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qman
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Don't "make plans" when you first start off dating someone, you're already too predictable and unexciting.
She wants to date a man that is a little difficult to obtain, you already ruined the "chase" for her, better luck next time.
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philopian_tube
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: qman]
#22026458 - 07/31/15 10:39 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You both make good points. The more I know!
Hopefully I get that booty call though haha. Shes young and attractive yes, but she doesnt know it, low self esteem and her social group is tiny.
In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy flirting with other girls, that's fun for me, plus an ego boost!
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lillFish
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22072146 - 08/10/15 03:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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This girl sounds like me and you know what? I bet she was into you but she sensed that you were impatient and wanted something that she wasn't ready to give you and it made her retreat. She has probably figured you out already and lost interest. If she's like me, she's not into superficial relationships and wants any "hook-up" to be special and have meaning. If it's just a name in your black book, I'd forget about her.
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LoveNaborFuckHater
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: lillFish]
#22072151 - 08/10/15 03:07 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yah how did it go OP?
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Jokeshopbeard
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If I were a female, I'd laugh at someone acting so transparently. Sounds like this is what she might have done.
Does it not occur to try and make a connection, rather than trying to fuck? You know sex often follows on quite naturally once an emotional connection is made right?
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philopian_tube
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: lillFish]
#22090442 - 08/14/15 09:22 AM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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lillFish said: This girl sounds like me and you know what? I bet she was into you but she sensed that you were impatient and wanted something that she wasn't ready to give you and it made her retreat. She has probably figured you out already and lost interest. If she's like me, she's not into superficial relationships and wants any "hook-up" to be special and have meaning. If it's just a name in your black book, I'd forget about her. 
I now realize what I did wrong haha
She flaked on the 4th date, but I responded in a manner of indifference and didnt burn any bridges, currently cutting off all contact. Her interest level in me was extremely high in the beginning but I managed to talk her out of it. It's good to show interest at first because it showed confidence, but after the second date, I should have given her some space and maybe allow her to initiate from there forward. It made me come across as needy and insecure, coming from a place of fear that I may lose her and I have nothing else going on in my life by being too available, which was true to an extent.
I layed all my cards on the table, too early and too strong. There was no mystery left in me. I made this thread thinking that I was doing nothing wrong and she was playing games. When in reality, she was just testing my strength, because what woman wants another pussy?
Looks only get your foot in the door. Men are visually stimulated and can fall in love quickly, women on the other hand need to create an emotional connect and fall in love slowly, I moved too fast and scared her away.
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lillFish
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22091497 - 08/14/15 02:31 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Spot on! Wise man you are
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Sham87
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22091518 - 08/14/15 02:36 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Ignore her until she starts chasing you.
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philopian_tube
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Sham87]
#22092588 - 08/14/15 08:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sham87 said: Ignore her until she starts chasing you.
That's the plan!
Thanks everyone!
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