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philopian_tube
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Is she playing hard to get? How to counter?
#22025754 - 07/31/15 07:05 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Been on 3 dates with a chick I'm interested in.
1st date - 11 hours / Lots of Touching(making out) 2nd date - 13 hours / Lots of Touching(sexual) but no fuck 3rd date - 6 hours (had to leave somewhere) / Didn't like being touched, but teasing me
I fear I may have developed a slight oneitis during the 3rd date by overextending my vulnerability. Is it too late to reverse this?
She also said some things along the lines of, "The girls that are the hardest to get are the ones you never forget" and "I'm pretty self reliant and don't NEED anyone"
I don't like this situation I got myself in, is there any way to counter it? I told her to expect a call from me Sunday night to make plans for Monday. Should I just not schedule plans and see if she caves in after a while, or maybe hit her up later in the week despite what I said? I don't want to come off as needy or clingy at all.
The first two dates she was REALLY into me. If anything I thought I had this in the bag no problem because during the second date I got her to spill some of her kinky desires while getting sexual. Trying to set up the 3rd date through text was difficult because she would delay her responses by hours (which was extremely annoying and I called her out on it)
I really want to maintain my status, and I feel like she is trying to pussywhip me because she knows I want to be in her pants and she's using that as leverage on me. She also says that I am one of the cockiest guys she's ever met, not sure if that's good or bad lol.
Any help would be really appreciated guys!
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Edited by philopian_tube (07/31/15 07:22 PM)
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22025824 - 07/31/15 07:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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She already knows. I'd call her like you said you would. Play it cool from here on out. Act like you don't care. Wouldn't expect much though.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22025831 - 07/31/15 07:25 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: She already knows. I'd call her like you said you would. Play it cool from here on out. Act like you don't care. Wouldn't expect much though.
Know what exactly? That I want to fuck her? Or that I'm getting feelings for her? What wouldn't you expect much of?
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Edited by philopian_tube (07/31/15 07:29 PM)
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22025865 - 07/31/15 07:33 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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She knows she can whip you if she wants. You obviously like her more than she likes you. I wouldn't expect this to go much further without frustration and/or blue balls. You could get laid I guess....
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22025867 - 07/31/15 07:34 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Fucking dive in with no expectations. Go with the flow. Don't set yourself up for failure.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22025891 - 07/31/15 07:37 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: She knows she can whip you if she wants. You obviously like her more than she likes you. I wouldn't expect this to go much further without frustration and/or blue balls. You could get laid I guess....
What if you're her?! Posting under anon?!
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22025896 - 07/31/15 07:38 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Maybe you should bring mints next time
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22026001 - 07/31/15 08:09 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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If I were to schedule a 4th date, I was thinking of bringing her over to my place to fuck.
Yay or nay?
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#22026011 - 07/31/15 08:11 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds to me like she's playing games. Stop calling her. If she calls you, tell her "The ones who stand you up are the ones you always remember" and hang up on her.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22026016 - 07/31/15 08:12 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would still set up the date like you said you would she would probably like that. You might want to tone down the sexuality of the next date though or that's what I would do atleast.
When it comes to guys, we're always the ones that are trying to get sexual. It gets annoying for girls if you just keep pushing it and pushing it. Make her feel like she's the one that wants it and is trying to get into your pants. I would still invite her over to your place tho. If she makes a move, jump at it but don't be sitting there the whole time trying to get her to take her clothes off.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22026029 - 07/31/15 08:15 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Srirachi said: Sounds to me like she's playing games. Stop calling her. If she calls you, tell her "The ones who stand you up are the ones you always remember" and hang up on her.
That would be a taste of her own medicine, but I fear that would drive her away. I may take that approach, but in a more subtle way. Definitely last resort though.
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Anonymous said: I would still set up the date like you said you would she would probably like that. You might want to tone down the sexuality of the next date though or that's what I would do atleast.
When it comes to guys, we're always the ones that are trying to get sexual. It gets annoying for girls if you just keep pushing it and pushing it. Make her feel like she's the one that wants it and is trying to get into your pants. I would still invite her over to your place tho. If she makes a move, jump at it but don't be sitting there the whole time trying to get her to take her clothes off.
She's a bit of a nympho, she admitted to me that she likes to watch pornography and whatnot. I'm talking like hair pulled, choked, slapping and deepthroat.
Why would she even tell me this if she wasn't at least somewhat emotionally invested you know?
I'm also certain that I'm not some plan B for her either. She's playing with fire if I'm the only one she's currently seeing, debating on dropping her before I get too attached.
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Edited by philopian_tube (07/31/15 08:19 PM)
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22026071 - 07/31/15 08:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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I believe you're correct in thinking that would drive her away with the phone call idea. Setting it up would let her know you're committed and interested, giving her more the reason to sleep with you.
I wouldn't rule out finding a good porno to have ready to play, or bringing up how she watches porn and that you could watch some videos together and let her choose one.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22026214 - 07/31/15 09:18 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I believe you're correct in thinking that would drive her away with the phone call idea. Setting it up would let her know you're committed and interested, giving her more the reason to sleep with you.
I wouldn't rule out finding a good porno to have ready to play, or bringing up how she watches porn and that you could watch some videos together and let her choose one.
haha I actually suggested that when she told me
told her we could embrace her addiction together
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22026333 - 07/31/15 09:57 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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What do you mean, "oneitis"?
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22026369 - 07/31/15 10:08 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You made a thread here over it. I'd say your "oneitis" is irreversible and beyond redemption. Cut your losses and move on.
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BlindSophist said: You made a thread here over it. I'd say your "oneitis" is irreversible and beyond redemption. Cut your losses and move on.
I'd say only on a physical level, she's 18, her personality is so-so from what I've gathered. Youngest I've dated.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22026378 - 07/31/15 10:12 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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You mean you have "physical oneitis"? You think she is special because she is 18?
Cut. Your. Losses. It's all downhill from here.
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Something about the youthfulness turns me on 
Dropping her is one of the options I've considered.
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Re: Is she playing hard to get? How to counter? [Re: philopian_tube]
#22026415 - 07/31/15 10:23 PM (8 years, 5 months ago) |
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Honestly, I don't think she is playing "hard to get". I think she's young, attractive, has plenty of options other than you; has lost interest, and is pretty much unsalvageable as a prospect.
If you just drop her from your radar, there are two possible outcomes: one, she will never hit you up again, in which case I was right, she just lost interest. Two, she WAS playing "hard to get", and she will hit you up for a booty call at some point in the near future.
In the meantime, you only stand to lose by continuing to bark up this tree. Cut your losses and move on.
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