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Do you talk to people who never initiate contact?
#21999434 - 07/26/15 11:07 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I just stop talking to people once they stop talking to me. Should be a 2 way street
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: RanOutOfWeed] 1
#21999461 - 07/26/15 11:12 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Depends, sometimes I talk to them just to piss them off.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: RanOutOfWeed]
#21999492 - 07/26/15 11:17 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sometimes, but usually just drift apart
Cause if they aint talking to you much, they aint really interested in hanging with you, or spending time together, although I usually talk to ya a lot if were close
Cant make people want to talk to ya and hang out with ya if they don't want
although I would never MAKE someone spend time with me, that's rude and childish If they wanna talk, they will talk
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21999494 - 07/26/15 11:17 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I go out of my way to initiate contact with people who are undoubtedly avoiding me. Makes for an interesting encounter.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: RanOutOfWeed]
#21999504 - 07/26/15 11:19 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yes I do, but with less frequency. I ended quite a few "friendships" because of this very fact.
If you constantly have to instigate every interaction with a person then that person is not really worth being friends with.
A sad realization but effective for conserving your energy for people that genuinely enjoy your company.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Yukon Cornelius]
#21999584 - 07/26/15 11:36 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yukon Cornelius said: Yes I do, but with less frequency. I ended quite a few "friendships" because of this very fact.
If you constantly have to instigate every interaction with a person then that person is not really worth being friends with.
A sad realization but effective for conserving your energy for people that genuinely enjoy your company.
Yeah I'm a pretty private guy but when your at a bar or something someone gives you the cold shoulder and you have done nothing wrong to them I question them about inconsequential stuff just to piss them off. Of course figure out if they are mulling some serious problems first and if they are just being dicks "Fair game Baby" Kill em with kindness in a sadistic way.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21999602 - 07/26/15 11:40 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Usually I'm the guy who never initiates contact, but quite unfairly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn't bother with someone who didn't make an effort
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Yukon Cornelius]
#21999646 - 07/26/15 11:51 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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True. Back in the day I would always initiate contact with chicks I went out with, but weeks would go by and they'd never contact me. I just stopped bothering.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: RanOutOfWeed]
#21999753 - 07/26/15 12:17 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ill talk to them. At a certain point though I wont go out of my way to do so. I agree that relationships and friendships are a two way street, and if someone wants you in their life they should put in their share of the effort in keeping it alive.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Ezuma]
#21999809 - 07/26/15 12:32 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ezuma said: Usually I'm the guy who never initiates contact, but quite unfairly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn't bother with someone who didn't make an effort
Yeah but sometimes it is fun to force them into a conversation just to see them squirm un comfortably to respond to a reasonable question. I shoulda been a cop. I wouldn't need a rubber hose or bright lights.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21999919 - 07/26/15 01:02 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ezuma said: Usually I'm the guy who never initiates contact, but quite unfairly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn't bother with someone who didn't make an effort
Yeah but sometimes it is fun to force them into a conversation just to see them squirm un comfortably to respond to a reasonable question. I shoulda been a cop. I wouldn't need a rubber hose or bright lights. 
I enjoy doing that to an extent with very religious or politically extreme people. They're always willing to start a conversation about their agenda with a stranger, but slowly realize that I'm just trying to fuck with them and want to back out as quickly as possible.
It's especially fun with members of PETA, start throwing around bullshit factoids that support their ideas and make them sound more insane as you go on.
Me- "Yeah eating animals is such a tragedy. Did you know the human body isn't meant to process meat because of saturated fats?"
PETA member- "Totally! It's like wake up people!!"
Me- "Also I don't know how anyone can eat meat with all of those red blood cells screaming at them, it really hurts your ears after a while"
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Yukon Cornelius]
#22000045 - 07/26/15 01:45 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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r00tuuu123 said:
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Ezuma said: Usually I'm the guy who never initiates contact, but quite unfairly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn't bother with someone who didn't make an effort
Yeah but sometimes it is fun to force them into a conversation just to see them squirm un comfortably to respond to a reasonable question. I shoulda been a cop. I wouldn't need a rubber hose or bright lights. 
I enjoy doing that to an extent with very religious or politically extreme people. They're always willing to start a conversation about their agenda with a stranger, but slowly realize that I'm just trying to fuck with them and want to back out as quickly as possible.
