long do you feel like you've been leading her on? If it hasn't been that long, it's probably best to tell her now you aren't looking for anything if you want to stay friends with her, the longer she thinks you're interested the more let down she'll be.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: nooneman]
    #22055058 - 08/06/15 06:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I'm not really picky either, I just...I don't know! I just feel like they're experiencing emotions I'm not.

And I love hanging out with her...she's my drinking buddy. But I just...she likes to start kissing and getting physical, and I just don't feel the energy/connection/whatever.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055069 - 08/06/15 07:01 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

A few weeks?

I mean, we've hooked up (obviously - that's how I know it isn't something I want). But I don't want to lose her as a friend.
I guess it only makes sense to come clean, but it's gonna be hard for me. She told me that she's liked me for a while.

I gave it a chance, but it isn't working out. Like I said, it comes down to me not wanting to change the way things are.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055071 - 08/06/15 07:02 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Don't sweat it man if you won't fuck her she'll find someone who will


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: nooneman]
    #22055077 - 08/06/15 07:03 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

man If I would be her I'd be wanting to be with you now, and you should think maybe you're thinking of her now, what more can you want than that how do you feel so compotent i mean in your thinking not being attracted, like geez maybe you arent now but in time maybe you're attractions are in transition, like she could paradime shift taste.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055082 - 08/06/15 07:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

i got jerked off by a 40 year old man through a glory hole in mid-june 2015


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055084 - 08/06/15 07:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I've known her for years


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055085 - 08/06/15 07:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I decided after reading this and my own post that I know nothing about any of this and I retract my statement.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055091 - 08/06/15 07:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I've never had this maybe the opposite, man actually man, I think the opposite, what if she was someone you never got to hook up with or had much fun with but you were attracted to.
wouldnt matter because you'd never get to where you are now based on attraction.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055095 - 08/06/15 07:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

yea i could bang someone im not attracted to physically, MAYBE but onlyMAYBE


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Sheekle]
    #22055116 - 08/06/15 07:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I'd say its not about banging  I dont think tahts the case it appears like are oyu willing to try loving her moreso?


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055124 - 08/06/15 07:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

no way bro, i couldnt do it..

then what if they become attached and u're not even into them, just turns into a fucking circus


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: zZZz]
    #22055134 - 08/06/15 07:13 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

unless u just want to bang her but u dont want to deal with all the drama u should let her know beforehand where u two stand


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055136 - 08/06/15 07:13 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I think its in your head it wasn't a man it was a woman that has to use a LOT of sanitizer hence the tough calloused hands


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055150 - 08/06/15 07:17 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I bang whoever I want. Just don't answer the phone if you think they're getting attached. She will get the message.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055170 - 08/06/15 07:22 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

No, I don't love her.

I think she's cool. I have fun with her -- it doesn't go beyond that.
I'm not physically nor emotionally attracted to her.

If you have a physical attraction but nothing more - this can easily be a one night stand (or a dead end relationship). End of story.
If the physical attraction lacks but you're emotionally invested, that can turn into something more - and in turn - physical attraction can grow.

The problem is neither of these are present. I simply have fun with her, going out getting drunk, partying, laughing and stuff like that. Friend stuff.

Just friends.

But I feel like she thinks we're more than that. I can understand why. Maybe I should just make it clear that we ARE just friends.
I'm just afraid of the aftermath.


Am I wrong here??

Like I said, we have played some "games," which would only push toward the idea that it's more than friends. But it isn't. In my eyes, we've gotten drunk and fooled around. Maybe it's my slutty way of thinking, but it was nothing more than having fun.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055173 - 08/06/15 07:22 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I don't get it. Are you gay? Is there something really messed up about her face or body? Be a man and bang her.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Capers] * 4
    #22055183 - 08/06/15 07:26 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Some guys don't just fuck anything and everything.

Let that sink in.


I could go ahead and do it, and then even further complicate the situation (you know, the one where I'm not interested in her in that way but she seems to feel the opposite).

Great plan!


