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LittleDaddy



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I really dig my best friend
#21985112 - 07/23/15 02:22 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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We met as neighbors in the dorms last year. We obviously became acquaintances and I thought she was gorgeous. She gave me a basket one day to return to the dorm since I was in a car and she was riding her bike. I put a now asking her to dinner covered in autumn leaves. She came to me the next day and said she had a boyfriend back home. Anyways, we went to a party a week or so later and I saw her make out with like 4 different guys. We made this really sad eye contact and I figured she was bad news and moved on. I told a mutual great friend I will only see her as a friend. We were friends, and she met some guy toward the end of that year.
Flash forward to the end of summer, her and I met up for the first time in months and had a really nurturing conversation for both of us. I revealed how I truly felt about her back then. We ended up having greater than 2 classes a term for the whole year and sat next to each other in everyone. Our friendship grew and she was still with the guy she met. However, whenever we partied, she was always all over me. We continued to have heart to hearts during our study sessions and occasional hangouts and really learned about each other.
Her and her man broke up and she was devastated. She came over to a BBQ and we talked about it and we were really physical and flirty. She briefly cried in my arms and we hungout pretty much exclusively for the rest of the night, though id depart to talk and dance with other friends. A couple days later we went on a hike with some friends and again I feel like her and my attention were mostly on one another. I established a little physical contact, she reciprocated and eye contact was frequent as it always has been. I'll catch her eyes and we just stop for a moment and gaze. At this point, my priority was to help her out and be there for her and not to attack her with attraction.
I hungout with her last night (2 weeks after they broke up) to check up on her. She hasn't hooked up with him, though they hangout, he broke up with her because things were too serious, and I basically told her he's being immature, reestablished her worth, and told her about the genuine special characteristics of her that I've come to realize. She briefly brought up arranged marriage and how she vibes with the idea of being good friends and learning to love one another, though she didn't give me time on the topic to put in some input. I gave her a brief note with some recommended songs to feel better and signed it with Shine On, the name of the song I wrote about her that I'm putting on my new album. I told her I'm leaving on a bike trip without a phone and no destination next week for introspection on how to become more selfless. SHe thought it was super confident and courageous of me.
Basically, she's a girl I can see myself marrying. And I'm going to try to make some physical advances and test the waters at this party we may run into each other at this weekend. I'm not going to dive into the waters, but she's reciprocated this far and I think it's time to find the boundary. I definitely wouldn't have sex because it's something id like to wait for with her.
She leaves in half a month for the rest of summer and I'm going on this bike journey. I don't want to be too soon/quick about this.
Have you had a similar situation with a close friend? Any successful? Thoughts?
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Edited by LittleDaddy (07/23/15 02:25 PM)
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy] 1
#21986178 - 07/23/15 05:02 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Totally unhealthy as fuck realtionship. Shes using you for emotional support and validation, and you get to be around her, thats her great contribution your existance, shes pretty and talks to you.
You dont even love her, otherwise when she disrespected you by shooting you down then slutting around at that party, like what the fuck, if you had any self respect...
You dont think she had more then a few conversations with her boyfriend about you, what do you think she said? Hes just a friend, hes like a brother. either that or they didnt even talk about you because you meant nothing when she was getting fucked.
Then she swallowed his load. And shes a vapid woman. And thats very clear after everything youve wrote. She probably thought at that hike you have no balls for not taking advantage of her because shes thats all she worth to herself.
Dont pursue this woman. Youve built her up in your head. DOnt YOU Fucking marry her idiot.
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LackToast]
#21986297 - 07/23/15 05:28 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I agree I've built an image that needs realistic deconstruction.
But you're going too far with your claims and idea of a relationship, especially with the relatively little context I've given.
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy] 1
#21986421 - 07/23/15 05:54 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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No im not, i can clearly see you worth something and you're not an idiot. Your in college so your probably around my age.
well guess what, men dont fully grow with their comprehension and ability to judge character until their thirties. However as a woman she has fully reached her maturity in terms of her understanding of the power dynamic between the two of you. And shes batting her eyes, and making just the right stupid cute face she does at the perfect times just to control you and keep you around. Because you a better person that her, she knows it too, thats why she takes and takes from you, but she doesnt want to give you anything you want back. Why were you so unworthy of her love, but her not of your time, and well being? and why did she shoot you down for her boyfirend but not the other 9 guys?
Does this sound a little too detached? maybe but youre in way too deep on the other end and this story has been written a billion times before, and in this story, youre the donkey.
So meet up with her tommorow night, if its important to you, she should be able to make time for you, no exceptions... then when you meet up escalate and push as far as you can... See how long it takes her to say some bullshit excuse like im not ready for this yet, and demand she reciprocate the love you expect as a man who has given her all your time and affection with nothing in return. you dont have to even say that, just fucking go for it. Either you finally fuck her and find out shes a terrbile lay, and then they dynamic between you two change like every other relationship ever in all of human history, or she wont sleep with you and youll know how she truly sees you.
And then you can move on a be a great lover to a woman who actually deserves you.
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21986680 - 07/23/15 06:52 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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She's a cheater. She aint going to change. Leopard spots. If you're alright with that then go for it
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21991006 - 07/24/15 04:02 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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She's spun a nice web for you to fall into.
Perhaps OP, you should do this. Men tend to be stubborn. We don't learn until we've suffered. Go and try and play with her.
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: MoxyOx]
#21991210 - 07/24/15 04:44 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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move on, friend zone is bullshit
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21992732 - 07/24/15 09:40 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Little daddy, i am daddyzomed you can dig me
i need a littledaddy
edit: lol sometimes i post to quick 
Also i fell inlove with my life long bestfriend whowas straight
ruined it, had to leave that It was incredibly sad, let me read the op again and further think
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Edited by SunnyD (07/24/15 09:41 PM)
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: zappaisgod]
#21992760 - 07/24/15 09:44 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
zappaisgod said: She's a cheater. She aint going to change. Leopard spots. If you're alright with that then go for it
I kinda agree she hasnt shown good things at all
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: SunnyD]
#21996807 - 07/25/15 07:09 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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After considering your opinions and evaluating, I've decided I'm not going to pursue and the time is most certainly not okay. I'm confident in my ability to move forward from girls, and have already begun to do so.
Peace and love homies, thanks.
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Re: I really dig my best friend [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21997744 - 07/25/15 11:22 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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fucking advice in this thread is spot on. Sorry OP but you're a really nice guy who just wants to treat a woman with respect. She ain't the one. GLad you can see that
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I am so happy for your, your mind and your heart.
This thread reminds me all too much of my ex, who is almost identical to this mofo of a female. I stuck around for way too long, had almost everything taken from me, fuck all given in return. I too was hurt quite a lot before realising my own worth, that I deserved better and that I won't stop for any less.
I have since been single 3.5 years and haven't been happier.
This is truly the best outcome you could have ever hoped for.
Good luck in love. Peace
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