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Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years
#21823152 - 06/18/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...
So i found her in a directory and got her address...
Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .
What else you guys think i should add to the letter?
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 5
#21823167 - 06/18/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So you want to be a homewrecker?
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 2
#21823176 - 06/18/15 11:11 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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desant said: I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...
So i found her in a directory and got her address...
Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .
What else you guys think i should add to the letter?
I think she blocked you
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Beanhead]
#21823181 - 06/18/15 11:14 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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yeah its gonna be super tough to hit her up and not make it seem like ur trying to get laid
specially if shes the only one youre hitting up and you told her that
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 5
#21823186 - 06/18/15 11:17 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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desant said: I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...
So i found her in a directory and got her address...
Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .
What else you guys think i should add to the letter?
I think you should throw it away
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] 2
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You probably should just forget that idea and find some new friends.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: stratocast]
#21823517 - 06/18/15 01:00 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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How long have you been outta high school OP?
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: stratocast]
#21823810 - 06/18/15 02:10 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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15 years, its in the title of this thread 
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stratocast said: You probably should just forget that idea and find some new friends. 
Nah i still think about my high school buddies, and beside this chick KNOWS me and knows me well, she not gonna think im hitting on her or anything like that
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
#21823818 - 06/18/15 02:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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But unfortunately her husband might think that
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
#21823823 - 06/18/15 02:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So do u think its a bad idea
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
#21823836 - 06/18/15 02:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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If you ever cherished that friendship, keep the memories and let her be. I can guarantee that sending this letter is not going to work how you think it will.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
#21823837 - 06/18/15 02:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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It's either a great idea or a terrible idea. No in between on that one. If you feel that you can be friends with her without falling for her again, then maybe it's worth it.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
#21823901 - 06/18/15 02:31 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Drumdude27 said: It's either a great idea or a terrible idea. No in between on that one. If you feel that you can be friends with her without falling for her again, then maybe it's worth it.
I hope u right
Burke Dennings , you might be right too...
Im uncertain... even if i send her the letter, whats the worst that can happen? She puts it in a bin. But i doubt that since we were close friends so something might come out of this
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
#21823915 - 06/18/15 02:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thats a long time ago. She probably changed a lot.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: twelvelookslikeu]
#21823935 - 06/18/15 02:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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it's a terrible idea. but you'll do it anyway, so when you write it, make sure you know the difference between you're and your, to avoid looking illiterate.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 2
#21823942 - 06/18/15 02:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
I think you should throw it away
either this, or take any reference to "rekindling a friendship" out of it.
just send a greeting letter or something, ask about things...life...what have you. if she brings it up, then cool....otherwise, you're kinda coming off a bit hasty
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
#21824155 - 06/18/15 03:32 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
#21824182 - 06/18/15 03:41 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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If you say "I know you're married and don't want to start trouble." She is going to think you're stalking her and trying to fuck her. It also sounds like you're just looking for anybody from High School and she was your only option. I've had ex-gf's contact me and they just said something like "I wanted to see how you're doing." Then later they slowly started to ask if I was married or available.
Maybe say something like this.
Hi this is Desant. I was thinking about all the fun we had in H.S. and wanted to say hello and see how you're doing
Or whatever you want, you know her better than us, but your original letter wouldn't fly with my ex gfs.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 1
#21827156 - 06/19/15 08:23 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I would make spelling and grammar impeccable (like correcting "your" to 'you're), don't write about 're lighting' anything (ignition means passion), and be honest, you are not and your interest in her is completely transparent). She is just anyone to you, and what's more, you could probably find your class at Classmates.com. My wife doesn't like the fact that I reunited by phone with the girl I fell deeply in love with in college and never forgot, especially since she has been a sex-worker her entire life. But when my old girlfriend came to South Florida, she made excuses not to see me because she knew I wasn't going to cheat on my wife. Better for you to express yourself honestly about your feelings (I did that with the girl I had a crush on in high school at a reunion. My wife is extraordinarily patient, but she also knows that I am faithful). In THAT instance, the woman got the wrong idea (after I gushed about her), and e-mailed me about visiting my city. When I did not indicate I'd be interested in leaving my wife for her, she cut me off and never responded to further e-mails. She was not interested in being friends after her years of divorce and dating. Just sharing my perceptions.
