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Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what?
#21824283 - 06/18/15 04:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey, I'm brand new to forum but I thought you guys had a lot of good advice to offer. I have been using cannabis for about 1.5-2 years, and I just recently told my mom that I smoke pot. I am in high school and I live with my mother (my father is not in the picture). Over the last two years, I have raised my grades to all A's, started a band, scored a 31 on the act, got accepted into an accelerated high school 2 year college program, kept a steady job working 18-25 hours a week, and played guitar on the church praise band every couple weeks. Weed has obviously not effected my life negatively, and I used this previous information as an example to my mom that I have still remained a good kid. I don't sell or anything like that...I am just a daily marijuana user.
After telling my mom about smoking pot, she got extremely shocked and angry. I explained to her that smoking weed has not negatively effected my life, and that I am still the same person that I have always been. My mother has some emotional/mental issues due to a horrible separation from my father so I don't entirely blame her for getting so upset. She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana. I had to have a serious hour long painful conversation with my grandpa that I can tell has seriously affected our relationship. In addition to all of this, my mom is now not letting me drive and is delaying me being able to purchase a car.
I know that I am not a bad kid. I don't hang out with bad people or anything like that. I play guitar so I like to get high so that I can enjoy my music better. Some of the best songs/lyrics I have written have been when I was completely stoned! I also on occasion go to big rock concerts and take either mushrooms or acid in addition to weed so that I can enjoy the music in a deeper perspective. I am planning on finishing this advanced high school college program that will provide me with a 2 year associates degree. I plan to go on to study law and business at a large college. Marijuana has not negatively affected my life...if anything I think it has helped me.
By writing this post, I guess I am asking what I should do from this point in my life. My mom tells me that if I smoke weed then she won't let me drive or do anything fun. I am considering taking a break at least until August or September just because I have built up such a tolerance from daily use. How should I deal with my mother being angry at me about my marijuana smoking habits? I greatly appreciate any answers that you can provide me!
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824306 - 06/18/15 04:09 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TripMaster666 said: I am in high school and I live with my mother

She is upset because you are her child and probably not even an adult, plus teenagers are usually dumb with drugs so she probably thinks this is just the start.
Lie and say you don't anymore. That's about all you can do. Or actually quit.
Should of made "jokes" about you smoking weed just to gauge her reaction first so you could know whether it be a horrible idea to tell her in the first place. My parents only cared when I smoked when I was younger because they thought I'd start doing other shit, now I can smoke in my house.
If only they knew they were right and I'd start doing other shit.......
Edited by SirShroomsAlott (06/18/15 04:47 PM)
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824308 - 06/18/15 04:10 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Stop using drugs while you live at home.
Or move out.
Only two options I see here bro.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824314 - 06/18/15 04:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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First of all paragraphs
Second of all why did she have to know?
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824325 - 06/18/15 04:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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first question is are you even 18?
now you gotta live up your life on your own and prove to her that you are gonna be successful. Gotta get a job and buy your own car if she won't do it
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666] 2
#21824350 - 06/18/15 04:17 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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i probably wouldnt bring up again..
some people are like that, just gotta respect that.
idk man. u seem to be doing pretty well for her to worry about ur weed use, but like i said some people just wont understand. just do ur own thing i guess. what momma dont know wont hurt her..
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824360 - 06/18/15 04:20 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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also if ur still in high school u can still get in big trouble if u get caught smoking it. so just keep that in mind, just because it hasnt affected u negatively doesnt mean it can't, cuz there are people out there waiting to arrest a peaceful pot smoker. watch urself my friend.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz] 1
#21824365 - 06/18/15 04:21 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Now you tell her that you take mushrooms too!
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Dont forget about the acid either!
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Weed has never affected me negatively.
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He probably expected us to validate his use and tell him that nothing is wrong with weed and his parents are wrong.
OP I am gonna have to side with Mom on this one. If you want to do illegal narcotics under your parents roof, you need their approval first. I don't care if you think getting high on drugs makes you a better person. Her house, her rules.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824398 - 06/18/15 04:27 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Pot has negatively affected your life! You just explained how it fucked up your life! Because of pot you can't get a car, your relationship with your mother and grandfather is jepardized, and you have hurt people you love! Quit this selfish pattern of drug abuse and get your shit together.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21824401 - 06/18/15 04:27 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824412 - 06/18/15 04:30 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Bu bu bu but momma said....
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824446 - 06/18/15 04:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Roy Orbison
like slim says, 'marajuana is everywhere, where was you brought up?'
idk, it's sad imo that people trip over something such as this..
lol yeah, don't do drugs at home, just drive around n stuff lol good advice ya mamas boys!

