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Dave_the_stoner
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Love is a liability
#21848156 - 06/23/15 10:24 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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The reality I settled into is in retrospect a fate too many here may find themselves in. You meet someone that's amazing fun to party, eat psychedelics, and have kinky great sex with. This person accepts you for who you are, encourages your wild side, you fall in deeper than deeply in love. Slowly life happens, things shift, you do what you need to and prioritize what you hold important, usually the one you love above any and everything else. Your purpose becomes to be there in any and every way you can for this person, yourself be damned! It gives your life meaning you never imagined. It becomes who you are and what you do, why you exist. One day they can decide to be done with you. If you truly love the person you can take the painful step toward honoring their wish. You can beg like a selfish coward. Or you can drink for a month as I did working up the ability to do the right thing and respect her decision. In the end there really has been no right choice, still talked to hurt fully. Still trying to get me to sign some very spitefully worded by the paralegal in law divorce papers. Still sending hateful texts with cute pic texts in between. I threatened to tell the wife of one of the dudes she's been Fucking for months if she didn't let me get my musicology equipment. Tons of stuff missing, got my pressure cookers, half my jars, a few miscellaneous items. So much missing though. No spores, no scalpel, inoculation loop, alcohol lamp, fruiting chambers, incubator. But I can rebuild! The part that hurt was the flow hood was too big to get out, I had built it, then the room it was in around it. Ripped out the blower as its the costliest component, I'll have to redesign the next one smarter, lol...
I've learned that we each will only ever have ourselves, I used to know that, but got blinded by the comfort of love. We can't help but to love who we love, but we can become crippled by a dependence on it. I love you all and this is the best lesson life's taught me...
-------------------- "He who makes a beast of himself, get's rid of the pain of being a man."-Dr. Johnson
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Srirachi
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Dave_the_stoner
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Srirachi]
#21852358 - 06/24/15 08:24 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quite a venture.. Quite a loss... some intellectual gain....
-------------------- "He who makes a beast of himself, get's rid of the pain of being a man."-Dr. Johnson
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LackToast
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You can't get back time. If you treasured it as much as you say, then that's all you can ask for.
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: LackToast] 1
#21852724 - 06/24/15 09:32 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I should start a venture. Heartbreak insurance company. You pay into it while the relationship lasts, and receive a lump sump at the end of the relationship to help you with your divorce, to cover the costs of moving to a new place, to cover your costs of all the money you invested at the relationship, to cover the costs of all the therapy and drugs and alcohol you will need to get over this person… brilliant, haha!
Edited by Crystal G (06/24/15 10:05 PM)
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basqueshaman
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Crystal G]
#21852784 - 06/24/15 09:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: I should start a venture. Heartbreak insurance company. You pay into it while the relationship lasts, and receive a lump sump at the end of the relationship to help you with your divorce, to cover the costs of moving to a new place, to cover your costs of all the money you invested at the relationship… brilliant, haha!
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Aldous
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Crystal G]
#21853726 - 06/25/15 03:57 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: I should start a venture. Heartbreak insurance company. You pay into it while the relationship lasts, and receive a lump sump at the end of the relationship to help you with your divorce, to cover the costs of moving to a new place, to cover your costs of all the money you invested at the relationship, to cover the costs of all the therapy and drugs and alcohol you will need to get over this person… brilliant, haha!
Except love and a relationship are among the easiest things to fake. Your company would fail in a blink when they come around to collect their money after two or three downpayments.
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sprinkles
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Aldous]
#21853735 - 06/25/15 04:03 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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be quiet ruiner. its a good idea.
you open your insurance company crystal. there are ways of capping peoples knees, no worries.
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Murzelpfrumpft
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Aldous]
#21854075 - 06/25/15 08:11 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Aldous said: Except love and a relationship are among the easiest things to fake. Your company would fail in a blink when they come around to collect their money after two or three downpayments.
