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Psychonautica
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So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but...
#21844543 - 06/23/15 02:43 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So the girl I am in what I believe to be love, I've never used the word romantically, but anyways we talk from time to time when she dropped something on me. "I would drop everything and move anywhere with you"
I want to go to oregon or washington, but I have just enough money to get out there, and my friends and family are just as broke.
I could fly her out here, but then she as no car and I have epilepsy so we're basically fucked. It costs me fortune to get to work and even more on time...
Im not really interested in posting details, but I think I love this girl. I would drop anything to move in with her as well...
We we're highschool sweethearts and dated for like 2 years before she moved away, seeing her with her ex made me happy, and depressed at the same time. Almost sick to my stomach, but I guess he's been mistreating her...
I love this girl. We both have no money and are both in financial situations.. I dont want to wait for things to work out and lose her..
What do I do guys? Seriously. I'm so torn up and depressed about I havent been eating, I've barely been sleeping... But.. I (think) i love this girl.. and life has given me another chance with her.. What do I do? idk what love is, but just thinking about her makes me smile. I still remember the way she tasted.. and felt.. We both know we've been with other people but we both don't care.. The thing is she's worried as I am, that things won't work out.. Not that things wont work out between us, but that things won't work out and we'll end up on the streets.
I'm sick to my stomach about this guys. I've been considering buying an E - cig through all this. (I'm gonna mention it to kr0nik0 and try to get his handme downs as a birthday gift)
If you don't know what you'd do in this situation, please just send me a hug or a heart..
I spent all my bonus on getting my medical examination for my license.. Now they prescribed me a 500 dollar script because he didn't check the box accepting off brand pils, which my prescription coverage would cover. So I basically have no fucking job. I might lose my job because they we're mad about my week off and shit, and they want to outsource me which is matters fora different thread, "they said If I'm so good I get a 5 grand bonus and a free vacation they can't afford my salary" I'm not even salaried I just think they got jealous.. I get paid some of the lowest members of the office being so new and young, but I think I'm getting outsourced
To everyone else, what does love feel like? Like true, deep, pure, love and longing...
Because I think this is the definition of it but we're both young. Thanks for being here shroomery. I'm sorry my post count hasn't been sky rocketing since I know how much you enjoy my activity here (sarcasm)
I want to make a gofundme to help me pay my medical expenses so I can see her I just don't want it to seem like "give me money to fuck my girl"
Thoughts? Love? Appreciation... Please try to keep the trolling to a minimum, I know that's going to be an invite to troll this.. but I'm so torn between her and my current life that I'm heart broken. Completely and utterly heart broken. First time since I've had these feelings and its the fourth night so far, but the first night I haven't been drinking the feelings away.
No amount of alcohol worked, not even mixed with benzos..
Sorry for the wall of texts, I'll Tl;DR gif myself of yall liked them I'm gonna double post this in the relationship advice if that's okay , I wanted the pub opinion and the relationship forums opinion.
The general consenus in the pub is follow your heart.. but Idk that's what the best option is. I've always felt strongly towards her since highschool.
-------------------- The chances of you even being born, Were forty million to one. There's two parts of the statistic And I want you to live through one 3/8/95 - 7/10/15 Rest In Paradise, Brother. Sheekle said: yeah, i said i was afraid of psychonautica

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Amanita86
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Psychonautica]
#21844619 - 06/23/15 03:37 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sup dude. Refined down, the majority of us are in debt... I wish I was just "broke"... how do you look at life? Are you happy with rice and chicken or will you not be satisfied without going out all night?
That will help determine your longevity..
And, you can walk away now, and nothing comes from it, or you can walk away later, if nothing comes from it.... but what if something comes from it? Is it worth taking a crack at it?
There' a million fucking variables here... life is always going to be around to suck... do you think you two will offer up a reality where you both can say fuck life and be happy with each other for the long haul?
Be honest with yourself now..
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Amanita86]
#21844641 - 06/23/15 03:53 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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What Aminata said, and if you can say yes to these things, fucking go for it man, having a true love is worth more then all the money in the world, but man I know you are young, and hope this is just not lust clouding your vision.
No matter how young you are, you can know if you are truly in love with someone, me and my wife of sometime met at the age of when I was seventeen, and she was sixteen, we broke up for a few years, but reunited 2 years later, went on to getting married and have a kid, which reminds me of her everyday, I loved that girl more then life itself, and I doubt I will ever meet another like her, we have been apart for almost 10 years now thought
-------------------- All you touch, and all you see, is all your life will ever be- Pink Floyd Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans- John Lennon
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Psychonautica
Cuddly Wuddly Fuccboi

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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Imperfect Iam]
#21845171 - 06/23/15 08:43 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Then yes. It's love. But no. We both want a cabin in the woods in the PNW. We don't need or care about money I just need money to get out there.
-------------------- The chances of you even being born, Were forty million to one. There's two parts of the statistic And I want you to live through one 3/8/95 - 7/10/15 Rest In Paradise, Brother. Sheekle said: yeah, i said i was afraid of psychonautica

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Murzelpfrumpft
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Psychonautica]
#21845205 - 06/23/15 09:09 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'd like you to be very sceptical about moving in together. I have seen various relationships being wrecked by it. If possible, you should maintain your spatial distance, allowing you to contact each other whenever you wish to and not beign forced into constant contact.
I am witnessing a befriended couple which has recently moved in together and I can already see how it's going downhill. They rarely have sex anymore, they don't talk much anymore and it was all fine before.
Just recently my mother told me, she often thinks that it would have been wise not to move in together with my father, to maintain independence.
With jealousy being the number 1 reason for break-ups, I think this might be number 2.
I moved in for half a year with my girlfriend of 8 years, due to practical reasons and we almost separated.
Now that we are not living together anymore, it's all fine and a valuable lesson.
You will get fed up with each other, especially in the woods.
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Murzelpfrumpft]
#21845577 - 06/23/15 10:57 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I moved in with my gf after a few months dating. Married 5 years later and together 11 years total. Sure we've had differences but you work them out.
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Zhu
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: JohnnieYen]
#21846327 - 06/23/15 02:52 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Let me tell you a story I am writing with tears in my eyes. A boy and a girl were close since 3rd grade. They used to hang out together, because they were living near each other. They did everything together. Experienced a lot of things together. When the boy and the girl were in their teens, they felt in love with each other. They were seeing each other, hugging and everything. It hurts to remember, it's no ordinary type of first love. When the guy was in his 20's, the young lady had to fly overseas. They both kept in touch, but had other people in their lives. When she flew back for holidays, they would spend all their time together, the guy instantly forgot his new girlfriend because of her. He was planning to move _overseas_ too. 4 days ago, the girl asked him to call her "because she was feeling very bad". The guy somehow missed the message. When he called her, her roommate picked up the phone. She had hung herself.
Chase your love no matter what, i could go on for hours and write huge blocks of text about how people fuck up their lives when in situations like yours. MAKE THE MOVE. It will be the right one.
For me, love is strong, passionate, and all-out in an obnoxious way. I enjoy it, though. I hope you will too. Much love bro  
Do you know how to grow bulk? Just asking...
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Re: So the girl I love with wants to move intogether but... [Re: Zhu]
#21848241 - 06/23/15 10:47 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quote:
Zhu said:
Do you know how to grow bulk? Just asking...
Not trying to derail but....
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