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 1
    #22055187 - 08/06/15 07:28 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You've been leading her on for weeks. I understand that shit happens sometimes, but god damn. Don't act like you're being all considerate of her feelings or some shit.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Capers]
    #22055192 - 08/06/15 07:29 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

sex at dawn
book about primate sex.

cant tell you to read it cause I haven't read it all but the first half.

basically you not being slutty and nothing needs to change because of sex, in tribes of hunter gatherers women believe that their belly grows only if she collects the semen of as many men as she can for the full duration of pregnancy


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Capers]
    #22055195 - 08/06/15 07:30 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

So instead of trying to set things right, I should just go ahead and make things even more awkward and increase the odds of me losing her as a friend?


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Capers]
    #22055205 - 08/06/15 07:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

And I was giving it a chance, but it isn't working out the way I thought it would.
It's not like I was using her.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: TravelerOfSorts]
    #22055208 - 08/06/15 07:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I never had sex with a girl whow as my friend, and it means nothing, I remembered a similar happening I am sure now in heindsight we should have had sex with the pet watching and her mom in the next room but I didnt know how to act nothing happened, and im not friends with her now because I couldnt realise what was happening at the time I've never had a relationship and I almost assure you she thought less of me for not taking a chance on her.

hmmph got me thinking anyway bro good luck may the force be with you. If thats a choice you've got the chance to make I think you'll be suprised how its not a thing that's in your control.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055229 - 08/06/15 07:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

If you've been friends with her a while, just tell her the truth, you wanted to give it a shot but you aren't into it like that and don't want to ruin your friendship with her, but phrase it differently and way more nicely. No matter what it's going to be awkward, might as well just stop it before it ruins your entire relationship with her.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22055241 - 08/06/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I know...I just feel bad. Thought that maybe there would be someone who was in a similar situation that could share their story and how it worked out.

Thanks for the replies, guys.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055245 - 08/06/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

And Capers, I didn't mean any hostility toward you, I just felt like you weren't fully understanding where I was coming from.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055257 - 08/06/15 07:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

With enough alcohol I've definitely made some questionable calls in my past.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 1
    #22055260 - 08/06/15 07:48 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I've been in that situation, I ended it after a bit and we were friends for a long time before that, we hung out with friends a few times shortly after and it was a little awkward and we pretended everything was normal, and then we slowly drifted apart.

I didn't want to say that because it might not be the case for you and she might be fine with it and you guys can stay friends, but unfortunately I think I saw you say in an earlier comment that she told you shes liked you for a while, which means you'll probably stay "friendly" but most likely not close friends anymore.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 1
    #22055265 - 08/06/15 07:49 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

i hate liz said:
And Capers, I didn't mean any hostility toward you




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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22055282 - 08/06/15 07:54 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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If you've been friends with her a while, just tell her the truth, you wanted to give it a shot but you aren't into it like that and don't want to ruin your friendship with her, but phrase it differently and way more nicely. No matter what it's going to be awkward, might as well just stop it before it ruins your entire relationship with her.




Pretty much this.

Nobody can tell you how it will work out. Sounds like she's catching feels it happens :shrug:

But if your just not into it then you aren't. Be honest with her and honestly you might not be friends after this. But it is what it is.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22055296 - 08/06/15 07:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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I've been in that situation, I ended it after a bit and we were friends for a long time before that, we hung out with friends a few times shortly after and it was a little awkward and we pretended everything was normal, and then we slowly drifted apart.

I didn't want to say that because it might not be the case for you and she might be fine with it and you guys can stay friends, but unfortunately I think I saw you say in an earlier comment that she told you shes liked you for a while, which means you'll probably stay "friendly" but most likely not close friends anymore.




Bingo

There comes a point where you move beyond being friends. And it's hard to maintain that connection once its become apparant that one or the other doesnt feel as strongly. You just drift apart. Such is life.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 2
    #22055297 - 08/06/15 07:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

This probably goes without saying but I'd say definitely leave out the "not attracted to her physically" part in any conversation you might have with her about this.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: psi]
    #22055331 - 08/06/15 08:04 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I honestly don't know how you can have this conversation without offense. Your friendship will never be the same she obviously has feels for you and have reciprocated kissing her back and such. It is what it is man but don't lead her on because your afraid of losing a friend. She could be hanging out with someone that wants to do those things with her.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22055343 - 08/06/15 08:06 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Start spending less time with her, and when you do use words like "Sup buuuddddyy?"  (Like Pauly Shore)

Just use more language that friend-zones her.

