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Girls like me .. until they get to know me?
#21843393 - 06/22/15 08:50 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I feel as though girls are interested in me perhaps due to my appearance (I would like to emphasize the perhaps haha) & my immense shyness which may come off as mysterious or some bullshit like that. Anyway, once I am actually interested in a female & try communicating with her it seems I weird them out or something. Infact, I think I may come off as being too nice? as of late I have decided I am done with small talk & choose to just tell a girl if I like her & would like to hang out or whatever. I also do not hold back my interests (writing poetry, my appreciation of film (the films I like for the most part vastly differ from the mainstream) music (once again for the most part quite different to most & far more varied) psychedelic plants & substances, philosophy, animals/insects & that's about all I am interested in speaking about. I have zero tolerance for ostentatious behavior, arguing who's point is more correct, that is all rubbish to me because I believe that no one could possibly be more correct then another, it is all perspective.
I refuse to change my ways ,but is that arrogance? if that is true then is could it be that is what is holding me back from achieving the romantic relationship that I long for? It has been along time since I have even kissed girl let alone made coitus. It is upsetting but I realize good things take time , but for Pete's sake how long must I wait? I guess it should be said I am not really looking for hookup's but mostly a relationship but I am beginning to think maybe I should give up my "fantasy" of finding a lady to meet my requirements of being a partner & maybe just try to settle of hooking up with a woman. Also I am still quite young.. just 20 years of age, I guess i'm just giving into my restlessness, I have plenty of time but I would very much so like a female companion at this time of being.
Any helpful suggestions or advice from you fellow Shroomery members?
Edited by Anonymous (06/22/15 08:55 PM)
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#21843487 - 06/22/15 09:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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ve even kissed girl let alone made coitus.
no girl is going to fuck you if you phrase things like that.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Sagescruffy] 1
#21845275 - 06/23/15 09:36 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Haha made coitus. Are we in sex ed right now?
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Atrium]
#21845346 - 06/23/15 09:57 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yea at 20 I highly recommend not looking for a partner. You are so young and there are lots of women in the world. When I was 20 I didn't know how to interact well with women.. That's not abnormal for a 20 year old. Now 4 years later, there's rarely a girl I meet that doesn't want to fuck me. I have a pretty good pool of girls to choose from!!
I recommend finding what you are talented at and focusing on that. When you are looking for a partner, most women are going to be able to read that energy and avoid. I found myself so much more satisfied with my life when I focused on mastering my craft instead of trying to fuck women. A guy who is satisfied, talented, and can take care of himself is a lot more intriguing and attractive to women than a man who is looking for a woman to cling onto. When you stop giving a fuck about chasing women, then women will start giving fucks to you. Funny how it works like that isn't it?
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: empty space] 1
#21845455 - 06/23/15 10:24 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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All I can say is it's more likely to happen if you don't focus on it.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: basqueshaman] 1
#21845469 - 06/23/15 10:29 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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No College girls are going to want to bang a 40 year old trapped in a 20 year olds body
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#21846405 - 06/23/15 03:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: No College girls are going to want to bang a 40 year old trapped in a 20 year olds body
You clearly haven't met many girls with daddy issues then .
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#21846592 - 06/23/15 04:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Eh don't feel bad girls like me until I express intrest in them. Eh fuck Em, oh wait they won't let me
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#21846845 - 06/23/15 05:25 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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A few but they were more suitable as mental patients than sexual partners
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 1
#21847235 - 06/23/15 07:08 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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You need to loosen up... Sounds like you are limiting your experiences in life to only people who can handle what you are into...
If you are serious about the topics you listed, you will find a gf who has similar interests.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21849348 - 06/24/15 08:23 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Go get some pussy... Real talk right there. I mean how would you even know what you wanted if you never have had it? The women I've always been interested in held little in regaurds to chastity. Why should you?
Go get some experience under your belt and THEN go and try for a relationship. This is the age of Tinder man. Good luck.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: TheGreenArrow]
#21958743 - 07/17/15 11:42 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Thanks for the replies everyone ! I will be hanging with a chick next month & she said she isn't really looking for anything but she is down to kick it . She is going to kick it with me when she gets back from bc & we will chill in quebec, she is friends with some of my friends & I have never even met her in person but I always thought she mad cute so I asked her straight up too chill (over facebook lol) & she is down.. said I seem like a pretty lax guy. When I asked her to chill that was my first time msging her as well lol, since then we have only chatted a few times but she usually seems happy to see when I finally do msg her. Anyways she is really good looking , she is REALLY into nature, she likes good music.. no garbage tune-age with her , So while chilling if things go well I am defiantly hoping for a hook up.
