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TripMaster666
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Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what?
#21824283 - 06/18/15 04:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey, I'm brand new to forum but I thought you guys had a lot of good advice to offer. I have been using cannabis for about 1.5-2 years, and I just recently told my mom that I smoke pot. I am in high school and I live with my mother (my father is not in the picture). Over the last two years, I have raised my grades to all A's, started a band, scored a 31 on the act, got accepted into an accelerated high school 2 year college program, kept a steady job working 18-25 hours a week, and played guitar on the church praise band every couple weeks. Weed has obviously not effected my life negatively, and I used this previous information as an example to my mom that I have still remained a good kid. I don't sell or anything like that...I am just a daily marijuana user.
After telling my mom about smoking pot, she got extremely shocked and angry. I explained to her that smoking weed has not negatively effected my life, and that I am still the same person that I have always been. My mother has some emotional/mental issues due to a horrible separation from my father so I don't entirely blame her for getting so upset. She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana. I had to have a serious hour long painful conversation with my grandpa that I can tell has seriously affected our relationship. In addition to all of this, my mom is now not letting me drive and is delaying me being able to purchase a car.
I know that I am not a bad kid. I don't hang out with bad people or anything like that. I play guitar so I like to get high so that I can enjoy my music better. Some of the best songs/lyrics I have written have been when I was completely stoned! I also on occasion go to big rock concerts and take either mushrooms or acid in addition to weed so that I can enjoy the music in a deeper perspective. I am planning on finishing this advanced high school college program that will provide me with a 2 year associates degree. I plan to go on to study law and business at a large college. Marijuana has not negatively affected my life...if anything I think it has helped me.
By writing this post, I guess I am asking what I should do from this point in my life. My mom tells me that if I smoke weed then she won't let me drive or do anything fun. I am considering taking a break at least until August or September just because I have built up such a tolerance from daily use. How should I deal with my mother being angry at me about my marijuana smoking habits? I greatly appreciate any answers that you can provide me!
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824306 - 06/18/15 04:09 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TripMaster666 said: I am in high school and I live with my mother

She is upset because you are her child and probably not even an adult, plus teenagers are usually dumb with drugs so she probably thinks this is just the start.
Lie and say you don't anymore. That's about all you can do. Or actually quit.
Should of made "jokes" about you smoking weed just to gauge her reaction first so you could know whether it be a horrible idea to tell her in the first place. My parents only cared when I smoked when I was younger because they thought I'd start doing other shit, now I can smoke in my house.
If only they knew they were right and I'd start doing other shit.......
Edited by SirShroomsAlott (06/18/15 04:47 PM)
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824308 - 06/18/15 04:10 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Stop using drugs while you live at home.
Or move out.
Only two options I see here bro.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824314 - 06/18/15 04:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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First of all paragraphs
Second of all why did she have to know?
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824325 - 06/18/15 04:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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first question is are you even 18?
now you gotta live up your life on your own and prove to her that you are gonna be successful. Gotta get a job and buy your own car if she won't do it
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666] 2
#21824350 - 06/18/15 04:17 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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i probably wouldnt bring up again..
some people are like that, just gotta respect that.
idk man. u seem to be doing pretty well for her to worry about ur weed use, but like i said some people just wont understand. just do ur own thing i guess. what momma dont know wont hurt her..
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824360 - 06/18/15 04:20 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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also if ur still in high school u can still get in big trouble if u get caught smoking it. so just keep that in mind, just because it hasnt affected u negatively doesnt mean it can't, cuz there are people out there waiting to arrest a peaceful pot smoker. watch urself my friend.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz] 1
#21824365 - 06/18/15 04:21 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Now you tell her that you take mushrooms too!
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SirShroomsAlott
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Dont forget about the acid either!
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Weed has never affected me negatively.
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He probably expected us to validate his use and tell him that nothing is wrong with weed and his parents are wrong.
OP I am gonna have to side with Mom on this one. If you want to do illegal narcotics under your parents roof, you need their approval first. I don't care if you think getting high on drugs makes you a better person. Her house, her rules.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824398 - 06/18/15 04:27 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Pot has negatively affected your life! You just explained how it fucked up your life! Because of pot you can't get a car, your relationship with your mother and grandfather is jepardized, and you have hurt people you love! Quit this selfish pattern of drug abuse and get your shit together.
/sarcasm
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21824401 - 06/18/15 04:27 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: zZZz]
#21824412 - 06/18/15 04:30 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Bu bu bu but momma said....
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824446 - 06/18/15 04:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Roy Orbison
like slim says, 'marajuana is everywhere, where was you brought up?'
idk, it's sad imo that people trip over something such as this..
lol yeah, don't do drugs at home, just drive around n stuff lol good advice ya mamas boys!

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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: MichAnon.ael]
#21824454 - 06/18/15 04:41 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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His mom is probably one of those typical parents. "My kid is special, my kid won't do drugs" and she convinced herself so much that it wasn't a possibilty that it destroyed her world finding out her kid is like every other kid.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: TripMaster666]
#21824481 - 06/18/15 04:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TripMaster666 said: She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana.
What I just quoted goes to show you that weed has indeed negatively affected your life.
Until you are sustaining yourself financially without any help from her, you can't complain or expect her to understand that weed isn't that bad. She probably won't ever understand, or condone you smoking weed but when you are an adult not dependent on anyone, you don't owe her an explanation. You can do whatever the hell you like at that point.
I also noticed you say something about her not letting you drive. Again, if it's your car that you paid for, pay for insurance and gas, and most importantly are over 18 then she can't "not let you drive."
So how old are you?
Edit: I'm not saying this to be an asshole or to bash weed because I too love the MJ. I'm pointing this out because I had the same train of thought when I still lived with my mom, was under 18, and was dependent on her to live.
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Edited by kr0nik0 (06/18/15 04:50 PM)
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: SirShroomsAlott]
#21824484 - 06/18/15 04:49 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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what you do next is tell her you didnt know it disappointed her so much so you quit. she probably wont believe you and will always suspect it now but if shes like most moms she'll convince herself you quit so she doesnt have to worry. then just keep smoking or quit while youre young and save a few iq points
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: geffer]
#21824492 - 06/18/15 04:50 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Give your mom a weed brownie OP.
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Re: Just told my mom that I smoke weed...now what? [Re: kr0nik0]
#21824502 - 06/18/15 04:53 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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kr0nik0 said:
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TripMaster666 said: She tried to tell me that now she has lost me as her son and that my father won by leaving her. Instead of keeping this new information about me to herself, she went and told my grandfather (45+ years as a sheriffs deputy) that I smoke marijuana.
What I just quoted goes to show you that weed has indeed negatively affected your life.
That's like saying spoons made me fat.
It wasn't the weed that caused problems, it was his idiotic drama queen mother (no offense op, wasn't the best wording but I don't feel like sitting here trying to find more fitting words).
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