Keep it in the past, or share your past feelings. They will not raise an intimidating red flag to her and she may decide to reciprocate. Wish her much happiness in her life. Being happy for others is rare. Most people experience deficiencies which come out in these attempts. For me, I've made a hobby of contacting former girls from high school including older ones who I would never have spoken with, just to share what I remember of them and to compliment them. I've never been rebuffed for that, it's always been received in the spirit of me getting closure with my karmic attachments (even if they didn't think of it that way). In other words, if your motive is pure, it's well-received.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
#21827169 - 06/19/15 08:27 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quote:
1234go said:
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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
I think you should throw it away
either this, or take any reference to "rekindling a friendship" out of it.
just send a greeting letter or something, ask about things...life...what have you. if she brings it up, then cool....otherwise, you're kinda coming off a bit hasty
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: SoupSandwich]
#21827182 - 06/19/15 08:31 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So how do you envision this rekindled friendship? I think it might be a bit utopic.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: GoldenEye]
#21827195 - 06/19/15 08:35 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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For me, I've made a hobby of contacting former girls from high school including older ones who I would never have spoken with, just to share what I remember of them and to compliment them.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: GoldenEye] 1
#21827201 - 06/19/15 08:38 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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"made a hobby of"
strangeness up in here....
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
#21827209 - 06/19/15 08:42 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'd hate to be his wife...
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: GoldenEye]
#21827211 - 06/19/15 08:44 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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For serious...
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
#21827218 - 06/19/15 08:47 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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A little jealousy is a great aphrodisiac.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: SoupSandwich] 1
#21827257 - 06/19/15 08:57 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: SoupSandwich]
#21827267 - 06/19/15 09:00 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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In the original post you said you'd tell her she is the only classmate you found. Is that really true? Did you try to find others as hard as you searched for her? Or are you trying to come off as less creepy?
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: stratocast] 1
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Or an unforeseen outcome of her falling in love with him upon meeting.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: LoveNaborFuckHater] 1
#21827357 - 06/19/15 09:32 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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"I've been waiting 15 years for you to call..."
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: SoupSandwich]
#21827425 - 06/19/15 09:57 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fuck, I´m going to have to watch some porn now.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: GoldenEye] 1
#21829692 - 06/19/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Being happy for others is common, and normal, it is the basic and natural way that humans are.
Dear desant,
can appreciate your feelings - they are quite universal.
Healing over loss or pain is a similar process, whether that pain is loss of a beloved one, loss of someone cutting you out of their life - or so many other things.
Let her go, let her go - even if you gave a part of your heart to her;
your heart is still whole; and when you get to harmony and peace, things will start to flow more easily and naturally.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] 2
#21830046 - 06/19/15 09:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Im uncertain... even if i send her the letter, whats the worst that can happen? She puts it in a bin. But i doubt that since we were close friends so something might come out of this 
I stayed away from this one but Cmon dude you were close friends like 15 years ago and now you think something may come of it? Yeah maybe a stalking charge. Get your wits about you man. Nothing good can come of your plan.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21830058 - 06/19/15 09:03 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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You and me think just alike
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: once in a lifetime]
#21830067 - 06/19/15 09:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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once in a lifetime said: Being happy for others is common, and normal, it is the basic and natural way that humans are.
Dear desant,
can appreciate your feelings - they are quite universal.
Healing over loss or pain is a similar process, whether that pain is loss of a beloved one, loss of someone cutting you out of their life - or so many other things.
Let her go, let her go - even if you gave a part of your heart to her;
your heart is still whole; and when you get to harmony and peace, things will start to flow more easily and naturally.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#21830080 - 06/19/15 09:09 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Terrible idea OP. Don't rekindle online.
You'll be insulted either when she doesn't remember you or chooses to ignore you. And it will come across as very weird and creepy.
I suggest you show up at her work and do it in person. Much more sentimental.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Detached]
#21830088 - 06/19/15 09:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Detached]
#21830140 - 06/19/15 09:22 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Detached said: Terrible idea OP. Don't rekindle online.
You'll be insulted either when she doesn't remember you or chooses to ignore you. And it will come across as very weird and creepy.
I suggest you show up at her work and do it in person. Much more sentimental.
You worry about doing your brakes There's plenty there to keep you occupied.
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21830147 - 06/19/15 09:24 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
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once in a lifetime said: Being happy for others is common, and normal, it is the basic and natural way that humans are.
Dear desant,
can appreciate your feelings - they are quite universal.
Healing over loss or pain is a similar process, whether that pain is loss of a beloved one, loss of someone cutting you out of their life - or so many other things.
Let her go, let her go - even if you gave a part of your heart to her;
your heart is still whole; and when you get to harmony and peace, things will start to flow more easily and naturally.

Yeah, gay is right I +1'ed it Lifetime
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#21830428 - 06/19/15 10:31 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Op it's been 15 yrs time to go for broke. Convey your thoughts to her through a singing telegram, it will be less awkward than some creepy impersonal letter. With this strategy your friendship will more than likely start again where it left off. Fuck them doubters, this will work. Go for it OP
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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: billy jowl]
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Op, where's our update?
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#21844455 - 06/23/15 01:43 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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He's been busy.
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