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Trickyricky217
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Why is it so hard to believe?
#22034323 - 08/02/15 04:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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So I have a very close friend who I consider a brother. We'll call him D. Him and I had a get together last night and everyone was drinking and having a great time. The night goes on and everyone is getting more and more intoxicated. D decides he is going to lay down to stop the spinning and ends up passing out. Well D's girlfriend of 3 years and mother of his child is there as well and by this point she is pretty damn drunk herself but sober enough to realize D was passed out and wasn't waking up anytime soon. She starts to hit on this guy who was there. Next thing I know they're both missing. I go looking out of curiosity. Find her giving the guy a blowjob in his car. Naturally, I interrupt it and tell her I am telling D the second he is coherent enough to understand. She begs me not to, but I am not having any of it. I stay up all night thinking of how D would take the news. He gets up in the morning, and I let him wake up a little and I pull him aside and fill him in on the situation that unfolded last night. At first he thinks i'm joking, then he just flat out states that he doesn't believe me that she would do anything like that and that I should drop it. I know that it's a hard thing to take in news like that about someone you love but we have been best friends since 4th grade. Why would I lie about something like that? Even if I didn't like her to begin with I would respect the relationship because she makes him happy. Maybe we're not as close as I had thought? Or maybe he just can't handle the truth? Any opinions on the matter?
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rackem



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you did your friend a favor.. what he does with it is up to him.
you have done what is in your control now you gotta let him handle it.
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nicechrisman
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: rackem]
#22034340 - 08/02/15 04:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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^solid advice^
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: rackem] 10
#22034341 - 08/02/15 04:40 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You should blow your friend so he can have the proper revenge.
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larry.fisherman
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He can't handle the truth. Stick by his side and you have to endure him thinking you'd lie about something like that, plus know she's a whore. That sounds painful.
Or you can take a stand, say I'm not lying and we can be friends again when you understand that. That's tough love.
Or you can move on with your life like nothing happened and never think about it again, because maybe he's just trying to tell you it's not your problem.
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Trickyricky217
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Yeah, I plan on still sticking around as his friend. Will just be tough having to see them together knowing that he loves her so much he won't believe me and she loves him so little she would do it behind his back and not fess up
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nicechrisman
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Now that you know she's easy like that you should tell her that she needs to give you head so you won't tell him.
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: nicechrisman]
#22034378 - 08/02/15 04:47 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Haha, sad thing is she would probably do it. I always thought they were good together. She has always been pretty flirtatious but I always passed it off as a bubbly personality. Never thought she was actually messing around. Now I wonder just how long it has been going on
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nicechrisman
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Well here's the thing- we live in a society that is very obsessed with sex. To the point where I don't really think this kind of thing is all that uncommon. I bet in the majority of relationships there has been some cheating on the part of one or the other (or both) partner. I'm not trying to defend cheating, and it's not something I've ever engaged in, but I wouldn't necessarily jump to the conclusion that it means she doesn't still love and care about him and that they can't still have a happy life together.
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larry.fisherman
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You could always get the other guy to admit it in text then show your friend. 
Fuck, text her, maybe she would admit it arguing with you about it.
Be warned though, if you push it she might push back. Many guys have lost friends over this exact situation.
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nicechrisman
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If you push the issue too far you may very likely lose your friendship with him.
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You planted the seed. Whether or not he says he doesn't believe it now is kind of irrelevant. It's going to stick with him and he's going to start to notice things. May take days, may take weeks, eventually the truth will come out though. Highly doubt it was her first time and will be her only time. He'll catch her eventually.
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nicechrisman
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I feel like there is often a funny degree of competition between long time best friends and lovers. In most cases the lover wins.
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dude's in denial
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nicechrisman
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: Niffla]
#22034498 - 08/02/15 05:10 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's not just a river in Egypt
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Trickyricky217
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: nicechrisman]
#22034529 - 08/02/15 05:19 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah, as much as i'd like to think it was her first time and a drunken mistake I don't think that's the case. It's sad too because I thought she was a chill ass chick until then too. I think he will come to realize that I wasn't just saying it to drive a wedge. If not than that's on him since there isn't anything I can do to convince him without pissing him off. I'll just let things play out. Sucks though to have a close friend in that situation
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: nicechrisman] 1
#22034541 - 08/02/15 05:21 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Your friend is a fool. Plain and simple. I would take a stand and probably be distant from him if he said that i was lying about the situation. That tells me he isnt as close to you as you believe
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rackem



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remove yourself from it asap man..
you keep going on like this and your going to be out a friend.
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Trickyricky217
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Re: Why is it so hard to believe? [Re: rackem]
#22034565 - 08/02/15 05:27 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I haven't said anything to him about it since I initially told him. Even though it sucks to see him with someone like that it's his choice.
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larry.fisherman
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At any rate, whatever this leads to, it sounds like you're a good friend.
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