Any advice ? like I said in the first post its been quite some time since I even made out with a honey. i'm kind of nervous, trying not to form any expectations but at the same time I am feeling positive about a hook up.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21959161 - 07/18/15 02:59 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Don't worry too much about weirding people out man. We're all weird on the inside to varying degrees but many are afraid to show it because they afraid of scaring people off, not realizing that it's the ones that stick around that they should be interested in.
If you wear your true personality on your sleeve you'll eventually find a woman who appreciates your eccentricities and you'll be happier than all the fake, plastic people that worry about show their true colors. "Acting normal" is probably one of life's greatest stressors.
If you're feeling nervous: show that you're nervous. If you're feeling happy: show that you're happy. If you're feeling horny: show that you're horny.
Just roll with it
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Dawks]
#21975003 - 07/21/15 10:06 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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So I started to msg that girl more often & it seemed like it was all going well until last night randomly it seemed shes not? ha girls like me until they get to know me? fuck ! man I fucking quit trying to score with honeys, well not exactly that but being a nice guy literally never works. I swear when I play hard to get or be an ass everything goes smoothly? like wtf. She gave me her cell number the night before & I told her my phones not set up atm but I will get on it pretty soon. I doubt that could be why she suddenly seemed to not be interested. last night she claimed she lost her phone an hour later & she doesn't use her computer much so she wont be online for a while.. even though she was later on lol. Defiantly sounded to me like she was like fuck off but idk, there a chance she is still down to chill lol? I replied to her msg with ah alright. that sucks you lost your phone, I hope you end up finding it. take it easy .
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21975012 - 07/21/15 10:09 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Atleast you played it smooth bro. I've found women love assholes. Ive had so many girls take advantage of me because I'm nice it's not funny. I know there's a girl out there for me that will accept me for who I am
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#21975149 - 07/21/15 10:54 AM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah it sucks being a nice person sometimes, I was hardly msging the girl & basically ignoring her. It was going great & as soon as I put a little more interest in she got spooked or something idk. I also have been taken advantage of far too many times because I'm a nice guy. I guess I will just have to be an ass if I want any ass in the future. This chick still might be down to hang though, maybe she is playing hard to get now? I honestly have no clue girls are fucking nonsensical to me. I should probably just saay fuck it.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#21975402 - 07/21/15 12:15 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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You aren't getting taken advantage of bc you're a "nice guy" you're being taken advantage of bc you're being a pussy and not standing up for yourself. There's a huge difference
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#21975436 - 07/21/15 12:25 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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How am I being a pussy & not standing up for myself? I seriously would like to know so that I can avoid being one ever again, I want to get laid dammit ! haven't in like over a year now & it really sucks yo.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21975446 - 07/21/15 12:28 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Is there a chance you're getting too clingy making the ladies want to back off so it doesn't get too serious?
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21975453 - 07/21/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: How am I being a pussy & not standing up for myself? I seriously would like to know so that I can avoid being one ever again, I want to get laid dammit ! haven't in like over a year now & it really sucks yo.
Well tell me how you're being taken advantage of and ill tell you how to stop being a pussy in that situation
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#21975487 - 07/21/15 12:40 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Is there a chance you're getting too clingy making the ladies want to back off so it doesn't get too serious?
I would say in the past that was definitely a huge part of it , if not all of it. Not so much with the girl I am speaking of right now but as soon as I actually started a msg her somewhat often it kinda went fuck up last night for whatever reason.
Well tell me how you're being taken advantage of and ill tell you how to stop being a pussy in that situation
I thought you were referring to how she just out of the blue said she lost her phone & wont be online for awhile even though she has been & how I responded to it.. " ah alright. that sucks you lost your phone, I hope you end up finding it. take it easy ." for a legit example of me being taken advantage for being a nice guy I have many from the past but I don't really care about those anymore. More confused about where I went wrong with this current chick.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21975748 - 07/21/15 01:55 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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If your main source for talking to women is msging then there's your problem.
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Re: Girls like me .. until they get to know me? [Re: Shining Cosmos]
#21993110 - 07/24/15 10:48 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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Shining Cosmos said: If your main source for talking to women is msging then there's your problem.
Good response lol...
Messaging can work if you made a real impression when you met but you gotta setup that date quick and make it fun/exciting.
Maybe you blew it with this girl, maybe not, it doesn't matter. You are not into anything with her yet really and you should be pursuing other women all at the same time anyway. This way when you hit her up for something and she doesn't respond it doesn't matter, you are not clingy because you have other opportunities.
Also you probably need to be better at reading women in social situations. This way you can tell which type of girl she is based on many factors; clothing, attitude, race, style, music she is dancing too, drugs shes taking, w.e you can see in someone but at the same time have a level head and most importantly, have fun.
Honestly though, what are YOU looking for?
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