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Anonymous #1
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Hi all.
#21903826 - 07/06/15 01:58 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Thanks ahead of time for any words.
Just like most posts, I am destroyed.
I am a late 20s male. I thought I did not love this female. I did though and now that were done I feel it. I have only been in love one other time. I do not share my love freely, meaning when I do, it is die hard full on love.
This woman was pretty abusive verbally. All the signs are there. She actually has nothing to offer me compared to what I have. Not even close.
I actually posted something about her after dating her for a month, 2 years ago right here in this forum. It was pretty negative and very concerning stuff. Much more detail then this post. I had quite a few opinions of people warning me. Warning me this woman would drag me down. I had family and friends warning me not including the individuals of this forum.
Here I am. A fucking stubborn idiot. I think the pain is worse then my first love. That was 7 years ago. I mean wtf? I am much more developed now with a promising future career. I should be over this shit. FUCK.
I do not even need a response. I just had to vent this shit. I have been coming around here since 2007. How dare someone think they can do certain actions to another individual. Drag them around and fucking waste time and life away.
I am ridiculously broken.
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koraks
Registered: 06/02/03
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Well at least you now know that sometimes an outside perspective can help in augmenting your own judgement. Secondly, I think it's a good sign you realize that this woman wasn't good for you and I urge you to be more critical towards the women you meet (but do give them a fair chance) and try to be clear towards yourself about what you want, need and have to offer to others. Try not to place the cause for this entirely with the other person as it always takes two to tango. Somewhere in this process you also made decisions and took actions that contributed to this situation; review those and try to learn from it!
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wakeINpeople
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Re: Hi all. [Re: koraks]
#21910199 - 07/07/15 03:24 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Instead of telling yourself you are broken and that this sucks, flip it around.....
Tell yourself it was a learning experience, you went through it, learned what you needed to learn, and now your free again!!!
Someone might give someone a bunch of apples, and that person might say "what the hell am I gonna do with all these apples?"...... Someone else might say "fuck yeah, I just got a bunch of free delicious apples"
....point being, happiness is a choice.
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empty space
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Quote:
wakeINpeople said: Instead of telling yourself you are broken and that this sucks, flip it around.....
Tell yourself it was a learning experience, you went through it, learned what you needed to learn, and now your free again!!!
Someone might give someone a bunch of apples, and that person might say "what the hell am I gonna do with all these apples?"...... Someone else might say "fuck yeah, I just got a bunch of free delicious apples"
....point being, happiness is a choice.
I couldn't have said it better myself. Also it's just 2 years dude! Thats not as long as it may have seemed. You have your whole life ahead of you. I just went through a 4 year and 3 year relationship back to back. Be glad that yours was only 2 and didn't drag on for longer. It sounds like you have the rest of your life in order. Go enjoy the beauties of life and you will feel better in no time.
A girl I met a few weeks ago wrote something that I feel applies very well to this: “Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.”
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Anonymous #1
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Thank you everyone for replying to this. I believe I will be just fine and come out of this much better in the long run. Thanks.
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