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Anonymous #1
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I Need To Lose My Virginity
#21834857 - 06/21/15 12:18 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Im 19 about to be twenty and I still have only kissed a girl. I may have had sex one time but I was blackout drunk and high and just woke up naked at the party house with no memories of what happend. But im just fed up with all my friends having sex but I still haven't. Every time a girl wants to do it im scared and I feel like if had done it it would be less frightening but I always pussy out. Idk what to do I dont know any prostitutes and im dead broke anyways.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#21835327 - 06/21/15 03:02 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey dude I was 20 when I lost it. I had multiple opportunities I could have lost it but I was either scared or couldnt get it up(scared/nervous). Just when I had all but lost hope on sex the girl of my dreams showed up and I was reborn. Now I am super confident in bed and fuck like a god. My advice...do yourself a favor and stop lamenting and stressing over it. Get social and meet people and you're bound to find someone great. In 5 years the sex you'll have had will outweigh the pain of being a virgin
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Black_Sunset said: Hey dude I was 20 when I lost it. I had multiple opportunities I could have lost it but I was either scared or couldnt get it up(scared/nervous). Just when I had all but lost hope on sex the girl of my dreams showed up and I was reborn. Now I am super confident in bed and fuck like a god. My advice...do yourself a favor and stop lamenting and stressing over it. Get social and meet people and you're bound to find someone great. In 5 years the sex you'll have had will outweigh the pain of being a virgin
Good post
I havent really lost my virginity until i had sex with a guy about a month back..
Im so gay
ive had sexual xps with girls about 6times and i was able to get hard
but it felt like i was missing something And that something turned out to be guys..
Before then i was alot less content, happy and sure about what i wanted
But now i know 
You will too
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I lost my virginity at 20 too, after only ever kissing a girl at 17
It doesn't get any better though. Having sex ~10 times in my life hasn't magically made me a different person.
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E... E I E I Oh I would love to indulge you, but Im way too old.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: sprinkles]
#21839874 - 06/21/15 11:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Idk I would probably be down lol. But I do have a girlfriend im not horrible with girls its just im a passive person and they usually wait for me to be like lets do it but im doing the same thing they are. Idk though I need to just take risks I wait for girls to tell me what they want and stuff when they want me to just do it (that's what she said anyways). Like I always ask to do everything like do you want a hug or a kiss but I just wait for her to bring up sex she told me today she was waiting on me. 'sigh' I feel like I need to ask permission for everything because I dont want to come off as some creepy rapist. I just got to balance being passive and knowing what to do.
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Do not worry, your time is coming and it will be with a special person, if not, still ok, there will be more people on your way. I also lost my virginity late...first with a man when I was 19 and couple of years later with a woman.
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You could always just look at porn and jerk off the rest of your life. At least you have internet, imagine being an old virgin before the internet.
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Bjorn_Stormcrow
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: abltsandwich] 2
#21840810 - 06/22/15 07:22 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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It's honestly not as big a deal as a lot of people seem to think it is. Just don't stress about it and it will happen in time. Nothing turns most women off faster than a desperate guy.
Best advice for getting layed... become the kind of person that you would want to fuck. I don't mean just physically, work on yourself, become interesting and charismatic enough to charm your own pants off and you will have women falling into bed with you.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: sprinkles]
#21845559 - 06/23/15 10:54 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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sprinkles said: E... E I E I Oh I would love to indulge you, but Im way too old.
Im not too young. You can totally indulge me if you want.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: empty space] 1
#21846474 - 06/23/15 03:32 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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You need Jesus, is what you need. Maybe when you're married.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: shaggyp]
#21847478 - 06/23/15 07:58 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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What was the question? Stop whining, get a FEW shots (DONT GET WASTED) before doing it and you'll be aight. Its not that hard to seal the deal.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: Zhu]
#21847546 - 06/23/15 08:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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lost mine at 14. 3 days after my bday. honestly wish I would have waited it was AWFUL!!!
cousin just lost his at 20.
I don't see the big deal AT ALL.
youre fine man don't worry about it too much, I promise if you rush losing it you will get your heart broken more than likely.
when the time is right it will happen.
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It's been my experience that the best way to get layed, is not to worry so much about getting layed. Women are generally more interested in a man who's interested in HER not her body. Carry yourself with confidence, learn how to carry on a good conversation (which involves learning how to listen not just how to talk) and before long you will have women simply falling into bed with you.
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Unless you want to lose it only, in that case, hire a hot girl for the whole night. Paid girls won't bother if you are virgin or not
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Anonymous #4
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You have a girlfriend and can't get laid? Well that's fucked up. Tbh, sounds like you have it easy. Some of us can't even form the smallest kind of bonds with people, let alone attract a mate. The only thing getting in your way is yourself. Man up and fuck her right in the pussy
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Yeah if you have a girlfriend just ask her because being able to ask such things is what a relationships about. Otherwise just talk to girls. There's all kinds of tips and tricks out there but it really comes down to talking to girls. Its hard not stressing about it but dont stress, you're way to young for stressing on such a thing. Getting laid is great and all but it can be a big distraction and if you are not careful you can quite easily loose sight on whats important. Anyways I lost mine at twenty eight.
Edited by Anonymous (06/24/15 01:01 AM)
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kykeion
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Anonymous said: Idk I would probably be down lol. But I do have a girlfriend im not horrible with girls its just im a passive person and they usually wait for me to be like lets do it but im doing the same thing they are. Idk though I need to just take risks I wait for girls to tell me what they want and stuff when they want me to just do it (that's what she said anyways). Like I always ask to do everything like do you want a hug or a kiss but I just wait for her to bring up sex she told me today she was waiting on me. 'sigh' I feel like I need to ask permission for everything because I dont want to come off as some creepy rapist. I just got to balance being passive and knowing what to do.
Just make a move, don't ask if you can kiss her, just kiss her. Asking "can I hug/kiss/touch/etc. you" is a turn off most times. Yes, consent is absolutely necessary, but as your girlfriend physical advances are expected, otherwise she would not be your girlfriend. If you are being too pushy she will let you know. Make out with her and let your hands start wandering. If she doesn't like or want something she will tell you. You will not come off as a creepy rapist because 1)she is your girlfriend, 2)she has pretty much said "yes lets do it, but you have to make the first move", 3)if she is not down she will either say no verbally, or her body language will tell you she is not into it (does not kiss or touch back, pulls away, etc) and you stop doing what she doesn't like.
I understand your fear of making a move, looking back I have missed plenty of opportunities to have some fun simply because I was too shy to make a move. But at this point since she is your girlfriend and you have talked about sex and she is open to it, the worst that will happen is she will say no.
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Re: I Need To Lose My Virginity [Re: kykeion]
#21850395 - 06/24/15 01:04 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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The thing is I know a lot of girls that have been raped and what not so they're always telling me stuff about that and I just want to make sure she is down. Idk its just hard to balance what she wants and what I want im just not trying to be creepy or pushy and im worried she would feel obligated to do something and not really want to so im just trying to make sure that she is ready. Like if I was dating someone for 3 months I would feel obligated to sleep with them just because it would be weird to say no but I would never put someone in that position. Idk im not a psychic its hard to know if she is ready without talking about it but talking about it always seems to turn her off. Fuck it im going for it she seems like she really likes me I have to stop being a pussy and take risks. I just hope she would tell me if she did not want to im not going to be pushy.
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kykeion
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Well, that's where reading her body language comes in. If she is just doing it because she feels obligated and not because she is into it you will be able to tell. She will have no enthusiasm, and reciprocation will be minimal to non existent.
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