Yeah no problem, they need to show up each month and call each other lovely names, feed each other and have sex on camera.
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gref
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Dave_the_stoner said: you need to and prioritize what you hold important, usually the one you love above any and everything else. Your purpose becomes to be there in any and every way you can for this person, yourself be damned! It gives your life meaning you never imagined. It becomes who you are and what you do, why you exist.
Given the fickle nature of relationships coupled with a current divorce rate of a whopping 53% investing your entire existence into a relationship is a bad move. I see people give up everything for relationships: any and all kinds of wealth, friendships, hobbies, their health.
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Dave_the_stoner said: One day they can decide to be done with you......
Exactly. So what do you have left after they dispose of you? Nothing because you gave up everything.
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Dave_the_stoner said: I've learned that we each will only ever have ourselves
Exactly. That's why you should always make yourself your #1 investment because when the going gets tough that's all you have. It's okay to make investments in other people and into relationships but you need to always be #1. Despite being in a relationship you should maintain your friends and even make more, continue to do your hobbies, continue to grow yourself, and protect your finances (no shared bank accounts, prenups, etc.)
Love is a liability only if you make it one, and given the state of things it's a bad liability to have.
Best of luck my friend!
GREF
Edited by gref (06/25/15 06:29 PM)
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: gref]
#21856829 - 06/25/15 07:49 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Its pretty suicidally depressing that the millenials will grow up with gref's attitude.
I truely believe that 10,000 years ago people realized freedom of choice in relationships was horrific so marriage was born.
We forgot why this pointless union began
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A cautious young fellow named Lodge / Had seat belts installed in his Dodge. / When his date was strapped in / He committed a sin / Without even leaving the garage. That's clever, isn't it?-A boy and his dog
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Dave_the_stoner
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Heart break insurance, I like that, could have helped with my bar tab as of late... Too late, to jaded to be that dumb again, lol...
Love is a mother fucker. We don't choose it, treat it like a psychedelic experience and just go with it. Damn have people done some dumb shit on psychedelics similar to the dumb shit people do in love. Gotta keep a foot in realities doorway....
-------------------- "He who makes a beast of himself, get's rid of the pain of being a man."-Dr. Johnson
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Crystal G



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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Aldous]
#21861998 - 06/26/15 10:52 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Aldous said:Except love and a relationship are among the easiest things to fake. Your company would fail in a blink when they come around to collect their money after two or three downpayments.
Well, logistically speaking, I think the face amount of the policy should be equivalent to the amount of time and money invested by the beneficiary. Say you've only been in a relationship for 2 months and then break up, then you would simply receive your entire premium back. But if you've been in the relationship longer and longer, you eventually are able to double or triple the money you invested down the line.
Makes more sense to do it this way, since the longer the relationship, the bigger the risk and financial disaster will be when you break up. A 2-month relationship would only require an 8-ball of blow and a couple of drinks to get over.
A failed 2-year relationship would require money to hire movers, or rent a Uhaul, so you can move the hell out and find your own place. It would require money to go out, either with your friends or money for new dates, to help you get over this person. Some people start working out, or over-eating, or gambling or shopping or using drugs excessively, so these are costs related to long-term failed romances as well.
A failed 20-year relationship would require all of the above, plus probably many hours of therapy on top of that, child support and alimony.
Similar to how life insurance policies sometimes has a 2-year "no suicide" rule and waiting period, in order to receive your benefits… because otherwise every single suicidal person could simply provide one down payment, go through with the suicide, and make their family millionaires in the process of doing something they would have done ordinarily anyway.
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Dave_the_stoner
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Re: Love is a liability [Re: Crystal G]
#21862191 - 06/26/15 11:56 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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The company could save a fortune opening shop (initially anyway) in an area with high infidelity rates, and keep a couple hookers on retainer. Rebound sex is always essential to the process of healing.....
-------------------- "He who makes a beast of himself, get's rid of the pain of being a man."-Dr. Johnson
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