I'm the same way.  If the physical attraction isn't somewhat there then it is nearly impossible for me to be sexually interested. 

For instance there is a woman who hangs in the same circle I often find myself.  She's definitely interested in me, but she came on to me wayyy too strong and I'm not very attracted to her.  It's not that she is unattractive, but the way she came at me turned me off.  Like super desperate and clingy.  But I'm not an asshole so I'm cool with her, but she takes it as interest.  Shit happens.  I won't take advantage of her because I'm not selfish like that. 

Maybe you're just in denial?  Maybe you are used to infatuation and not love?  I mean if you can't see yourself dealing with this person every day forever then it's best to end it now.


Definitely don't tell her you aren't attracted to her. 

Just tell her you see her more as a friend, and it's the truth.  It might suck and she'll be hurt, but the longer you wait the more it'll hurt and the more you'll feel like shit as well.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: MrBlueYoMind]
    #22055365 - 08/06/15 08:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I mean if you can't see yourself dealing with this person every day forever then it's best to end it now.

I don't see how people think like this. Why not enjoy the person your with at any given moment. Why does it always have to be your entire life? Nothing lasts forever. I just don't get that way of thinking at all.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Enjoywho] * 1
    #22055398 - 08/06/15 08:17 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Drink more . Don't look at porn or goto the strip club. Wait like a week or less save dat seed and you will good .


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: trekie] * 2
    #22055405 - 08/06/15 08:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Enjoywho]
    #22055518 - 08/06/15 08:48 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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Enjoywho said:
I mean if you can't see yourself dealing with this person every day forever then it's best to end it now.

I don't see how people think like this. Why not enjoy the person your with at any given moment. Why does it always have to be your entire life? Nothing lasts forever. I just don't get that way of thinking at all.




Well  if she gets pregnant then he has to deal with her for the rest of his life.  I don't see how people can't think like this...


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: MrBlueYoMind]
    #22055536 - 08/06/15 08:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I think he's more concerned because he's afraid his friendship with her is at risk and that if he has that fun with her then it could completely destroy it especially since she kinda likes him and he doesn't feel the same, so it isn't like it's exclusively for sex in her mind. He said she's a cool chick and he likes hanging out with her and has known her for a while, and sex with her or continuing to let her think he's into her would ruin it totally when she finds out he doesn't feel the same.

He could have fun with her, but wants to maintain the friendship, save that fun time for girls who aren't friends, namean? At least if you want to stay friends.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
    #22055879 - 08/06/15 10:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

You should be honest with her, leaving out the implication that she's not attractive, and tell her that the friendship is important to you but you don't see a serious relationship between you two happening. You could say you've enjoyed hooking up, and are willing to have casual sex but don't want to complicate the friendship. Use the word friendship frequently. If she still wants to bone just perform terribly, try to cum as fast as possible, let her decide she doesn't want you. She'll get over you, and you guys can continue on as friends.

Likely once she's no longer interested you may get that whole "want what ya can't get" phenomenon and decide you want to go after her. By then it will be too late.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Speckles]
    #22055937 - 08/06/15 10:28 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

what about a fat unattractive bitch

fuck no and fuck that

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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy] * 2
    #22055944 - 08/06/15 10:30 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I would never have sex with someone I didnt find attractive.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Moonshoe]
    #22066732 - 08/09/15 11:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

so after a night of drinking, we came back to my place (again)

we were watching always sunny and she was like, "Do you wanna watch this?"
I'm like, "What do you mean?"
She's like, "Like, do you wanna watch this or do you wanna put on music and make out?"
I said, "I'm actually kind of tired."

Do you think this is kind of a dead giveaway?


