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FriedEgg



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STD etiquette?
#21860044 - 06/26/15 01:21 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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In what circumstances would you NOT tell a partner about an STD?
A girl that I know just found out she has HPV. She's really sad... she's saying nobody will want to date her or have sex with her now, bla bla bla.
Then, she asked me: "do you think I really need to tell guys about it?"
I really didn't know what to tell her. I'm undecided on this one... HPV isn't a major deal for guys. It's temporary and most don't show any symptoms at all. It just goes away on it's own. About 50% of guys will get it at some point in their life anyways. It's also impossible for guys to test for it. So what's the point of her telling future guys? My answer to her was "I don't think it's a huge deal but it's ultimately your decision".
What would you do if you were her? And in what circumstances would you NOT tell a partner about an STD?
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21860051 - 06/26/15 01:23 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Not tell a partner?
fuck you (not)
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: Beanhead] 1
#21860055 - 06/26/15 01:24 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Everybody gets HPV.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21860061 - 06/26/15 01:25 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I heard a ob tell my wife like everyone has hpv and doesn't even know it. It isn't a big deal at all. Did her doctor not go over that with her?
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: koods]
#21860067 - 06/26/15 01:27 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: Everybody gets HPV.
There are different kinds, maybe she got the genital warts kind.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: Matt87]
#21860068 - 06/26/15 01:28 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: Everybody gets HPV.
so if you knew you had HPV, you would continue to bang chicks and not say anything?
(im not baiting you btw)
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Matt87 said: I heard a ob tell my wife like everyone has hpv and doesn't even know it. It isn't a big deal at all. Did her doctor not go over that with her?
nope, the doctor spent like 2 minutes with her. he set up a test to see if it's the cancer causing strain, then pretty much kicked her out the door.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21860091 - 06/26/15 01:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD.
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He wouldn't be banging chicks regardless(not an insult).
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luvdemshrooms said: You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD.
QFT. Doesn't matter whether or not its a "big deal" for guys. You have an STD, and fuck someone without telling them FIRST, you should be killed.
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luvdemshrooms said: You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD.
I agree but do you think it's really that black and white?
What if you got herpes 30 years ago and have never shown any symptoms for the past 3 decades? Would you say "Hey girl I caught herpes 30 years ago but I've never shown symptoms. Is that cool?"? or just ignore the subject because it hasn't been an issue for 30 years so why would it be an issue now?
(Hypothetical situation. I didn't catch herpes 30 years ago. Just wondering.)
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She absolutely should be cool and tell her partners what up. From what I was reading HPV goes dormant after a couple years anyway, and then it's not contagious until it's activated again. Is 2 years of abstinence really so bad?
It looks like there is a test for guys but it's hard to find a place that offeres it, and it sounds like it's not worth the pain and suffering:
"Question: Is it true that men can't be tested for HPV? That there's no HPV test for men?
Answer: Yes and no. Although HPV testing for men is used in some research studies, HPV testing is not commonly done by doctors or in clinics. The test is unpleasant for many men - it involves using something akin to a metal nail file to scrape skin cells from a man's penis - and is not quite as sensitive or specific of a test as the HPV test is for women, as I understand it. As a result, HPV testing for men is not widely offered. Men cannot really know, then, if they carry and HPV strain or not. However, if you think you have genital warts - they can be as small as little pimples or larger and resembling cauliflower - please see your healthcare provider. They can do a biopsy or, if you'd prefer, try one of the standard treatments (such as a topical cream) to see if that works. Also, warts often go away on their own even without treatment. And now, men can get the Gardasil vaccine to help prevent cases of warts. "
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21860135 - 06/26/15 01:46 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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FriedEgg said: I agree but do you think it's really that black and white?
Yes. Just because you've shown no symptoms doesn't mean you don't have it.
You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD no matter how long it's been since you've shown symptoms.
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luvdemshrooms said:
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FriedEgg said: I agree but do you think it's really that black and white?
Yes. Just because you've shown no symptoms doesn't mean you don't have it.
You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD no matter how long it's been since you've shown symptoms.