It's especially fun with members of PETA, start throwing around bullshit factoids that support their ideas and make them sound more insane as you go on.
Me- "Yeah eating animals is such a tragedy. Did you know the human body isn't meant to process meat because of saturated fats?"
PETA member- "Totally! It's like wake up people!!"
Me- "Also I don't know how anyone can eat meat with all of those red blood cells screaming at them, it really hurts your ears after a while"
What the fuck tangent did you drift off to form talking to people who dont wanna talk to you to you shouldn't eat meat because humans cant digest it,
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: r00tuuu123]
#22000090 - 07/26/15 01:58 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Nope, friendship is a two way street.
I do have a good friend that I only talk to a few times a year though (due to 1000s of miles distance)
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Yukon Cornelius]
#22000096 - 07/26/15 01:59 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ezuma said: Usually I'm the guy who never initiates contact, but quite unfairly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn't bother with someone who didn't make an effort
Yeah but sometimes it is fun to force them into a conversation just to see them squirm un comfortably to respond to a reasonable question. I shoulda been a cop. I wouldn't need a rubber hose or bright lights. 
I enjoy doing that to an extent with very religious or politically extreme people. They're always willing to start a conversation about their agenda with a stranger, but slowly realize that I'm just trying to fuck with them and want to back out as quickly as possible.
It's especially fun with members of PETA, start throwing around bullshit factoids that support their ideas and make them sound more insane as you go on.
Me- "Yeah eating animals is such a tragedy. Did you know the human body isn't meant to process meat because of saturated fats?"
PETA member- "Totally! It's like wake up people!!"
Me- "Also I don't know how anyone can eat meat with all of those red blood cells screaming at them, it really hurts your ears after a while"
This is what i used to do in high school, with the topic of drugs.
We were debating mandatory drug testing that another local school was in favor of. Moat people who smoked weed new i did too, but for the most part people wouldn't know unless i told them.
Anyway i yell out " you know i actually agree with X, if we dint drug test the students, we won't know if one of THEM, are walking among us. Hell, i bet theres some of those people in this room right now, and we don't know it because our school is scared to test us all. You should be fine with drug testing if you have nothing to hide, and i hate drugs the most, so i say we drug test everyone, everywhere, at work, at school, in sports teams, on the side of the road. We need to stop drugs wherever possible and arrest those who use them, and lock them up with the violent criminals like they deserve."
I passed the class with an a.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: LuSiD enthusiast]
#22000126 - 07/26/15 02:06 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I would probably be a complete hermit if I didn't initiate most of my social interactions.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: GoldenEye]
#22000190 - 07/26/15 02:26 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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All depends. Lately as I'm getting older I've realized that i talk far less to the old homies and even the new. I talk a lot but most of the time it's just catching up. Glad to hear your doin good my friend.
Thats pretty much all it is now as everybody including myself has so much going on these days. And most of the people i grew up with live all over the continental 48
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: RanOutOfWeed]
#22000197 - 07/26/15 02:28 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Basically most people feel the same. If you like someone but don't make it known some how even if they like you the chances are they won't make contact since you didn't either. Then you'll probably grow to hate each other because you both think you hate each other.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Eggtimer]
#22000210 - 07/26/15 02:32 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Thats true. Especially when it comes to dating and girls. Its just being stubborn wanting to say something but waiting for them too. Even though they're doing the exact same thing. Then you continue on your lives but you'll always wonder i should have said something.
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: Enjoywho]
#22000224 - 07/26/15 02:35 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said: Thats true. Especially when it comes to dating and girls. Its just being stubborn wanting to say something but waiting for them too. Even though they're doing the exact same thing. Then you continue on your lives but you'll always wonder i should have said something.
yep. things that could of been
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Re: Do you talk to people who never initiate contact? [Re: r00tuuu123]
#22000408 - 07/26/15 03:27 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think that tangent was just the caffeine talking. 
Back to OP, yes it is still crucial in social interaction to initiate conversation. This applies to dating and many other faculties in life.
However once that phase has passed it's a mutual responsibility for both people to sustain contact, not just the instigator.
I don't know how many times I've had somebody say "we should hang out sometime!" and I give them a call or text with no reply only to have them later encounter me and say it again like nothing happened.
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