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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: MichAnon.ael]
#21824454 - 06/18/15 04:41 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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His mom is probably one of those typical parents. "My kid is special, my kid won't do drugs" and she convinced herself so much that it wasn't a possibilty that it destroyed her world finding out her kid is like every other kid.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824481 - 06/18/15 04:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TripMaster666 said: She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana.
What I just quoted goes to show you that weed has indeed negatively affected your life.
Until you are sustaining yourself financially without any help from her, you can't complain or expect her to understand that weed isn't that bad. She probably won't ever understand, or condone you smoking weed but when you are an adult not dependent on anyone, you don't owe her an explanation. You can do whatever the hell you like at that point.
I also noticed you say something about her not letting you drive. Again, if it's your car that you paid for, pay for insurance and gas, and most importantly are over 18 then she can't "not let you drive."
So how old are you?
Edit: I'm not saying this to be an asshole or to bash weed because I too love the MJ. I'm pointing this out because I had the same train of thought when I still lived with my mom, was under 18, and was dependent on her to live.
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Edited by kr0nik0 (06/18/15 04:50 PM)
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824484 - 06/18/15 04:49 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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what you do next is tell her you didnt know it disappointed her so much so you quit. she probably wont believe you and will always suspect it now but if shes like most moms she'll convince herself you quit so she doesnt have to worry. then just keep smoking or quit while youre young and save a few iq points
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: geffer]
#21824492 - 06/18/15 04:50 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Give your mom a weed brownie OP.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: kr0nik0]
#21824502 - 06/18/15 04:53 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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kr0nik0 said:
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TripMaster666 said: She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana.
What I just quoted goes to show you that weed has indeed negatively affected your life.
That's like saying spoons made me fat.
It wasn't the weed that caused problems, it was his idiotic drama queen mother (no offense op, wasn't the best wording but I don't feel like sitting here trying to find more fitting words).
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: luvdemboomers]
#21824508 - 06/18/15 04:55 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wouldn't call her a drama queen mother though, just a typical worried parent. My parents scolded me like crazy and threatened me and everything in my teens, now I can blow smoke in their face if I wanted to....literally.
She knows he's young, and young usually equals dumb, she's afraid he'll turn to other things most likely, she probably has that old mindset of "gateway drug"
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824516 - 06/18/15 04:57 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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OP is just that typical 17 year old know it all.
Gotta admit, props to Mom for having a no bullshit policy. If he is smoking weed and driving her car and getting high everyday that is a problem.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21824520 - 06/18/15 04:58 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Her insurance would be what covers the bill if he was to destroy god knows what with that car. It would fall back on her.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824527 - 06/18/15 04:59 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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If he keeps the weed in the house too she gets charged with it and it will be on her permanent record.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21824539 - 06/18/15 05:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Now she is going to disown you.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824556 - 06/18/15 05:06 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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SirShroomsAlott said: I wouldn't call her a drama queen mother though, just a typical worried parent. My parents scolded me like crazy and threatened me and everything in my teens, now I can blow smoke in their face if I wanted to....literally.
She knows he's young, and young usually equals dumb, she's afraid he'll turn to other things most likely, she probably has that old mindset of "gateway drug"
yeah I know not the best wording
ignorant and worried worried is probably more fitting
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott] 1
#21824604 - 06/18/15 05:20 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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just tell her u're a member of the shroomery. tell her zZZz got this.
thank me later
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824896 - 06/18/15 06:23 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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He's probably still on her insurance and that's why she can tell him that he can't drive.
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i could understand why she wouldnt let him drive.
u tested the waters op, and u found they were infested with sharks. gotta keep on the down low bro..
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824984 - 06/18/15 06:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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This kind of thread belongs in psychedelic experience.
That is where most of the people underage usually post lol. Not saying OP is under age but he gives off that vibe at little bit.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21825408 - 06/18/15 08:35 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I was in your same situation OP, except I never told my mom, I got a drug test after my bestfriend got caught. Never admit to anything.
When this happened to me I couldn't drive, got my phone turned off, whole 9 yards. I even had an intervention with alot of my family. They then sent me to a drug addict counselor for adults. The counselor thought my family was crazy.
Don't mean to be the bearer of bad news and I'm hoping it doesn't turn out for you like it did for me. Smoking tore the relationship between alot of my family and I, especially my mom. Never really got along after that, always fighting, didn't really get to go out and socialize much anymore either because of how suspicious she was of me. Lost some friends because of that and hurt other relationships.
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Really? No one else is gonna throw this out there?
Your mom loves you OP.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: luvdemboomers]
#21826149 - 06/18/15 11:28 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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kr0nik0 said:
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TripMaster666 said: She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana.
What I just quoted goes to show you that weed has indeed negatively affected your life.
That's like saying spoons made me fat.
It wasn't the weed that caused problems, it was his idiotic drama queen mother (no offense op, wasn't the best wording but I don't feel like sitting here trying to find more fitting words).
Although you do have a point, and I myself love weed to death, it sounds like OP is just being a mom. It might be annoying, it might make him upset but like I said, until he can financially support himself and is legally and adult he has to take her shit.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: kr0nik0]
#21832847 - 06/20/15 03:47 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks for the replies guys! A lot of these replies have been very sobering for me. I am thinking that the best thing right now is to take some serious time off, and focus on school and work. I think it is more important to try to set myself up to succeed academically and financially right now then to try to fight with my mom about weed. Realistically, I know weed is not that bad but it is her house and I have to respect that.
As far as the relationship with my mom and my grandpa goes, I am just trying to play it cool and stay on their good side. If I can stay weed-free (which I can) for about a month or two, all of this stuff will blow over. My brother already got caught with his buddy smoking weed once, and after a couple weeks there was not really that much of an issue. Once again, thanks a lot for the advice guys!
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21832864 - 06/20/15 03:52 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I can't believe that in this day and age some people still think that weed = death...
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21832872 - 06/20/15 03:56 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TripMaster666 said: Thanks for the replies guys! A lot of these replies have been very sobering for me. I am thinking that the best thing right now is to take some serious time off, and focus on school and work. I think it is more important to try to set myself up to succeed academically and financially right now then to try to fight with my mom about weed. Realistically, I know weed is not that bad but it is her house and I have to respect that.
As far as the relationship with my mom and my grandpa goes, I am just trying to play it cool and stay on their good side. If I can stay weed-free (which I can) for about a month or two, all of this stuff will blow over. My brother already got caught with his buddy smoking weed once, and after a couple weeks there was not really that much of an issue. Once again, thanks a lot for the advice guys!

You sound very mature for being in high school. That's probably the best course of action. Chalk it up as a life lesson.
IME drugs don't cause the problems... it's the people that have a problem with drugs that cause them.
Edited by luvdemboomers (06/20/15 03:57 PM)
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