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22066742 - 08/09/15 11:24 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

shh, ur reminding me of when some chick didnt wanna make out with me nd fell asleep shortly after a lil ago


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22067165 - 08/09/15 01:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

i hate liz said:
so after a night of drinking, we came back to my place (again)

we were watching always sunny and she was like, "Do you wanna watch this?"
I'm like, "What do you mean?"
She's like, "Like, do you wanna watch this or do you wanna put on music and make out?"
I said, "I'm actually kind of tired."

Do you think this is kind of a dead giveaway?



maybe, but there's times when we're just tired too.

I don't think the passive aggressive route is the best way to play it if you want to keep the friendship.

you basically have to have the conversation sooner or later and friendzone her brah. :shrug:


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22067238 - 08/09/15 01:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Everyones beautiful in rope :bondage:


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Beanhead]
    #22067264 - 08/09/15 01:38 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I have to be attracted to that person, but I also need to click with them emotionally at least enough to be compatible - that goes into a person's attractiveness to me. I don't expect perfection at all, and some physical flaws often grow on me if their personality is attractive.

I don't bang people just to bang, I can deal with any urges myself(heh). I just need to be attracted to someone physically, but a huge part of that is personality.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: pirate-blues]
    #22068339 - 08/09/15 05:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Yes. If I've grown attracted to men and women through other means. I've dated a couple of people who weren't my "type" physically but had other positive attributes. Sex, for me, is primarily about intimacy and that intimacy is built through stimulating conversation, a sense of humor, and a bit of stubbornness. But that's just me.

As far as your situation? I think you should tell her you are not attracted to her and remove any possibility of her misinterpreting your interactions. This gives her the chance to find someone who does find her appealing and absolves you of seeming to be an opportunistic, manipulative, cad.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: dionysiandame]
    #22068499 - 08/09/15 05:51 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

It seems like youre more asking about it ruining the relationship, rather than actually banging her - atleast from what i can tell.

I could never kiss someone i found unattractive, thats just gross to me.

Fucking, on the other hand, is absolutely nothing.

If im sitting there hanging out and all of a sudden i look at the person and think "hmmm...i could stick my dick in that right now with no effort..." 10/10 times im going to do it.

Ive fucked guys on this principle. Its just a feel good hole, thats all sex is. For me atleast

If you want to bang her without being sexually attracted to her, think of anything, get a hardon, and smash her warm pussy with limited foreplay.

Or get her to give you a bj, its nearly impossible to stop after that


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: shadyy]
    #22069798 - 08/09/15 10:08 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Using reverse psychology to get an old fashioned.


While watching TV . Well played sir.:fedora:


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: trekie]
    #22069801 - 08/09/15 10:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

i do this every day. its just sex


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
    #22069804 - 08/09/15 10:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Mr.PhilCybin said:
Quote:

i hate liz said:
so after a night of drinking, we came back to my place (again)

we were watching always sunny and she was like, "Do you wanna watch this?"
I'm like, "What do you mean?"
She's like, "Like, do you wanna watch this or do you wanna put on music and make out?"
I said, "I'm actually kind of tired."

Do you think this is kind of a dead giveaway?



maybe, but there's times when we're just tired too.

I don't think the passive aggressive route is the best way to play it if you want to keep the friendship.

you basically have to have the conversation sooner or later and friendzone her brah. :shrug:



yea this is the best advice here


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: god2hateyou]
    #22069838 - 08/09/15 10:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

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i do this every day. its just sex



Gay 4 pay . Good for you
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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Sheekle]
    #22069839 - 08/09/15 10:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

Looks should be second in line after how she treats you If you think she getting emotional about you than you need to telling her your not interested Or you can seriously hurt what sounds like a good friendship On the other hand you can man up and think more about how this chick is gonna treat you in the long run She may end up being the love of your life and you don't even know it


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Splinta]
    #22069935 - 08/09/15 10:42 PM (8 years, 5 months ago)

It's called a condom

Do you not want ugly kids?

Wear a condom.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: Konyap]
    #22070182 - 08/10/15 12:25 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

I only slept with one girl I did not find physically attractive all the other ones have been cute.


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Re: can you bang people you're not phsysically attracted to? [Re: The Doobie Dude] * 1
    #22070449 - 08/10/15 04:04 AM (8 years, 5 months ago)

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