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bloodsheen
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The things you learn from dating
#22035005 - 08/02/15 07:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So other than obvious stuff like sexual skills, does anyone really learn anything from their relationships?
It seems like people just pick up baggage and put armor over their hearts. I know people who ended up with their 3rd partner and stayed together forever, people who have dated every type of person under the sun and still havent found anyone, and everything in between
Id like to postulate that dating teaches you nothing but pain. Some people are broken and arent meant to be in a relationship, or at least their standards are so high no one exists that will meet their qualifications.
Thoughts?
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Lachy
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Re: The things you learn from dating [Re: bloodsheen]
#22035083 - 08/02/15 07:58 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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There are a lot of other things than emotional learnings that come from relationships. This is not a reflection of myself, just what I've seen of friends over the last few years, of being single myself:
Like learning how to do your own washing, cleaning up after yourself.. personal hygiene (some of my mates are fucking shocking.. take a shit and don't even wash hands, etc.), cooking for themselves, budgeting, prioritising. How to balance your social life(rarely around friends/always being around friends).
These are things which I have never had a problem with myself.. maybe aside from budgeting here and there but who doesn't?
There's a lot to learn from each and every relationship whether it be dating or friendship
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sudly
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Re: The things you learn from dating [Re: bloodsheen]
#22035526 - 08/02/15 09:56 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Self reflection and improved emotional intelligence are often the result of relationships.
Relationships teach you how to deal with pain, what expectations are, confidence, numerous emotions, people/social skills, how to express, individual sexuality, individual preferences and plenty of basic life skills both emotional and physical.
If you don't learn/experience much and end up with a broken heart it probably wasn't a very serious relationship to begin with.
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koraks
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Re: The things you learn from dating [Re: sudly]
#22036201 - 08/03/15 01:54 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well said, sudly. Dating can be very confronting, but if you dare, there's a lot to be learned. But the frustration will always be a part of it. The trick is to recognize what frustrates you and then see if you can learn from that.
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Re: The things you learn from dating [Re: koraks]
#22046687 - 08/05/15 11:10 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I like what Sudly said above. I really believe that relationships (and our natural propensity to enter into them for the long term) are so because they alone, allow you to grow past the limits of what you could ever achieve by yourself.
I mean we're all cunts from time to time right? But if there's no one close enough to you to reflect back to you when you are being so, how will you ever know you're being so?
IME, I have grown at probably double the rate I do when single, when I'm in a deeply connected relationship.
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