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musiclover420
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My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again...
#21827302 - 06/19/15 09:14 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So my mom and her boyfriend of around 7 years broke up with her recently.
They had been having issues for awhile and he had been being a hardcore dick, more than usual, the past couple weeks.
So his birthday was a week after they split and he invited her over, she being very distraught over them breaking up wasn't sure if she was up for going over there.
So at night she called him and got no answer but decided to go up there becouse he was probably sleeping.
She gets there and her friend is giving him head while they role around naked with another friend of hers. So she leaves then comes back and confronts them.
They apparently just laughed at her and he told her he didn't want her around and called her out for "creeping around his house at night"
She came over to wish him a happy birthday and since the door was locked walked around to see if he was awake.
They also were all really high, so she leaves a complete wreck. Almost crashes her car into a tree driving away, goes over to another friends house and just loses it. Thankfully they were supportive and now hate him which she feels bad about! She posted the whole situation onto his facebook page, and two of her friends he was hooking up with, then quickly deleted it from 2 of the pages but had unfriended one of them and couldn't take it down.
This is not the first time he has fucked one of her friends, they were "broken up" both times but it was also within a week each time...
I have been trying to help her work through it since she is very emotional and depressed over the whole situation understandably.
The worst part is they have a lot of stuff invested together so she will have to see him whether she wants to or not.
I am considering posted an add on craigslist with his number asking for dick pics and other fucked up stuff, not for a couple weeks of course if I even do it.
Anyways just had to share that, there is a lot more to the story of him being a dick to her but that sums up the recent stuff/ their breakup.
What are your thoughts? My mom has been trying to defend him somewhat. She even said the reason he fucked her friends is becouse "they were super high"
I tried to say that is like a junkie saying "I broke into your house becouse I have to get $ to get super high, sorry"
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420] 1
#21827321 - 06/19/15 09:19 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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That's rough, but if she keeps coming back to this guy (and her shitty "friends") then what can you really say.
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: psi]
#21827327 - 06/19/15 09:22 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sounds like yr mom and you are better off steering clear.
Good riddance to bad rubbish.
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musiclover420
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: psi]
#21827341 - 06/19/15 09:27 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well its not that she "keeps coming back", I never said that.
The first time he hooked up with her friend they were split up and they worked over it becouse they both still wanted/ needed to be together.
Not her and the friend, though I don't know how close they were to begin with.
More like she put up with his dueschebaggery becouse she knows she can be irritable at times and is very self conscious so in her mind it was equal.
She is a very giving person and tends to let people walk all over her becouse she doesn't stand up for herself as much as she should, partly from being selfless.
Selfless giving people tend to be the ones who get walked on and taken advantage of 
Yeah soup that is what I have been telling her.
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420]
#21827368 - 06/19/15 09:37 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Man dude your mom really does deserve a good guy. I have been through the same situation with a girl before. Pretty much the same situation twice with two different woman. Some people just pray on people like your mom. That's why you need to step up and start kicking some ass. Unless your underage ...which I feel like you are ..no offense
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420]
#21827387 - 06/19/15 09:44 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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That craigslist bit reminds me of what we did to a friend in highschool. Put up an ad for 100 dollar coachella tickets a week before the event with his phone number.
Dude probably got 100 phone calls in a couple days.
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: ChinChiller]
#21827480 - 06/19/15 10:11 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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That sucks about that guy, you should break his legs.
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Errolscool said: That craigslist bit reminds me of what we did to a friend in highschool. Put up an ad for 100 dollar coachella tickets a week before the event with his phone number.
Dude probably got 100 phone calls in a couple days. 
I did that before to my friend too. Put up an ad on craigslist in the gay zection with my friends number and told them to say "suck me dry" when he answered the phone.
Classic
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420]
#21827513 - 06/19/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quote:
musiclover420 said: Well its not that she "keeps coming back", I never said that.
The first time he hooked up with her friend they were split up and they worked over it becouse they both still wanted/ needed to be together.
Not her and the friend, though I don't know how close they were to begin with.
More like she put up with his dueschebaggery becouse she knows she can be irritable at times and is very self conscious so in her mind it was equal.
She is a very giving person and tends to let people walk all over her becouse she doesn't stand up for herself as much as she should, partly from being selfless.
Selfless giving people tend to be the ones who get walked on and taken advantage of 
Yeah soup that is what I have been telling her.
she's not selfless, she's codependent. huge difference
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: Shroom Kitty]
#21827569 - 06/19/15 10:32 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah it really is a sad situation, especially how common it is...
I am not underage but am not a fan of violence really, I have called him out before on being an asshole and we have had some verbal fights.
Pris, really? Do you know my mom? Or her situation? She actually is pretty independent for having just been in a 7 year relationship.
Her boyfriend wanted to move in with her for a long time but she held out becouse she values her space and was unsure about it.
The only "co dependance" going on is the mutual investments they have with each other...
She helps out all of her friends with all sorts of stuff, literally is constantly helping people with stuff sometimes.
Because of that she is very overworked and stressed out much of the time, pretty sure that is basically the definition of selfless.
Next time I would recommend not making rude comments when you have no idea what you are talking about, oh wait... That is just what you do. Carry on, elsewhere.
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420]
#21827760 - 06/19/15 11:21 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I realize it's your mom but either they're together or they aren't. If they're not together anymore, then how long is he supposed to wait? She has the same freedom to do what she wants and I bet he's not going to be creeping around at night confronting her about it either. It's not like he invited her over there knowing what would happen just to fuck with her.
Bottom line OP you're seeing this through one lens because it's your mom, and if it's a mutual separation then feelings may be involved but the guy hasn't really done anything wrong.
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: SoupSandwich]
#21827807 - 06/19/15 11:35 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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SoupSandwich said: Sounds like yr mom and you are better off steering clear.
Good riddance to bad rubbish.
That and go smash him in the mouth for fucking with your mom. 2 wrongs don't make a right but sometimes they do make it alot better. And another thing why is your mom hanging out with hoebags?
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21827847 - 06/19/15 11:46 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: abltsandwich]
#21827882 - 06/19/15 11:54 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well obviously, I don't have any problem that he moved on but he was fucking her friends, same night that he invited her over. Less than a week after dumping my mom.
After weeks of being a dick to her and being just all around really lame and stressing my mom out over the littlest shit.
She may have showed up late but that isn't creeping, she was invited over and tried calling him on the way.
If my mom were to hook up with say his brother, and invite him over to witness it I think he might have at the very least somewhat of a problem.
I never said it was a mutual separation, he broke up with my mom. That is why she is so devastated, especially by him sleeping with her friends...
Like I said it has happened at least once before too under similiar circumstances.
My mom is very friendly so she ends up friends with lots of people, including lame selfish people who just want to use her generosity.
-------------------- Don't worry about me, I've got all that I need. And I'm singing my song to the sky You know how it feels, With the breeze of the sun in your eyes. Not minding that time's passing by I've got all and more, My smile, just as before. Is all that I carry with me I talk to myself, I need nobody else. I'm lost and I'm mine, yes I'm free
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Re: My moms ex boyfriend hooked up with her friends, again... [Re: musiclover420]
#21827909 - 06/19/15 12:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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In most breakups there's the one who wants it and the one who doesn't. The one who breaks up with the other usually moves on first. Way of the world man. People break up, one moves on first and makes the other's pain worse. Then the other moves on and so does life.
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