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blojo02184
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Is it too late... or is there hope?
#21882442 - 07/01/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Hey, im 27 years old this year and my gf is 3 years younger than me. Last night me and my gf of 3 going on 4 yrs sat down last night broke down.
She told me she has been feeling like our relationship is no longer there, that shes cruising on auto pilot and doesnt know what she wants.
This doesnt come as a complete surprise to me, but surprised at the fact she thinks its already this bad.
We started going out in oct 2011 which is like a month after she broke up with her last boyfriend for 4 years, since she was 14/15, and she realized that wasnt what she wanted and dcided to.change it.
So soon after we start going out i get kicked out of my.living situation and moved in with her and her parents for college break. Ojce college started again, we got our own appt away from her parents.
While living there we realized we had some relationahip issues and we broke down and talked about everything that was going on, and how everything was starting to get a little overwhelming. After that, i felt like we worked on the issues, and had gotten ober that hump.
After college finishes a yr and a half later we moved back in with her parents. Since then i havnt had the easiest time finding a job and shes been picking up alot of.the bills amd stuff.
This all juat so overwhel,ing right now cuz this just happenwd last night, where she broke down and talked to me a little.
I know she needs her space, and i dont want to smother her, but i also dont qant to lose her.
I feel like the stress we have from life lately is really getting to our relationship, and making things tense, on top of livijg at her parents.
She told me.last night that she loved me, and she was sorry, and that she felt.like our relatio.ship couldnt be saved because of the interests we have on life are not always in tune. She also said she hasnttalked to anyome about it and that is worrisome.
How can i help show her what we have and what we can accomplish? Do i start sleeping kn the couch now.and planning my exit? Do i stikl plan on living here for coollege this fall and work this summer? I have no family near me and i would end up leavingthe state.
My mom offered to ler me come down for a week or so, but ik not aire if.that is qhats needed... If you dont know what you want, how do you k.ow what you do not want? How do you overcome the trials of relatio.ahips comingout atronger i. The end...
I need help
Edited by blojo02184 (07/01/15 11:56 AM)
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basqueshaman
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: blojo02184]
#21882697 - 07/01/15 12:13 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Fuck her in the ass and kick her out. Once a female decides it's over typically it's just that over. You have nothing to really keep you two tied together after you go you're own way. Take your mom up on her offer and get out, flat out don't even think about it at all. Just a bit of advice don't date anyone else on the rebound
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: basqueshaman]
#21883954 - 07/01/15 05:35 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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You should try to fix things. Try to ignite the original spark.
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zappaisgod
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: dixienormous]
#21884139 - 07/01/15 06:16 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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You're 27 living in your girlfriend's parent house and don't have a job. I'd dump your ass in a heartbeat no matter how charming you are if I was a chick.
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: zappaisgod] 1
#21886430 - 07/02/15 05:26 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
zappaisgod said: You're 27 living in your girlfriend's parent house and don't have a job. I'd dump your ass in a heartbeat no matter how charming you are if I was a chick.
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blojo02184
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: zappaisgod]
#21886432 - 07/02/15 05:28 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I completely see what you see zappa. But at the same time, you wouldnt be willing tk work through this?
I provide mechanic work, labor, gardenn veggies, and buds for everyone, j just dont work.
And its nit like im not trying. Im working weekends making small change, but nothing that makes a living wage.
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empty space
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: blojo02184]
#21886438 - 07/02/15 05:31 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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you should figure out your own problems on your own. stop feeding off of your girlfriend and let her have a happy life.
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: empty space]
#21886531 - 07/02/15 06:29 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Punch her in the face and kidnap her parents. Bitches love that shit
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blojo02184
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Well i can see we are all a bunch of cynics here... Wrong place to look for hope i guess
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: blojo02184]
#21886817 - 07/02/15 08:36 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sorry man I was just joking. But a lot of the times once the women thinks she's lost the flame for you it's almost always over. She might try and keep it alive for a little while but ultimately there's always going to be that part in her mind doubting the relationship. If she truly loves you then she'll be with you but there's not going to be some magical thing that you could do or say to change her mind In the end
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: blojo02184]
#21887109 - 07/02/15 09:39 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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blojo02184 said: Well i can see we are all a bunch of cynics here... Wrong place to look for hope i guess
It's the shroomery, abandon all hope ye that enter here
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Re: Is it too late... or is there hope? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21889591 - 07/02/15 07:13 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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I am 27 and my relationship just ended 2 days ago.
It was toxic man. However, it was much different then you. I just graduated and landed a very good job.
What am I adding to this conversation? Like my ex, your girl has given up. Meaning she has given up on what you two were as a couple.
You need to move out and work on yourself. Forget about her. Your not ancient, you will find someone else. Just hopefully not live with her parents.
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