Fair enough. I respect your solid stance.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21860188 - 06/26/15 01:52 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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FriedEgg said:
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koods said: Everybody gets HPV.
so if you knew you had HPV, you would continue to bang chicks and not say anything?
Most people will have no idea when they get HPV. You should just assume you have it if you've had sex,
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: koods]
#21860215 - 06/26/15 01:55 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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My girlfriend told me she had HPV and started breaking down crying and all this other nonsense. I was just like lol okay.
And that was the end of it.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: koods]
#21860251 - 06/26/15 01:59 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said:
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FriedEgg said:
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koods said: Everybody gets HPV.
so if you knew you had HPV, you would continue to bang chicks and not say anything?
Most people will have no idea when they get HPV. You should just assume you have it if you've had sex,
That's what the obgyn said.
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It's a conspiracy by big HPV to sell vaccines.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: koods]
#21860268 - 06/26/15 02:04 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: It's a conspiracy by big HPV to sell vaccines.
trolling or serious?
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: koods]
#21860274 - 06/26/15 02:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: It's a conspiracy by big HPV to sell vaccines.
That's funny as hell dude. Good one.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: Matt87]
#21860430 - 06/26/15 02:43 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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always ask the other person if they want what you have before having intercourse with them.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: millzy]
#21860463 - 06/26/15 02:50 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yo did u guys see those new condoms
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what do they look like chief
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: Sheekle]
#21860564 - 06/26/15 03:19 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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i think it's just an idea, but
Condoms That Change Color In Contact with STD
http://time.com/3935464/std-sensitive-condoms/
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: zenoob]
#21860685 - 06/26/15 03:53 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeh those like the pool stuff but for sexy time
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Those condoms would probably cost hundreds of dollars a piece. You'd be way better off taking your one-night-stand to the clinic for a test. Interesting idea though.
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Well that's like the first colour TV while we've been on black n white for decades imagine in a few years when they come out with the HD condom models
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It would be the only time you would ever be horrified by seeing a rainbow.
(assuming that different stds are different colors )
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: trekie]
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: trekie]
#21862045 - 06/26/15 11:03 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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trekie said: It would be the only time you would ever be horrified by seeing a rainbow.
(assuming that different stds are different colors )
that and waking up half naked in a gay bar
not that it's ever happened to me
I just assume that would be a horrifying time to see a rainbow
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luvdemshrooms said:
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FriedEgg said: I agree but do you think it's really that black and white?
Yes. Just because you've shown no symptoms doesn't mean you don't have it.
You'd have to be an incredible sleazebag to not tell someone you have an STD no matter how long it's been since you've shown symptoms.
By the same account you are a moron if you are having condomless sex with anyone you have not seen recent clinic paperwork from. I take no one's word. Clinic or condom, period. Go together its a fun bonding time.
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21862305 - 06/27/15 12:46 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I asked my doctor about it before. He said it's so common it's basically apart of being human. Most of us who have a sex life have no idea we have it, unless you get genital warts......or oral cancer 
Another time When I went to get an STD screening I asked her about a few mild bumps on my Johnson. She said it wasn't genital warts and to stop being a hypocondriac. Even told me that if I DID ever end up getting HPV she told me the vast bulk of our immune systems "take care of it" in 2 years or so. She did say though they see allot of genital warts in their clinic which was freaky to think about. I would hate to get that shit in your mouth or to have an infestation on your cock
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: FriedEgg]
#21862372 - 06/27/15 01:15 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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in my opinion, she should tell potential partners about it. they should get the choice to decide what they want to do based to full disclosure.
i made it a point to disclose to women that i had HPV, and it never stopped things from progressing. there was one girl that i told after we had sex a couple times, i cant remember why i didnt tell her immediately, it might have been due to uncertainty or something, but i told her anyways and she was like haha yeah im pretty sure i do too
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Re: STD etiquette? [Re: ManianFH]
#21862390 - 06/27/15 01:28 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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At the clinic they can only test for hiv, chlamydia and gonorrhea. I think maybe syphilis too. For things like hpv and herpes you have to show symptoms. There is something like 60 strains of hpv out there and only a few you have to worry about showing physical symptoms or cause ovarian cancer.
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